53. Transurfing Principles pt. 6

1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:06,800 So the big question is this, how do young men like us who didn't listen to society, 2 00:00:06,800 --> 00:00:12,000 who are on our own, how do we grow and improve ourselves so that we can live a 3 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:19,680 better tomorrow? That is the question and this show gave you the answers. My name is 4 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:33,640 James Reidsinski and welcome to the Ascent Momentum Show. Welcome back. So last episode was 5 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:41,760 Transurfing Principles Part 5 and I said it wouldn't be the next episode but here it is. 6 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:51,080 Transurfing Principles Part 6. So if you're new here, the way this will work is I'm going to be 7 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:58,840 teaching or not teaching but I'm just going to be talking about some of the notes that I took 8 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:07,600 while reading Transurfing or while reading while studying. So I read a book called Reality 9 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:15,880 Transurfing by Vadam Zelen, parts 1 through 5 and that book has absolutely changed my life. 10 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:21,960 And so I read it once and then I'm actually reading it a second time through this time. 11 00:01:21,960 --> 00:01:30,080 I'm studying so I'm taking a lot of notes and with that a lot of notes I review the notes. 12 00:01:30,080 --> 00:01:40,360 So I go back over the past week or so and then review some of the stuff that I wrote down and 13 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:47,680 then I rewrite the most important ones from the past week. And then I just consolidate them all 14 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:56,920 until like 15 pages maybe because when I say I write a lot, I write a lot. I probably bought an 15 00:01:56,920 --> 00:02:07,200 entire journal, an entire big notebook. It's like a classic spiral notebook size but it's in the 16 00:02:07,200 --> 00:02:13,040 journal format so it's not a spiral notebook but it's the size of a spiral notebook. Maybe it's 17 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:19,160 even a little bigger I don't know but it and I write a lot and I'm already halfway like I've 18 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:28,720 filled up the entire journal halfway already. So I write a lot and so I have a lot of notes and 19 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:38,000 my review from the past week is 15 pages long and I had to split it into two episodes. So yesterday 20 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:45,120 was the first episode and then today is gonna be the second and the last for this past week since 21 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:53,480 Transurfing Principles part four at least. So all of these notes like most of these notes are 22 00:02:53,480 --> 00:03:02,160 word-for-word copied from the book Reality Transurfing parts one through five by Vadim Zellin. So a lot 23 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:09,320 of these words are not my own but I will be saying the quote and then talking on it speaking on it. 24 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:17,720 That's how it will work. So all that said let's get straight into it. People are exclusively 25 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:25,760 interested in themselves so be interested in them too. So this is from the chapter on Frailing 26 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:32,720 and Frailing is basically whenever you're in conversation or whenever you're basically interacting 27 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:39,920 with anyone. Everyone is always just like interested in their own things. They're all worried about 28 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:46,000 their own thoughts, their own desires and what they can get from the other person. So if you can 29 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:52,960 attune to that person's frequency and become interested in them then they will love you so 30 00:03:52,960 --> 00:04:01,760 much for it and they will be they will be of such high regard for you and they will basically the 31 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:08,640 experience will be so much better and you'll be able to get essentially if you fulfill their 32 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:13,800 desires and help them out with their stuff then they will be more inclined to help you with yours. 33 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:22,200 Your positive qualities and failings are not of your partner's concern. The sense of self-worth 34 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:31,320 they experience when talking to you is their utmost priority. Alright so as a general rule of thumb 35 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:39,400 during conversation people are not thinking about your positive qualities or their your like 36 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:46,040 downsides or your flaws. They're basically whether this is conscious or subconsciously they're 37 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:54,480 basically usually it's subconsciously there. Essentially what they're doing is they're determining 38 00:04:54,480 --> 00:05:01,920 whether you're fulfilling their self-worth. So if you're helping them raise their self their 39 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:10,920 sense of self-worth and if you can help them experience higher self higher a higher sense 40 00:05:10,920 --> 00:05:18,480 of self-worth while they're talking to you then they're gonna regard you higher. So they're basically 41 00:05:18,480 --> 00:05:26,840 gonna be more inclined to be your partner or be your friend be whatever and or help you out and 42 00:05:26,840 --> 00:05:36,000 they're not necessarily worried about your positive qualities or your negatives. When talking to 43 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:43,640 someone and displaying an interest in them do it with sincerity. So this goes along with when you 44 00:05:43,640 --> 00:05:48,920 are talking to people and you're just trying to follow the principles but you're kind of faking 45 00:05:48,920 --> 00:05:54,680 it and you're trying to have a good like you're trying to influence people you're trying to follow 46 00:05:54,680 --> 00:06:02,080 all of the relationship principles to a T but you're faking it and it's obvious they're gonna 47 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:08,000 tell they're gonna be able to tell and they're gonna they're gonna sense that you're faking it 48 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:13,800 and that's something behind they're out for a ulterior motive you have an ulterior motive 49 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:23,840 excuse me so when you're when you're doing all these principles do it with sincerity and it's 50 00:06:23,840 --> 00:06:32,760 actually this might come up later like I might read this out loud later but if you have if you 51 00:06:32,760 --> 00:06:44,400 ever had a pet like a dog a pet dog they are always so happy to see you and they unconditionally 52 00:06:44,400 --> 00:06:51,560 love you so every single time you see your dog they always get so excited to see you and that's 53 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:57,120 why we love our dogs that's why I love our pets because they are so excited to see us all the 54 00:06:57,120 --> 00:07:05,440 time so if you can simply just do that in real life to other humans then they will like that 55 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:16,080 will be very big for you that would be very beneficial present tasks to people in the context 56 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:23,800 of how it would increase their self-worth alright so if you're a boss like if you're a boss and 57 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:30,840 you have employees and you have to get them to do something you could just say do this or 58 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:35,880 you're fired yeah you could do that and that's basically like the inner intention so that's 59 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:43,680 like that you trying to force your will on other people and they will probably do the action but 60 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:50,920 they won't regard you too highly of it because of it and then over time it may like wear off like 61 00:07:50,920 --> 00:08:07,880 that that that rat may wear off over time so when you are trying to get someone to do something 62 00:08:07,880 --> 00:08:16,720 try and figure out what their innermost self like what raises their self a sense of self-worth so 63 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:26,480 one example is when if you come across a group of boys and they're like competitive and you want 64 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:35,480 them to do some chores or something like that say alright so who of you is the best at washing the 65 00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:43,360 dishes who of you can wash the dishes the fastest or wash the dishes with the most quality so that 66 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:53,840 kind of presents the task in the context of their self that's their self-worth they are very 67 00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:59,920 competitive amongst each other so it will raise their sense of self-worth if they complete that 68 00:08:59,920 --> 00:09:06,000 task because it'll be competitive and they're trying to compete with the other all their friends 69 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:17,840 encouragement is a true driver in human relationships so never criticize anyone when when you 70 00:09:17,840 --> 00:09:26,720 criticize someone you are basically I mean you are basically just saying that you are superior 71 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:33,760 to them and they messed up you're saying it to their face no one wants that if you've ever 72 00:09:33,760 --> 00:09:40,960 been criticized you know how it feels whether consciously or subconsciously you begin to kind 73 00:09:40,960 --> 00:09:49,040 of despise that person and encouragement is basically the opposite of that when you encourage 74 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:54,320 someone you're like pushing them along and you're actually helping them and you're like 75 00:09:54,320 --> 00:10:02,640 motivating them and it's like the opposite of criticism never blame anyone so when you blame 76 00:10:02,640 --> 00:10:10,640 someone even if they did it you are basically saying that they did something wrong and people are fine 77 00:10:11,520 --> 00:10:18,960 saying that admitting to themselves that they did something wrong they're fine saying to themselves 78 00:10:18,960 --> 00:10:25,760 that they did something wrong but if it comes from somebody else well then that's a completely 79 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:34,880 different story it's like an ego does not want to hear it from someone else kind of like that 80 00:10:36,480 --> 00:10:42,800 criticism makes the heart an enemy of the mind encourage encouragement makes it an ally 81 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:50,080 so when you criticize even when you're criticizing yourself you're basically criticizing your heart 82 00:10:50,080 --> 00:11:00,000 and when you are criticizing your heart that's your mind basically saying so everyone has a 83 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:05,920 heart and a mind the mind is the left side of the brain and the heart is the right side of the brain 84 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:14,160 and the mind basically uses logic it perceives and analyze data from the external world 85 00:11:14,160 --> 00:11:22,160 and it like takes in information and then it uses logic and language and reasoning and then 86 00:11:24,320 --> 00:11:33,040 the heart the right side listens to everything the left side says like unequivocally I don't know 87 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:41,360 if I use that word right but it basically use it listens to the left side and does it like without 88 00:11:41,360 --> 00:11:49,200 any so if the left side says your left leg feels numb to the right side then your left leg will 89 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:55,040 start to feel numb that's basically it does it without like analyzing whether it's practical or not 90 00:11:55,600 --> 00:12:00,960 just doesn't no matter what but when you criticize that's basically your left side 91 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:11,760 criticizing your right side then that will it will start to place a divide like it will start to create 92 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:18,480 a barrier or put up a wall between the left side and the right side and you do not want half of your 93 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:25,600 brain being an enemy with the other half like that's just basic common sense you don't want 94 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:32,480 to only have half of your brain you want to use and be able to capably you want to have 100% of 95 00:12:32,480 --> 00:12:40,000 your brain so it's just simple simple math do you want 50% or do you want 100% I think you would 96 00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:48,800 want 100% it's more optimal winning an argument is like delivering a blow to their sense of self-worth 97 00:12:48,800 --> 00:12:56,800 all right so this is huge first of all arguments are never end up anywhere even if you win the other 98 00:12:56,800 --> 00:13:05,600 person still may think that they're right or even if you successfully convince them on the surface 99 00:13:05,600 --> 00:13:12,640 that they're wrong they will never forgive you for that you're basically saying that I'm right 100 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:20,880 I'm better than you and you're wrong and you're worse and they're never gonna forget of that argument 101 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:28,480 and they're never gonna forgive you it's always gonna be a subconscious like they're always 102 00:13:28,480 --> 00:13:36,640 subconsciously gonna be remembering that argument and then it will do it destroys their sense of self-worth 103 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:45,600 their sense of self-worth set the tone of conversation to agreement all right so you want 104 00:13:46,720 --> 00:13:51,760 to get your let's say you want to get your way obviously you want to get your way do not try and 105 00:13:51,760 --> 00:13:59,600 just start off the bat imposing your will set the tone to agreement so the next one is actually 106 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:07,360 start a conversation in such a way that the first word someone says is yes so when you when you 107 00:14:07,360 --> 00:14:13,280 start the conversation you can start off light be like oh did you see like the bears one last night 108 00:14:13,280 --> 00:14:19,440 or something like that and they're like yes and they start agreeing with you and then keep getting 109 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:25,200 them to agree with you more and more and more so then that like basically takes down their walls 110 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:33,440 of of their defensive walls and then when they agree with you on that you can slowly start to 111 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:39,760 shift the conversation over to the topic that you actually want to talk about like that promotion 112 00:14:39,760 --> 00:14:46,160 you want to get a promotion or you want to get something from someone and then slowly start to 113 00:14:46,160 --> 00:14:52,320 get there and then they're gonna be agreeing with you so they're gonna let up their defenses and be 114 00:14:52,320 --> 00:15:00,240 more agreeable and then eventually once you ask them hey can I get a promotion there'll be way more 115 00:15:00,240 --> 00:15:13,040 likely to say yes and even this still works even without having that like even without trying to 116 00:15:13,040 --> 00:15:19,120 get something from someone if you just want to get your point across still get them to say yes 117 00:15:19,120 --> 00:15:26,320 because if you're trying to explain something or teach something to someone then you don't want them 118 00:15:26,320 --> 00:15:31,600 to be saying no and having their walls up and protecting themselves from all this information 119 00:15:32,240 --> 00:15:38,480 you want them to be open and vulnerable to this information so it'll help them or help you move 120 00:15:38,480 --> 00:15:46,560 forward and you can help help each other move forward in the relationship as well come forward 121 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:52,960 in admitting your mistake all right so this is huge whenever you make a mistake and someone else 122 00:15:52,960 --> 00:15:59,680 knows it they're probably gonna come up to you and like talk to you about it or try and criticize 123 00:15:59,680 --> 00:16:07,920 you about it or something like that and most of the time the person making the mistake tries to 124 00:16:07,920 --> 00:16:16,240 defend themselves but the better option is once that person comes up to you or even you go up to 125 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:25,040 them and just straight up just admit your mistake and admit that you made a mistake and then admit 126 00:16:25,040 --> 00:16:32,560 that you did bad basically and they will love you forever they will basically be like oh wow this 127 00:16:32,560 --> 00:16:38,080 person is awesome they just admitted their mistake now I don't have to like talk to them and now I 128 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:47,200 don't have to get into this argument it's just this there's a whole psychological side to it giving 129 00:16:47,200 --> 00:16:53,280 your full attention is the most important aspect to attuning to your partner's frequency so when 130 00:16:53,280 --> 00:17:00,240 you are in conversation and you're just conversing with people always give your full attention and 131 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:06,400 that does not just mean making eye contact when you're giving your full attention you are not 132 00:17:06,400 --> 00:17:12,560 thinking about your own thoughts at all you are completely thinking about their thoughts their 133 00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:21,840 desires their topic when you're you can give someone your full attention but still be focusing on 134 00:17:21,840 --> 00:17:27,760 your own things like a lot of times I am in a conversation and I'm thinking oh what should I 135 00:17:27,760 --> 00:17:34,960 say next what should I ask what should I what should I do next no always focus 100% on their thing 136 00:17:34,960 --> 00:17:43,680 just basically attune to their frequency of their thought energy a person's name is the simplest 137 00:17:43,680 --> 00:17:53,360 key to that their frequency so this is huge let me tell you a quick story I read how to win friends 138 00:17:53,360 --> 00:18:03,360 and influence people um by Dale Carnegie and that book talked about giving people's names and a lot 139 00:18:03,360 --> 00:18:11,520 of these um a lot of this stuff in Fralene chapter on Transurfing is in how to win friends and influence 140 00:18:11,520 --> 00:18:24,080 others so the they're both say always say their name always remember their name the name is something 141 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:29,680 so special to someone because throughout their entire life that's what they've been referred to as 142 00:18:29,680 --> 00:18:34,800 that's like that is who they are that's their identity they intertwine their identity with their 143 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:44,480 name so if you say their name then you like automatically get their goodwill and this is huge 144 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:54,080 because I actually I was aware of this like psychology or I was aware of this fact and 145 00:18:54,080 --> 00:19:01,360 and so I would make it a point to always say people's names but then I kind of developed this 146 00:19:01,360 --> 00:19:08,400 like guilt complex or like me feeling bad for people because if I suspected that they didn't 147 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:14,880 know my name I didn't want to say their name not because I was trying to get back at them 148 00:19:14,880 --> 00:19:19,840 but because I didn't want to make them feel bad that they don't know my name does that make sense 149 00:19:19,840 --> 00:19:26,880 so I would avoid saying their name if I suspected they didn't know my name but a lot of the times 150 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:37,840 that backfired because they actually did know my name or I just like didn't they didn't know my name 151 00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:51,280 or I just didn't um I just blanked well it's I would do that but it's actually good to say 152 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:57,280 their name like just say their name because don't try and avoid hurting their feelings they would 153 00:19:57,280 --> 00:20:00,800 it would make them feel a lot better if you did say their name even if they forgot yours 154 00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:07,440 just unconditionally say their name and then there's another reason if I think that they have 155 00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:13,600 higher status than me I sometimes I feel like I'm not worthy saying their name like there's some 156 00:20:14,960 --> 00:20:21,440 if I feel that they have higher status than me then I feel I'm not worthy to say their name 157 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:30,000 but it's a it's bad like that's bad you should always say their name every single time and I 158 00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:35,280 still struggle with this to this day I still feel like I don't deserve to say their name 159 00:20:35,280 --> 00:20:39,520 which just doesn't make any sense it's like it does not make any sense 160 00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:52,080 we love our pets so much because they are always happy to see us so I touch I talked about this 161 00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:59,680 before but when you can come up to someone and be like hey John hey John like and actually be really 162 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:06,480 excited like so good to see you today John and like say their name attune to their frequency 163 00:21:06,480 --> 00:21:13,760 and be excited like show your joy like you don't have to be like obsessive like our dogs are like 164 00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:21,920 our dogs always like get so excited they jump for joy and they like jump around sometimes they like 165 00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:28,880 scream and like get super excited you don't have to be to that extent you can just like show that 166 00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:40,000 you appreciate that you you see them show someone how happy you are to see them yep that goes along 167 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:48,320 with what I just said attention and participation in a dialogue must be genuine so people can tell 168 00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:54,880 if you have an ulterior motive if you're not genuine they can tell and that will go back on 169 00:21:54,880 --> 00:22:00,880 you because they'll be thinking oh this guy's only out for himself like like everyone else 170 00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:08,480 and so if if you are getting someone to think that you're only out for yourself you do not want 171 00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:16,160 that just use common sense never tell anyone to their face that they are wrong that is huge 172 00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:24,400 so there's this I haven't really been studying it but just kind of passively over the time 173 00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:31,440 I've gotten very attuned to people's egos and it's like a thing that I've been 174 00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:38,080 focusing on not focusing on but it's this thing that I've been passively getting better at and 175 00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:45,680 it's avoiding to hurt other people's egos because if you hurt someone's egos that will never end up 176 00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:52,000 positive for you and always try and lower your ego and always never never hurt other people's 177 00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:57,600 egos and that's that's basically when you tell someone to their face that they're wrong that is 178 00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:05,600 destroying their ego and usually it ends in an argument or sometimes they if it ends in an argument 179 00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:13,920 that's bad but an even worse outcome is they accept it and what happens then is they go back 180 00:23:15,120 --> 00:23:20,800 into their on their own and they start thinking about you and they start like getting mad and bad 181 00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:27,120 thoughts come up whether it's consciously or subconsciously like they you hurt their ego 182 00:23:27,120 --> 00:23:37,920 and they will not forget leave other people's negative slides alone so a negative slide is 183 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:47,280 a slide is basically a warped picture of reality so one of the best examples that I can think of 184 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:57,440 right now is let's say you think you're ugly then you see the world under that lens so when you're 185 00:23:57,440 --> 00:24:03,440 walking around and you see people looking at you you're being like oh they think that I'm so ugly 186 00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:11,040 they're staring I mean they think they're I'm ugly and then you see two people laughing they then you 187 00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:17,520 think oh these people are laughing at me because I'm so ugly and even though they are not laughing 188 00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:24,880 about you and the other people are not staring at you and that's basically a negative slide so 189 00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:32,000 and usually when people have a negative slide they like I forgot the word was but basically they 190 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:39,920 impose it onto others in a sense where if they think they're ugly they will try and hide that fact 191 00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:48,160 that they think they're ugly and they will try to like call other people ugly or like basically 192 00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:55,040 put their own slide onto other people and so if you notice that other people have a negative slide 193 00:24:55,040 --> 00:25:01,920 never talk don't talk to them about it do not even do not even mention it just leave it alone 194 00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:10,480 because that's a huge that's very damaging to the EU you have the right to choose and if you make an 195 00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:18,320 order sooner or later it will be delivered so this is all about the world the world is like a restaurant 196 00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:25,440 once you make your order as long as you don't cancel it or do anything dumb to prevent it from 197 00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:33,680 coming it will come to you sooner or later even if so in a restaurant even if the service is bad 198 00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:38,640 you know that the your order is going to come eventually even if the service is bad 199 00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:49,200 so the world is just like that once you make your order then it will be delivered and especially 200 00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:53,200 if you follow the principles of transferring it will happen faster it will be delivered faster 201 00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:59,360 picture that your goal has already been achieved so when you are visualizing 202 00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:06,000 always picture that it's already been achieved and attune your frequency your thought energy 203 00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:11,440 make sure your thought energy aligns with the fact that you've already achieved your goal 204 00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:18,000 so throughout the day you should be thinking oh i'm already a millionaire and basically what 205 00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:24,960 that is doing is it's sending the order to the universe and it's basically saying that you're 206 00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:31,680 already a millionaire so but when you're not since you're not a millionaire in reality the world will 207 00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:39,680 be like oh this is this is like this person's thought energy is manifesting a different thing so it 208 00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:45,120 will give you what you're basically thinking of over time it will not happen instantly but 209 00:26:45,120 --> 00:26:52,240 it will happen over time it's the same as dreaming when you're dreaming it happens instantly that's 210 00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:58,880 because material realization or material realization in the material world in reality right now 211 00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:05,760 is inert so it takes a little bit longer a while longer than it does in dreaming 212 00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:14,080 when you set yourself several goals you spread yourself too thin so this is one of the things 213 00:27:14,080 --> 00:27:20,080 the issues that i had during the summer i set myself the goal of going to florida but also 214 00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:29,280 i set myself another goal of moving to hawaii and that was spreading me way too thin so if you've 215 00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:35,600 ever swam in a pool have you ever tried to swim in two directions it's impossible most people have 216 00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:40,400 not even tried because they know that's just impossible like there's no point of even trying 217 00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:46,880 i've never even tried it and i doubt i bet most people listening to this have not tried it as well 218 00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:55,120 and the world is just like that if you try and spread your if you try and swim in different 219 00:27:55,120 --> 00:27:59,920 directions towards different goals it's not going to happen you're spreading yourself way too thin 220 00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:06,480 and it's just like swimming in in the water you can get all these goals you just have to swim to 221 00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:11,200 one at each time swim to the first one and then swim to the next one and then swim to the third one 222 00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:19,760 there is no need to be shy or hold back when goal setting okay so this is 223 00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:24,880 we can get whatever we want in life so there's a reason why 224 00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:34,000 billionaires like if you were raised in a billionaire environment or a millionaire environment 225 00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:40,160 you're gonna have you're gonna be set for life that's because your worldview is thinking oh the 226 00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:46,720 world takes care of me so i don't have to worry about money ever i can get whatever i want but if 227 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:54,720 you were raised in a poor environment you think that oh i don't i have to work for what i want or 228 00:28:54,720 --> 00:29:00,320 the world doesn't is not gonna not necessarily take yeah basically the world doesn't take care of me 229 00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:07,040 but it works the opposite if the rich person all of a sudden thought that the world didn't take care 230 00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:11,840 of them then they would be in the poor person situation and the same works in the opposite 231 00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:16,080 direction if the poor person all of a sudden thought that the world took care of them then they 232 00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:27,040 would get into the rich person situation and so when let's just say okay so the world which is a 233 00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:36,560 world which is a synonym in my case in this case for god so or the higher powers so the higher powers 234 00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:42,080 it makes no they if they they've created all of the universe all of eternity everything 235 00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:50,080 so they're infinite so do you think that it would make any difference if you were to ask them 236 00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:59,440 for a newspaper or a massive mansion do you think it would be any difference if you're asking 237 00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:05,600 infinity for a newspaper or a mansion no it would not make any difference now we're not asking 238 00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:13,920 the higher powers for anything because they gave us the the right to choose 239 00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:19,760 and that's the greatest gift of all we get to choose what we want so we don't have to ask for 240 00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:24,640 them and actually it's not good to ask for them because that that is basically us saying oh i'm 241 00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:34,720 so important that i think the higher power will actually listen to me the or i think that the 242 00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:40,560 higher power will actually give me what i want when in reality we have the right to choose we can 243 00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:46,080 just go out they gave us the right to choose they gave us the right to go out and get that thing 244 00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:52,320 we can go out and get the newspaper or we can go out and get the mansion it's as simple as that and 245 00:30:53,760 --> 00:31:00,080 when you're setting a goal there's no need to be shy or hold yourself out hold yourself back because 246 00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:09,040 you can get whatever you want and that's one thing when i was originally my original plan to 247 00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:17,840 move to hawaii came into fruition i was thinking oh i'm just going to get like a 400 000 house that's 248 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:23,120 really close to the beach and it's going to be a one it's going to be a modest house that was my 249 00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:33,280 goal just by that then live modestly but no it makes no difference between that and between the world 250 00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:40,720 manifesting that or the world manifesting a mansion so now i'm thinking oh i'm just going to get a 251 00:31:40,720 --> 00:31:51,360 mansion and live lavishly so don't don't hold back because you're gonna if okay so let me let me give 252 00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:57,920 you this hypothetical hypothetical if you if i could tell you that there's a hundred percent 253 00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:06,560 guarantee chance of success in you achieving your goals would you set yourself if you knew that you 254 00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:12,960 would a hundred percent guarantee succeed in this next goal you you were trying to go for would you 255 00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:24,480 set that goal to be a modest one room house or would you set that goal to be a massive mansion 256 00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:33,600 with fully stocked of food lavish living luxury and so mind you both of these will a hundred 257 00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:39,840 percent come to true it you just have to you have to choose so would you choose the one bedroom apartment 258 00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:44,640 or would you choose the mansion yeah i would probably choose the mansion as well 259 00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:52,080 so and it's the same thing with the world just choose choose what you get exactly what you choose 260 00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:58,320 and when you read trans surfing and you learn all the trans surfing principles and you apply them 261 00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:04,640 you'll learn that you'll learn how to do that all basically all you have to do to have the freedom 262 00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:10,880 of choice is to end the battle with the pendulums so release your grip of control drop importance 263 00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:17,840 conscious be consciously aware know the game know the rules of the game break the rules 264 00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:25,200 and move one foot and forward in front of the other and always keep the target slide in mind 265 00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:33,760 if you can allow yourself to have you will get whatever you want how it happens should not 266 00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:42,960 concern you so that is that's huge all my life i did not allow myself to live uh or not that i 267 00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:51,760 didn't allow myself to have like nice things basically i was right i grew up in middle class 268 00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:58,160 and so i had the middle class mindset middle class mentality i only allowed myself to have 269 00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:05,600 middle class items but if you can allow yourself all you have to do is allow yourself to have 270 00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:15,440 a mansion that's all there is to it your worldview your perception of your place in this world 271 00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:21,120 determines your lot in life determines what you get determines the outcomes 272 00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:30,080 but when you allow yourself to have the mansion how that happens how you actually get that mansion 273 00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:36,000 should not concern you do not be worried about how it happens that's the world's job the world is in 274 00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:41,280 charge of getting it to you the world knows how to get it to you and that's the world is the only 275 00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:46,320 thing that should know the path towards that you don't have to do it you just have to keep 276 00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:49,600 putting one foot in front of the other and then the world will help you along the way 277 00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:57,120 you do not have to justify your actions to yourself or to the two others 278 00:34:57,120 --> 00:35:01,920 that is kind of like a guilt complex so 279 00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:10,400 guilt is extremely destructive never feel guilty guilt never works out for good 280 00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:15,520 and you don't have to justify anything to anyone or yourself 281 00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:23,680 no one and no thing can prevent you from reaching your goals 282 00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:28,960 once you have taken the path through the right door accept yourself 283 00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:35,920 so if you can just constantly remind yourself whenever you have doubt just remind yourself 284 00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:43,360 that you get exactly what you choose and doubt doubt is what holds you back doubt lowers your 285 00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:50,720 chances of success every time you doubt you're radiating thought energy of failure so there's 286 00:35:50,720 --> 00:36:00,560 no point in doubting whenever you have doubt just immediately dismiss it destroy it get rid of it 287 00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:06,800 from your brain at that moment and just remind yourself that you get exactly what you choose 288 00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:13,280 and no one no one can prevent you like no one nothing can prevent you from getting your goals 289 00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:16,480 it's all yourself yourself is the only thing that can stop you 290 00:36:16,480 --> 00:36:23,040 you only lack of faith and confidence can injure your progress 291 00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:34,160 so confidence is coordination so confidence the normal type of confidence that people feel 292 00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:40,560 when they're comparing themselves to the others that's just don't feel that that confidence 293 00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:47,840 is temporary and it creates excess potential coordination on the other hand is 294 00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:56,320 absolute balance coordination is all about going with the flow releasing your grip of control 295 00:36:57,360 --> 00:37:03,520 reducing important levels and it's also about interpreting events as positive 296 00:37:04,720 --> 00:37:09,360 receiving everything that happens to you as positive and coordination is the most effective 297 00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:15,840 means of traveling through the the alternative space so coordination is the most effective means 298 00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:26,640 of getting to your goal guilt cause the meridians to narrow so the meridians are kind of your energy 299 00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:38,480 your energy like vessels or not vessel like your energy tubes so everyone has veins that's 300 00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:45,120 basically like the the highway that blood travels through meridians are basically the highway it's 301 00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:51,760 the veins of energy it's the highway that energy travels through and when you feel guilty it causes 302 00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:57,840 the meridians to narrow and that causes less energy to flow through your body so that's bad 303 00:37:57,840 --> 00:38:03,600 guilt destroys your energy levels confidence that is based on comparing oneself with others 304 00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:11,840 is pure excess potential i said i spoke on that a couple minutes ago confidence normal confidence 305 00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:23,760 is destructive now it is just temporary it is dependent on certain events and situations 306 00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:31,440 and soon that confidence will topple whether it's a pendulum or like some event that happens 307 00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:41,520 it will it'll topple so follow coordination instead you cannot develop confidence you cannot 308 00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:46,960 develop confidence you either have it or not coordination is you let go of the struggle 309 00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:52,800 for self-worth you let go of the struggle for for confidence and then the very thing you let go of 310 00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:59,600 you will receive to develop self-confidence you have to let go of wanting to acquire it i just i 311 00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:04,560 just said that without even looking at it this like that the fact that i just said that without 312 00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:12,240 looking at it just goes to show that this study method works very well so let me explain when 313 00:39:12,240 --> 00:39:22,560 i'm studying reality transurfing i am getting so let me start with the first time i read like most 314 00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:28,320 books i'm reading they're the most all the books that i've read before i just read them once like i 315 00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:34,240 just read them passively so that sends all the information through your brain once when you 316 00:39:34,240 --> 00:39:40,960 just read the words on the book go on to the next go go go just read the whole book it passes through 317 00:39:40,960 --> 00:39:47,520 your brain once but if you use this studying method so what i do is i read it and then every 318 00:39:47,520 --> 00:39:55,600 single time i find something that is worthwhile i write it down so right now i read it and i find 319 00:39:55,600 --> 00:40:04,000 it worthwhile and i write it down that's three or read it read it again write it down that's three 320 00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:14,480 and then i read i reread the whole journal that i wrote that day the night so that's four and then 321 00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:24,720 i talk to my friend about it let's not count that but that would be five but then at night 322 00:40:24,720 --> 00:40:30,320 when i'm writing in my personal journal i summarize what i read that day so that's five 323 00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:39,520 but i'm also thinking about it so that's six and then the next morning i reread that that summary 324 00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:49,440 so that's seven so the first time i i think i'm missing a few pass-throughs and then that night 325 00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:58,320 after i talk about it so that's eight and then over after the week i read it back again so that's 326 00:40:58,320 --> 00:41:04,800 nine and then i write down the most important things so that's ten and then when i talk about it on 327 00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:10,400 again on transfer from principles just like this episode that's ten times it passes through my brain 328 00:41:11,280 --> 00:41:17,120 so do you want if you're trying to learn some stuff do you want it to pass through your brain 329 00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:21,760 once or do you want it to pass through your brain ten times in ten different means when you're just 330 00:41:21,760 --> 00:41:27,440 passively reading it's only passing through your brain through the reading method but when you're 331 00:41:27,440 --> 00:41:33,120 doing this study method it passes through your brain through reading through writing through 332 00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:40,240 explaining teaching and talking and reading more and like all this stuff it passes through your 333 00:41:40,240 --> 00:41:52,080 brain in many different many different forms so it's very valuable let me get some water 334 00:42:00,240 --> 00:42:05,520 the notion of confidence is constructed on excess potential and dependent relationships 335 00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:13,680 we've talked about that trans surfing offers an alternative to confidence coordination 336 00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:21,760 talked about that awareness and intention enables you to ignore the pendulum game and claim what 337 00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:30,000 is yours without having to fight for it all right this is valuable so whenever you're aware 338 00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:36,880 you're awake and you're aware of the pendulum game so we live in a life of pendulums and pendulums 339 00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:41,600 are striving to control us they're fighting over our control our will like they're basically 340 00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:49,520 grab grabbing a hold of us and imposing their will onto us and we're controlled by them 341 00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:55,120 and then that's what happens when we're asleep when we're not conscious we let that happen 342 00:42:55,120 --> 00:43:02,000 but once we wake up and we're aware of the situation we can realize oh we have freedom 343 00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:08,080 we have the freedom of choice and we can choose whatever happens and so it allows us to ignore 344 00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:13,760 the pendulum and then claim what is ours without having to fight for it so the pendulum game is 345 00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:21,200 all about fighting for your place in the sun but the fact of the matter is that's a pendulum 346 00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:26,960 notion fighting for your place under the sun what is in reality you don't have to fight you simply 347 00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:33,520 just have to get up and claim it where there is freedom without struggle there is no need for 348 00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:39,520 confidence freedom without struggle is all about not fighting for your place under the sun just 349 00:43:39,520 --> 00:43:45,040 going out and get it and being free from pendulums you do not need confidence confidence is only 350 00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:52,000 needed if you're fighting against pendulums once a person is free from pendulums they no 351 00:43:52,000 --> 00:44:00,400 longer need confidence all they need is coordination compose coordination comes from not creating 352 00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:08,800 inner importance and having nothing to prove in reality and everything is much simpler than it seems 353 00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:18,560 so that that's such a simple statement but six months ago before I started reading Transurfing 354 00:44:20,240 --> 00:44:25,920 I thought the world was so complicated but once I read Transurfing it really enlightened me on 355 00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:31,040 how simple it is how simple things are you simply just have to choose you just have to choose what 356 00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:42,000 you want and you'll get it begin the process of doing in any way you can so that taking action 357 00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:47,040 alleviates access or it like dissipates access potential access potential dissipates through 358 00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:56,320 action coordination means all right so here's the definition of coordination taking pleasure 359 00:44:56,320 --> 00:45:03,360 in thinking about the goal as if you had already been reached letting go of the grip of control 360 00:45:03,360 --> 00:45:10,240 over the script and go in with the alternatives flow helping it along the way with the ore of pure 361 00:45:10,240 --> 00:45:19,200 intention that's coordination the pendulum battle is just a game not a fight just remember that 362 00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:24,720 the pet when you're struggling for your place under the sun just remember that it just remember 363 00:45:24,720 --> 00:45:32,240 the rules of the game and how you can break them when you go with the flow with conscious awareness 364 00:45:32,240 --> 00:45:40,720 everything falls into place without excessive effort so nature never wastes energy nature always 365 00:45:40,720 --> 00:45:45,440 takes the path of least resistance so when you're go when you're in balance with nature 366 00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:51,680 and you're moving towards your goal and you're aware you're consciously aware you're awake 367 00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:57,600 nature will just slide things along in place the path of least resistance 368 00:45:59,680 --> 00:46:06,960 it's only you that creates turmoil in the waters remember that you decide the level of complexity 369 00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:12,640 a challenge represents and that adjustments to the script will play in your favor if you let them 370 00:46:14,480 --> 00:46:20,640 this is all about the world is a mirror and you get exactly what you choose like all the problems 371 00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:30,080 that pop up in your in your day to day life is just you you basically created that all it's all 372 00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:36,800 from your mind your mind created those problems absolute coordination is achieved as a result 373 00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:45,520 of harmony between heart and mind all right so the heart and the mind is huge and i'm gonna go on 374 00:46:45,520 --> 00:46:54,800 a side tangent real quick i haven't begun this process yet but i've ordered the gateway process 375 00:46:54,800 --> 00:47:03,920 and it's hemisync it's the wave one of the gateway process and this i actually believe that it will 376 00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:11,440 help attune my heart and the mind so i think that this meditation the gateway process if you're 377 00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:17,120 interested in i recommend reading that the analysis and assessment of the gateway process it's a 378 00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:25,120 declassified cia document and basically explains the gateway process so i think that that will help 379 00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:34,400 give harmony between the heart and mind harmony of the heart and mind is achieved by listening to 380 00:47:34,400 --> 00:47:43,360 the whisperings of the heart and living true to your own credo so i don't really oh the next one 381 00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:49,360 explains what living to your own credo is but basically whenever you're living life you should 382 00:47:49,360 --> 00:47:53,200 always listen to the whisperings of the heart because the heart is basically telling you things 383 00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:59,920 that you should or shouldn't do and the heart knows exactly what's going on living according to your 384 00:47:59,920 --> 00:48:05,280 credo means loving yourself and accepting you or accepting yourself the way you are 385 00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:13,520 not suffering from pangs of consciousness no wait no not suffering from pangs of conscience 386 00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:19,040 or guilt and firmly acting according to the dictates of the heart and mind 387 00:48:19,040 --> 00:48:28,720 so basically accept yourself love yourself and do not feel guilt and 388 00:48:30,400 --> 00:48:36,560 always act and listen to your heart listen to your heart and mind when they're in unity 389 00:48:37,760 --> 00:48:45,360 it is sufficient okay this one explains this needs i need to give some context for this next one 390 00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:51,680 so if you've seen the movie the matrix good it's all about 391 00:48:53,520 --> 00:49:01,760 all about how the humans are living in a simulation basically but it goes deeper than that they're 392 00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:15,120 basically living under the false false reality basically so now back to the transherfing pendulums 393 00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:23,200 basically aim to create a false reality false notion of reality and this quote from transherfing 394 00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:28,640 it is sufficient to shape the individual's worldview in such a way that they have no 395 00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:35,280 notion of their freedom so that is what we're heading towards right now eventually people 396 00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:42,880 people's worldview will be shaped into such a way that they will have no clue that they are free 397 00:49:42,880 --> 00:49:46,880 they will just be trapped and they will think that they're trapped 398 00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:53,520 the most important principle in the battle with the pendulum is to refuse to fight them 399 00:49:54,240 --> 00:49:59,200 so whenever you're fighting the pendulum you're feeding it your energy and it's basically making 400 00:49:59,200 --> 00:50:05,440 it stronger and stronger just refuse to fight that's all there is to it simply just say no 401 00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:13,200 they're just like be empty the pendulum is always trying to knock you off course the pendulum tries 402 00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:20,800 to control you and when you just refuse to fight it you get what you want you get what you choose 403 00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:28,880 wake up and remember the game when you stay empty to the pendulum you receive its energy 404 00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:36,560 all right so whenever you so whenever the pendulum tries to provoke you it 405 00:50:37,680 --> 00:50:42,480 it spends a little bit of energy and sends a little energy towards your way to try and provoke you 406 00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:50,000 but if you were to stay empty and be absolutely indifferent to it then you will actually receive 407 00:50:50,000 --> 00:50:57,760 that energy and you'll get kind of like a jolt or a boost so it's actually beneficial in another way 408 00:50:57,760 --> 00:51:05,200 to stay empty to the pendulum constantly remind yourself of the rules of the game and keep importance 409 00:51:05,200 --> 00:51:18,960 at zero wait this next one i don't know what it says oh mass media requires the individual to be 410 00:51:18,960 --> 00:51:28,080 very consciously aware do not let negative information affect you this is huge okay let me explain i 411 00:51:28,080 --> 00:51:33,120 was reading about the gateway process and there was one frequently i think it was like frequently 412 00:51:33,120 --> 00:51:40,720 asked questions page and it was is this hypnosis so the gateway process is basically you meditating 413 00:51:40,720 --> 00:51:46,880 and you're listening to audio waves like pink noise waves crashing wind blowing you're basically 414 00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:53,760 meditating while listening to pink noise and it's a guided meditation basically and so one of the 415 00:51:53,760 --> 00:52:03,120 questions was is this hypnosis and they said it is or it is not depending on how you define hypnosis 416 00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:14,960 so in one definition it is but so is watching tv and watching tv as the media so i was just thinking 417 00:52:14,960 --> 00:52:21,840 oh wow watching tv is hypnosis i didn't really give it much thought after that but then for context 418 00:52:21,840 --> 00:52:27,440 i could want to explain that i haven't watched movies in like many months i haven't played video 419 00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:34,560 games in a while i haven't i don't really i kind of cleansed myself from all of that entertainer all 420 00:52:34,560 --> 00:52:42,560 that and all of that dopamine stuff and so my dopamine receptor is coming back to normal 421 00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:48,640 but i'm back in school now and i'm in one elective where we have to watch a movie at the end of every 422 00:52:48,640 --> 00:52:54,560 single unit and so the movie that we watched after this unit was actually an entertaining movie that i 423 00:52:54,560 --> 00:53:01,200 probably would watch on my own and so naturally i was entertaining and i was drawn into the movie 424 00:53:01,200 --> 00:53:09,760 and i was immersed in the movie like the entire time and afterwards i was like wow that is hypnosis 425 00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:17,200 watching tv is hypnosis and then i and then i biked home after that and my mind was scattered 426 00:53:17,200 --> 00:53:25,760 like it affected my mind it like affected the brain waves of my mind and so mass media requires the 427 00:53:25,760 --> 00:53:33,680 individual to be very consciously aware and so that is like i was not consciously aware of 428 00:53:33,680 --> 00:53:40,640 while i was watching the movie i was just immersed and so that affected me that affected the rest of 429 00:53:40,640 --> 00:53:49,920 my day and possibly the next day and that was like evident in the podcast that i spoke on the next 430 00:53:49,920 --> 00:53:56,240 day and so you simply just have to be extremely consciously aware like especially so while you're 431 00:53:56,240 --> 00:54:05,280 watching a movie so you can stay on like not be hypnotized consciously break the rules the freedom 432 00:54:05,280 --> 00:54:11,600 of choice is that there is no need to fight to achieve your goal all you need is the will to have 433 00:54:12,240 --> 00:54:18,080 that's as simple as that you you do not need to fight for your place under the sun you define your 434 00:54:18,080 --> 00:54:24,080 goal and just go get it you're not going to be able to get it you're not going to be able to get it 435 00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:31,680 you define your goal and just go get it and simply allow yourself to have it freedom is always yours 436 00:54:31,680 --> 00:54:40,400 like there freedom is never taken from you it's your birthright always yours the yarn of postponement 437 00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:48,000 can go on all your life this is something that really spoke to me because i'm postponing a lot 438 00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:53,920 of these things for a later date a lot of these transfer from principles i was postponing for 439 00:54:53,920 --> 00:54:58,720 a later date and you know what that's just going to go on forever and then i'm just going to go on 440 00:54:58,720 --> 00:55:08,400 a downward spiral so it's either now or never basically and now is always now so if you say now 441 00:55:08,400 --> 00:55:16,480 or never now and then you wait a year well in a year it will be now so it's either now or never 442 00:55:16,480 --> 00:55:23,120 in a year as well if that makes any sense the idea that you still have plenty of time is an 443 00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:31,920 illusion life is quick life goes by very quick so it goes by in a blink of an eye now while you're 444 00:55:31,920 --> 00:55:39,120 in it it's it seems like you've got lots of time but everyone has experienced this when you look back 445 00:55:39,120 --> 00:55:44,480 of the past like year the past week or the past day you're like wow where did the time go 446 00:55:44,480 --> 00:55:52,080 and i experienced that actually all of junior year i looked back and i was like whoa that flew by 447 00:55:53,200 --> 00:55:57,840 so it's an illusion so you might as well do you what you want with the little time you have 448 00:55:58,960 --> 00:56:05,360 the will to have is infinitely more powerful than the will to act so you can act all you want 449 00:56:05,360 --> 00:56:11,040 but if you're not allowing yourself to have you're probably going to fail and when you 450 00:56:11,040 --> 00:56:17,360 allow yourself to have the world will actually help you along your way and help you take better actions 451 00:56:18,640 --> 00:56:22,560 so it's way more powerful totally give yourself permission to have 452 00:56:24,400 --> 00:56:30,560 you do not have to think about the money so that is huge this is something i'm reminding myself of 453 00:56:30,560 --> 00:56:35,200 a lot lately i'm always thinking about how am i going to get the money or how much money does 454 00:56:35,200 --> 00:56:40,080 this cost how much money that how much money this like no don't think about the money just think about 455 00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:47,280 getting your goals like don't think about the means either when you end the battle and give 456 00:56:47,280 --> 00:56:52,480 yourself permission to have outer intention will find a way to give you what you need 457 00:56:53,840 --> 00:56:59,680 so any in the battle with pendulums you gain freedom of choice or you re-obtain it and then 458 00:56:59,680 --> 00:57:06,080 once you give yourself permission to have that thing your goal then our intention the world 459 00:57:06,080 --> 00:57:11,840 will basically find a way to give it to you it will find a way and you don't have to worry about how 460 00:57:12,720 --> 00:57:17,280 you just have to worry about getting allow yourself to have from this moment onwards 461 00:57:17,280 --> 00:57:25,360 unconditionally unreservedly and not occasionally but all the time this is something i'm struggling 462 00:57:25,360 --> 00:57:33,200 with even to this day i am not giving myself permission to have unconditionally and unreservedly 463 00:57:33,200 --> 00:57:39,680 all the time and i feel like this is a huge principle that just allow yourself to go and 464 00:57:40,560 --> 00:57:45,920 when you're moving towards your goal do it as you such you know in such a manner that you would 465 00:57:45,920 --> 00:57:55,440 going to get your mail from the mailbox you just do it on like unemotionally indifferently and you 466 00:57:55,440 --> 00:58:01,920 just get it because it's yours do that same have that same attitude while you're walking towards 467 00:58:01,920 --> 00:58:13,040 your goals earn the will to have not the money so if you listened to the principle before where 468 00:58:13,040 --> 00:58:21,520 do not be shy and do not hold back when setting your goals and you set yourself a crazy seemingly 469 00:58:21,520 --> 00:58:26,640 impossible goal that you have no idea will have like will be possible you're not going to be able 470 00:58:26,640 --> 00:58:33,520 to convince your mind that it's possible but once you run the slide so run the target slide in your 471 00:58:33,520 --> 00:58:42,720 mind along as you like just keep running it as if you've already achieved it then event there's 472 00:58:42,720 --> 00:58:49,280 three stages to this actually the first stage you'll be like you won't believe it that it's 473 00:58:49,280 --> 00:58:54,000 possible the second stage you actually believe that it's possible and then the third stage it 474 00:58:54,000 --> 00:59:01,280 becomes ordinary and that is like the ordinariness all of your items are ordinary all the items you 475 00:59:01,280 --> 00:59:10,560 own are ordinary so if you already own your goal you already your slide is basically you already 476 00:59:10,560 --> 00:59:15,760 have achieved it so it will become ordinary and that means that you are on the right path 100% 477 00:59:15,760 --> 00:59:25,360 for sure everyone makes their choice and receives what they were willing to have this is well this 478 00:59:25,360 --> 00:59:30,960 is very deep so everyone has their choice everyone has freedom of choice and they make their choice 479 00:59:30,960 --> 00:59:35,680 and they receive exactly what they're willing to have and that goes back to what I was saying if 480 00:59:35,680 --> 00:59:40,720 you're if you have the poor mindset you're only willing to have porno but if you have the rich 481 00:59:40,720 --> 00:59:50,560 mindset you're willing to have richness or riches your choice is immutable law and with it you shape 482 00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:58,240 your reality that is another there's a he drops a lot of gold nuggets in Transurfing like every 483 00:59:58,240 --> 01:00:08,160 single sentence is absolute gold do not force yourself to allow yourself to have take pleasure 484 01:00:08,160 --> 01:00:17,440 in having exciting thoughts learn the difference between will and decisiveness the will to have 485 01:00:17,440 --> 01:00:28,880 is the dispassionate wait what does this say I don't know what that says 486 01:00:28,880 --> 01:00:35,760 the will to have is the dispassionate on 487 01:00:39,840 --> 01:00:47,760 something intention to take what is unquestionably yours so it's just going back to the mailbox 488 01:00:48,800 --> 01:00:52,720 you just unlike dispassionately take it because it's yours 489 01:00:52,720 --> 01:00:59,840 you express your right to choose just as calmly and in uninsistently as you 490 01:01:00,400 --> 01:01:06,560 you would retrieve the mail from the mailbox exactly conflict between heart and mind and 491 01:01:06,560 --> 01:01:14,080 excess potential get in the way of allowing yourself to have so if you want to allow yourself to have 492 01:01:14,800 --> 01:01:22,160 simply merge your heart and mind so unify them and drop excess potential and the way you drop 493 01:01:22,160 --> 01:01:26,960 excess potential as you reduce importance so do not place anything inflate in meaning 494 01:01:28,800 --> 01:01:34,880 when you carry around empty or when you carry around importance you waste 90% of your energy on 495 01:01:34,880 --> 01:01:43,280 supporting excess potential that is okay a lot of people have importance and as a result they're 496 01:01:43,280 --> 01:01:48,960 wasting all their energy supporting that the excess potential that was caused by the importance 497 01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:56,000 and as a result they have less energy to do what they want and they have they feel worse also 498 01:01:56,000 --> 01:02:04,400 so just drop importance if you cannot consciously drop importance take action running the target 499 01:02:04,400 --> 01:02:10,960 side in your mind so all you have to do is run the target side in your mind and it takes action 500 01:02:10,960 --> 01:02:22,320 automatically so these last couple ones are he basically said how to not have these specific 501 01:02:22,320 --> 01:02:29,680 emotions so to stop fear get a safety net to stop getting irritated easily remember the rules of 502 01:02:29,680 --> 01:02:36,160 the game and stay empty now this is huge because i used to get very mad very irritated very easily 503 01:02:36,160 --> 01:02:43,360 or i would just like get mad to myself and irritated to myself whenever something like a 504 01:02:43,360 --> 01:02:48,400 little nuisance would pop up but just remember the rules of the game and how you can choose exactly 505 01:02:48,400 --> 01:02:56,560 what you want and just stay empty stop feeling guilty stop trying to justify yourself do not 506 01:02:56,560 --> 01:03:02,400 pressure yourself to win all the time this is so transurfing in the beginning especially you're 507 01:03:02,400 --> 01:03:08,720 going to be bad and don't pressure yourself to always be perfect and always win just allow yourself 508 01:03:08,720 --> 01:03:16,320 to lose some time from time to time begin taking action in whatever way you can all right so i 509 01:03:16,320 --> 01:03:22,960 talked about this last one a little bit earlier there are three steps to the will to have 510 01:03:22,960 --> 01:03:31,440 step one wanting to believe step two belief step three ordinariness so if you make it to 511 01:03:31,440 --> 01:03:39,840 ordinariness then you know for sure you are on the right path so that is it that's the last of it 512 01:03:40,400 --> 01:03:45,760 and towards the end the last couple pages i just wanted to read them all out and i didn't really 513 01:03:45,760 --> 01:03:53,280 and i didn't really speak on them because i was writing out a time so with all that said that's 514 01:03:53,280 --> 01:03:58,080 the end of the episode so to wrap things up don't forget to download your favorite episodes 515 01:03:58,080 --> 01:04:16,560 and subscribe to the ascend momentum show but before you guys leave make sure to remember the eagles