Control Your Mind

1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:12,000 So the big question is this, how do young men like us, who didn't listen to society, who are on our own, how do we grow and improve ourselves so that we can live a better tomorrow? 2 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:27,000 That is the question and this show will give you the answers. My name is James Radzinski and welcome to the Ascend Momentum Show. 3 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:46,000 Welcome back everyone. As you guys can hear, I got my microphone. It's all set up and the audio quality is definitely a step up. 100%. 4 00:00:46,000 --> 00:01:01,000 Now, I'm just getting used to this new microphone and it's like an actual microphone so I have to speak really close to it for you guys to be able to hear. 5 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:18,000 Excuse me. And so there may be some times where I'm quiet, some times where I'm really loud, I'm still gauging how far I should speak away from it. 6 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:39,000 So today was my second day of school and it was pretty good. So I did my normal stuff and I actually got a new record for walking distance on my balancing ball. 7 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:54,000 Now I can walk halfway across my hallway so I can probably go maybe six, seven feet. I could walk six or seven feet maybe. 8 00:01:54,000 --> 00:02:10,000 So I got to school and my first period teacher, she was telling us things and we're going to get a lot of independent reading time in that class so I'm really excited for that. 9 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:27,000 And my second period class, I'm in adventure ed now so I got in that this morning and it's going to be awesome. We're going to swim in the pool and kayak. 10 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:33,000 We're literally kayaking in the school pool for like three or four weeks. I don't know how long we're going to do it for. 11 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:44,000 But I was in that class last year for the whole year and it was awesome. Man I had something in my throat. 12 00:02:44,000 --> 00:03:03,000 So there's only one downside to joining adventure ed and it's that I have to go in the pool which has chlorine and that's not really the best for you but I'll push through. 13 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:13,000 I think that it's fine for now because I just joined that gym class because it's fun and I don't want to sit in a boring gym class if I have to go to gym. 14 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:38,000 And today let me tell you what happened during gym. So during the first like week of gym we always everyone in the every single person who's got gym that period sits in the bleachers in the fieldhouse and 15 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:48,000 then the teachers after like 10 20 minutes they call everyone down by the period or not the period the class. 16 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:56,000 So I went to my adventure ed teacher and yeah and then we just had to go back up to the bleachers and just chill there for the rest of the period. 17 00:03:56,000 --> 00:04:07,000 So I was just sitting up on the bleachers literally just meditating. I had my eyes open but I was being extremely mindful of my breath and just being extremely present. 18 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:24,000 I was just practicing staying awake and there was this girl that was sitting like maybe five feet to the left of me who I wasn't really paying much attention to. 19 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:31,000 And then she was like I don't even know what she's doing but I was just meditating. 20 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:43,000 And then when I was walking down we were when the bell rang everyone was walking down and I walked down and we like locked eyes for a second. 21 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:54,000 That was like that happens sometimes you guys know. And then we just went on our way. And then so I was like ahead of her and then she started a conversation. 22 00:04:55,000 --> 00:05:05,000 And from there I was just like oh yeah. And then I didn't really let it go too far because I'm staying focused. 23 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:17,000 But in hindsight I should have actually had a conversation with her because that would have been good practice and also it would not have been rude because I feel like I was a little bit rude. 24 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:24,000 I was like quickly trying to end the conversation. So that was probably bad but it's whatever. 25 00:05:25,000 --> 00:05:28,000 And then I went to my next period and yeah. 26 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:35,000 So my third period class business incubator my friend joined it and we're going to be the best. 27 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:43,000 We're going to win. It's like a competition amongst teams to build the best business and me and my friend are going to win. 28 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:52,000 And I don't even think we're going to be able to actually compete because they don't build the businesses until second semester and we're going to graduate early. 29 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:57,000 So we'll let our team know what to do. 30 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:02,000 But I'm really excited for that class because I feel like I'll learn a lot from it. 31 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:07,000 And I'll be able to apply some of my skills. So that's good. 32 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:17,000 So I went home after my fourth period sports lit and then eight then went to the gym. 33 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:22,000 Gym was good and tomorrow is actually rest day. 34 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:27,000 So I'll have a lot more time after school and it's so nice. 35 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:29,000 I love my schedule. 36 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:42,000 Because I went to school came home cooked them cooked my entire lunch and went to the gym and it's still school is still going on right now. 37 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:49,000 Like I did all of that and I'm really sure I'm recording my podcast right now and school is going on right now. 38 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:52,000 It's eighth period the last period of the day. 39 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:58,000 So I'm extremely grateful that I'm a part time student. 40 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:09,000 It was it's just I made a lot of growth last year during I started reading around like September or October maybe last year. 41 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:19,000 So like 11 months ago I started reading and I started reading and I started reading and I started reading and I started reading. 42 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:21,000 And I started reading last year. 43 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:24,000 So like 11 months ago I started reading. 44 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:40,000 And when I I would read like after school and sometimes before school on Wednesdays when we would get to school late. 45 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:51,000 And I made so much growth I grew so much junior year even in one semester I grew so much and I had to go like all day. 46 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:58,000 I was there the whole day and then summer came and I grew an insane amount. 47 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:03,000 That was the most I've ever grown during summer this last summer. 48 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:09,000 And then after that which is now this is the second day of school. 49 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:22,000 I'm really looking forward to this because I feel like I'm going to grow even more during school than during summer because there's a lot of things that I'm really weak at. 50 00:08:23,000 --> 00:08:28,000 For example staying awake staying present at school and my posture. 51 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:31,000 Speaking of posture I got to fix it right now. 52 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:38,000 Let me adjust my microphone to get closer to the mic with my better posture. 53 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:45,000 OK so now I have to say good posture for the rest of the podcast because my mic is adjusted to it. 54 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:53,000 And there's another thing which I may know I'm not even going to censor myself. 55 00:08:53,000 --> 00:09:05,000 It is tough to stay focused on the present when there's a hot girl right next to you or when there's a hot girl in the vicinity. 56 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:09,000 And especially if they start a conversation with you like today. 57 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:17,000 She started a conversation and I kept on thinking about it and I kept on trying to bring my thoughts back to the present. 58 00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:34,000 And now I'm that's one thing I got to get better at staying mindful and staying present around hot women pretty much. 59 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:47,000 And that will actually benefit me a lot in the future because it's not I don't think that women appreciate like high quality women. 60 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:57,000 I don't think they would appreciate being thought about like all the time and just the way that us guys think about them. 61 00:09:57,000 --> 00:10:06,000 I don't think they would appreciate that. So maybe they'll maybe the lower quality ones but the higher quality ones. 62 00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:18,000 I know. So that's one thing. And also there's this thought that why am I wasting all my energy thinking about this girl when one I'm never going to have a future with her. 63 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:42,000 And two she is literally I don't even know her. So that's like another reason. So I'm trying to I don't really want to try to resist or like censor my feelings because I think that the feelings are normal and natural and it would be unnatural to censor them. 64 00:10:42,000 --> 00:10:52,000 So I'm trying to redirect those feelings that that energy that I'm like sending to her. I'm trying to redirect it to my goals. 65 00:10:53,000 --> 00:11:10,000 So that's one thing that I've been trying to be mindful of. Every time I catch myself just like looking at a girl and thinking that she's hot I redirect that energy and activate my fountains which I'll explain in a minute what that is. 66 00:11:10,000 --> 00:11:29,000 And then I send that energy towards my goals and I just think about my goals. And then that brings me back to the real lines my thoughts refocuses me because it's really important to stay focused and especially at school when it's it's really easy to fall asleep. 67 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:41,000 And once I tell you about the fountains I have a story to tell you about first period. So let me tell you what fountains are. This is what I learned in Transurfing towards the end of the book. 68 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:56,000 There are meridians everyone has meridians it's like tubes. I might may or may not be explaining this right because I have a low understanding I just have a basic conceptual idea of what it is. 69 00:11:56,000 --> 00:12:09,000 And in ancient Chinese like medicine and Chinese like culture the meridians are basically the energy is the tubes that the energy flows through and it's like chi. 70 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:19,000 So your energy flows through your body and there are two core like main meridians that go up and down your spine pretty much. 71 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:25,000 And so when I say activate your fountains it you basically envision yourself. 72 00:12:27,000 --> 00:12:29,000 You basically imagine your. 73 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:51,000 A stream of energy going up your spine all the way through your head and then it goes up and it creates like a fountain. So if you know what a fountain looks like it's water shoots straight up and then it just disperses in a circle and falls down. 74 00:12:51,000 --> 00:13:04,000 It's like a sphere. So imagine that and then you imagine the same thing but it goes downwards. So you have a stream going upwards and a stream going downwards and then they connect around the center of your body. 75 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:28,000 And so you're basically inside of a sphere. That's what I mean by activate your fountains and it is just like a way to have your energy flow through you. And that's that's what I need to get into practice of doing when I see a hot girl or literally any girl that turn like gets my thoughts racing. 76 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:34,000 I use all that energy and flow it through my self and then put it into my goals. 77 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:50,000 Because there's not a single girl at my school that I will be having a future with and not even a single girl at my school where I will date. So I'm just focused entirely on myself and my goals. 78 00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:59,000 And I really believe that this is the right thing the right path because all of the girls in my school are low quality like they're all on. 79 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:12,000 I'm not trying to say this to be mean or anything I'm just stating facts. They do not meet my standards and everyone can have standards. So that's fair to say they. 80 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:20,000 There's not a single girl that I've seen that is not on their phone a lot and I don't even bring my phone to school and that's like one of the big things. 81 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:40,000 And plus all the girls dress up like extremely seducive you could say they dress up in ways because we don't have a dress code. So they dress up literally wearing like bras and they dress up like they're wearing like a bra. 82 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:53,000 Literally wearing like bras and they show like their entire stomachs and all that. So that's like an extremely challenging situation for a man like me. 83 00:14:54,000 --> 00:15:03,000 But I'm taking on the challenge head first and transferring all of that energy straight to my goals not even focusing on the girls. 84 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:19,000 And this is also good because I kind of have this thing where I feel like it's a waste every single ounce of energy I waste on a low quality girl is one ounce of energy that I'm not giving towards my wife my future wife. 85 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:34,000 And I want my future wife to have the best of me. I don't want to meet my future wife and me have had like lust over many other girls before. So that's what I'm saying about that. 86 00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:37,000 Now I had another story. Oh yeah first period. 87 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:47,000 So the story I was going to tell you about what happened in first period is let me give you some context first in Transurfing. 88 00:15:48,000 --> 00:16:01,000 He says that most people are asleep and most people are not present and aware of like pendulums and all this stuff and they're just letting life live them like they're just they're not really living their life. 89 00:16:01,000 --> 00:16:06,000 Purposely and they're also being the victims of circumstance. 90 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:23,000 And I really saw that today because me and my friend Franklin we are both trans surfers and we're both we're practicing prep being mindful and present and. 91 00:16:23,000 --> 00:16:36,000 What I have to say about that is we had we have like really good posture and all that right now because we're trying to train ourselves to be better you know. 92 00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:40,000 And we have first period together. 93 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:43,000 And. 94 00:16:43,000 --> 00:16:50,000 My teacher was talking like the whole class period and she was just explaining what to expect in the year. 95 00:16:51,000 --> 00:17:02,000 And me and my friend were literally the only ones making eye contact with her out of like all 25 people everyone was slouching and. 96 00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:12,000 Was basically asleep like they were physically awake but they were just like daydreaming. 97 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:25,000 And me and my friend were the only ones like paying attention to her and that making eye contact and acknowledging her existence and it was also it was a pretty awesome experience because. 98 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:31,000 We were just sitting there like listening to her attentively and she. 99 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:48,000 Switched her like mood or not mood but she switched her like posture one could say to trying to speak to the entire class and then when she realized that no one was listening to her. 100 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:56,000 Except for me and my friend she would like literally just only made eye contact with me and him so it's like she was explaining everything to us. 101 00:17:57,000 --> 00:18:08,000 But also to the class and no one else was really listening so that's also a huge advantage of being awake and being present and mindful because. 102 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:20,000 We are like the only ones being present in the entire class and so we're we kind of like we're sitting not next to each other but a decent amount of way and we every once in a while look towards each other. 103 00:18:21,000 --> 00:18:26,000 And it just feels like we're the only ones in the room at times so it's pretty cool. 104 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:43,000 And the thing is yesterday we were asleep for most of the day today I feel like I haven't heard his thought on this but for me personally I was definitely awake like over half of the day I was I did a lot better than yesterday. 105 00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:52,000 And there is only one thing that or there is one thing that I was doing bad at and it's sending my energy towards all the girls. 106 00:18:53,000 --> 00:19:03,000 And well I was doing good about it like there was multiple instances where there was a hot girl in front of me and then I was just putting it off and it was like that's the only thing that. 107 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:09,520 my energy towards all the girls. And well, I was doing good about it. Like there was 108 00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:14,180 multiple instances where there was a hot girl in front of me and then I would just think 109 00:19:14,180 --> 00:19:23,520 about my goals. But there is one, just the one time where I kept on sending energy towards 110 00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:28,400 one girl and it's the girl that started a conversation with me. And I kept thinking 111 00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:35,440 about that. Even I didn't think about it while I was at school. I quickly like forgot about 112 00:19:35,440 --> 00:19:42,440 it. But then once I got home and my mind was like free to relax, then every time I was 113 00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:51,120 not vigilant, my mind would just go straight to that scene. And that is unacceptable, to 114 00:19:51,120 --> 00:19:56,520 be honest. So I have to do better tomorrow, do better. And eventually I will have full 115 00:19:56,520 --> 00:20:03,480 control over my mind to where once I choose, once I decide not to think about something, 116 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:13,040 I just won't. Because I'm thinking like, she's definitely not thinking about me. And if she 117 00:20:13,040 --> 00:20:19,600 does, whatever, it doesn't matter. But why would I think about her when we don't even 118 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:23,440 know each other? We simply just had a conversation. Why would I think about her literally for 119 00:20:23,440 --> 00:20:29,080 the rest of the day? That's like an unfair trade of energy, especially since she's probably 120 00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:37,880 not even thinking about me. She's got other things. Doesn't matter. So that energy trade 121 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:47,040 is not fair. And from an entirely selfish point of view, it is extremely harmful towards 122 00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:55,480 me if I think about another girl for the rest of the day, because I'll just be sending them 123 00:20:55,480 --> 00:21:03,640 all my energy. And it's just a waste of mental capacity. I have better things to think about. 124 00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:10,440 My mind can't be cluttered with these kinds of things. I really, I only have one purpose 125 00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:20,200 in life and it's to succeed in entrepreneurship right now. And it's just a waste of mental 126 00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:26,440 energy and power and energy, all this stuff. It's just a waste if I think about anything 127 00:21:26,440 --> 00:21:35,360 other than other than the required stuff, like my business. But also I said required 128 00:21:35,360 --> 00:21:41,360 because school, I'm going to finish school off right now because if I drop out, I'll 129 00:21:41,360 --> 00:21:46,080 be creating an even stronger pendulum, more destructive towards me and it'll be worse 130 00:21:46,080 --> 00:21:54,320 off. My life will probably be worse off. And I may have spoken on this topic yesterday's 131 00:21:54,320 --> 00:22:03,160 episode, but I don't know. I remember. But that is why I'm, that's why I made myself 132 00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:10,240 a deal to focus 100% only on school. Don't think about my business while I'm at school. 133 00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:14,920 And then, well actually I could think about my business while I'm at school if it's downtime. 134 00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:21,720 But when there's like work to be done, I only focus on the work, only focus on school related 135 00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:26,560 stuff while I'm at school. And then the second I leave school, I stop thinking about anything 136 00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:32,640 related to school. And I broke that promise to myself when I, the second I got on my bike, 137 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:40,040 I started thinking about that girl and that's unacceptable. So I'm, the first step to change 138 00:22:40,040 --> 00:22:47,440 is being mindful and like actually knowing that you have a issue. So over the next couple 139 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:55,640 weeks I'll be cracking down on that because that is one of the biggest thieves of my energy, 140 00:22:55,640 --> 00:23:12,640 lust. And especially at the gym, there's a lot of girls wearing like crop tops and all 141 00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:19,200 the, like the classic gym clothes. And that's really hot, but it's just distracting me from 142 00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:27,720 my lift and it's just a waste of my energy and time to look towards that. And that's 143 00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:35,420 why I'm just really getting better and better over the weeks at just focusing 100% on myself. 144 00:23:35,420 --> 00:23:43,240 And that's the thing, this stuff sounds weird to an outside listener. Someone who is not 145 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:52,360 my target audience listening to this episode may be weirded out, but this is just the reality 146 00:23:52,360 --> 00:23:59,120 of the situation. And this is how most guys think, but I am actually making changes to 147 00:23:59,120 --> 00:24:08,560 fix it because it's just distracting. And I'm being entirely selfish in this because 148 00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:17,400 I only care about one thing and it's fulfilling my goals. And the way I do that is to stop 149 00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:25,240 thinking about girls. So it's just destroying myself if I think about girls and it's me 150 00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:36,400 being selfish, stopping that train of thought. So if you guys, yeah, and it's also embarrassing 151 00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:45,880 because I'm too weak to control my thoughts and my glances and my eyeballs to where, and 152 00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:50,280 my brain, like the second I see a hot girl, my brain literally just shuts off. And then 153 00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:57,680 a couple seconds later I realize, nope, go back to focus. So that's really embarrassing. 154 00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:02,960 And if you're not embarrassed, you should be if you have a similar issue, because this 155 00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:16,920 is 100% not good for our goals and good for us as men. And I'm not saying restrict yourself. 156 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:21,320 I'm not saying like, this is, I'm pretty sure a lot of this stuff is talked about in the 157 00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:25,800 way of the superior man. And this is another reason why I want to reread it because I forgot 158 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:33,240 about a lot of the concepts in that. And I'm sure that he talked about this stuff. And 159 00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:40,680 I don't, I just from my vague understanding, my vague remembering of it, I'm pretty sure 160 00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:47,160 that you're not supposed to censor yourself or you're not supposed to hold yourself back. 161 00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:53,280 I'm pretty sure you're just supposed to let your libido free. Like, don't try and like 162 00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:59,600 stop yourself. And you're supposed to refocus, realign your thoughts to something more important 163 00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:08,880 to you. Yeah, so this, this whole thing is just a bear embarrassing and I'm ashamed of 164 00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:14,320 it. And that's why I need to, well, I'm not ashamed of it. But I'm embarrassed because 165 00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:22,720 I'm embarrassed that I can't control myself. I can't control my thoughts to focus on what 166 00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:28,640 I need to focus on. And the second that I started conversation with a girl, I can't 167 00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:34,400 stop thinking about it. And it's not even that it's I I've had conversations with girls, 168 00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:40,400 like first period, I sit right next to a girl and I talked to her like a lot, like the first 169 00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:52,520 two days, but I don't think about her outside of class. And it's just, I don't know, it's 170 00:26:52,520 --> 00:27:05,840 probably because I'm not gonna get into that. So I got to get better at holding, like actually 171 00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:10,920 being in control of my brain, because if you can't control your brain, like most people, 172 00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:15,180 that's just embarrassing. I can't control my brain. And that's why I'm working towards 173 00:27:15,180 --> 00:27:19,640 being able to control your my brain. Because the brain your brain is literally your control 174 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:24,680 center like everything that happens in your life goes on in your brain. So if you can't 175 00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:33,060 control it, how can you expect to do good in your life. And I hope I haven't offended 176 00:27:33,060 --> 00:27:38,000 anyone by talking about this stuff in this episode. But I feel like this is some important 177 00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:43,840 information to cover. Because I'm definitely not the only one who has these same experiences 178 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:54,120 and feelings and thoughts. Especially with the rise of internet, the internet and misuse 179 00:27:54,120 --> 00:28:02,400 of it. I never really misused it. The worst that I used on the internet was TikTok. And 180 00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:10,400 that was very bad. That literally destroyed my brain. I never went on. I'm not gonna say 181 00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:20,040 the word because I think that it's explicit content. But it's it's the POR, you know, 182 00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:29,040 I never went on that. But it's embarrassing because we have to us as men, we have to hold 183 00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:35,360 ourselves to higher standards and be able to actually control our minds. Because if 184 00:28:35,360 --> 00:28:43,640 you like seriously, it's I'm so ashamed that I went 17 years of my life without even giving 185 00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:52,760 thought to controlling my mind. I didn't actually begin to to work towards being able to control 186 00:28:52,760 --> 00:29:00,240 my mind until like a couple months ago. Maybe even one month ago. So that's literally the 187 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:17,400 foundation of all of our life. Literally our life foundational. Yeah, so I want to talk 188 00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:26,600 about staying indifferent. So pendulums are if you can be free from pendulums, you're 189 00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:32,040 free to get whatever you want, you're free to choose however you want in life, you're 190 00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:40,440 free to choose your lot in life. But pendulums hold us and grip on to us and prevent us from 191 00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:49,760 basically being free. And school, and also the idea of girls, like the lust, that piece 192 00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:53,800 that I've been talking about, they're they're pendulums, and they're preventing us from 193 00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:59,560 being successful. And they're preventing us for from achieving our goals. And the literally 194 00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:07,760 the only way, the only thing that you need to do to achieve your goals is drop importance. 195 00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:15,520 And us, we feel that girls are so important. And we put them on pedestals. No, they're 196 00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:25,120 equal. We're all equal on an energetic level. Me and another girl are literally the same 197 00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:32,760 on an energetic level. And so us putting them on a pedestal, we're creating such an imbalance 198 00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:41,780 that it creates excess potential, which is what is produced after you create imbalance. 199 00:30:41,780 --> 00:30:48,960 And then those excess potential generate balancing forces, which strive to bring back the balance. 200 00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:55,480 And the way they do that is by reducing your influence on the world. So they literally 201 00:30:55,480 --> 00:31:01,080 make it so you don't have as much of an impact on the world. Now, that may not sound bad 202 00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:07,560 on the surface. But you need to have influence on the world to be able to achieve your goals. 203 00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:11,680 If you have no influence on the world, you're going to be stuck where you are for the rest 204 00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:17,140 of your life, never having improved, never having achieved your goals. And so for me 205 00:31:17,140 --> 00:31:22,160 right now, one of the biggest, strongest, most destructive pendulums is lust towards 206 00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:27,680 girls. And that is what I have to be extremely mindful of over the coming months when I'm 207 00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:34,640 in school. Because once I master this and become indifferent, and just see girls as 208 00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:43,200 another person, then I'm free to achieve whatever I want. And this is an amazing opportunity 209 00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:47,680 for me and for you guys, if you guys are in school, it's an amazing opportunity to practice 210 00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:52,960 mindfulness and become indifferent to the destructive pendulums that are trying to prevent 211 00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:57,680 you from meeting goals, from achieving your goals. 212 00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:06,440 Man, that was a very deep episode. And we're only halfway through. Now I want to tell you 213 00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:14,520 guys, I'm completely switching the topic now because I want to explain that I don't plan 214 00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:21,560 these episodes out ahead of time. I literally just hit record and then start talking. I'd 215 00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:27,460 literally just say my intro, and then hopefully something pops up into my, that's why I always 216 00:32:27,460 --> 00:32:35,560 start with explaining my day, what happened in my day today, because that usually starts 217 00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:41,560 the conversation and it gets me into the zone. And the reason why I'm telling you this is 218 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:47,360 because I'm just trying to give you guys the most like, genuine, I'm just trying to have 219 00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:52,480 a conversation with you guys and not really structure anything. I'm simply just trying 220 00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:59,360 to document the process so you guys can absolutely replicate this. And I want you guys to see 221 00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:04,520 once I'm successful that you guys can do it too. You simply just have to follow the principles 222 00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:08,960 that I'm explaining in all my episodes. Now, trans surfing is not the only thing that you 223 00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:17,160 need to do. Trans surfing is absolutely vital. I mean, a lot of people succeed without trans 224 00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:21,640 surfing, but if you want to succeed quick and efficiently, the most, the best, and you 225 00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:27,720 want to live your best life possible, trans surfing is vital. But if you're just starting 226 00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:33,160 out, I would not recommend trans surfing because if I told myself to read trans surfing two 227 00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:41,320 years ago when I was like, literally just watching TikTok all day, I would never have 228 00:33:41,320 --> 00:33:45,640 read it and I never would have gotten through like page two. I would have just given up 229 00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:51,800 on page one. And so that's why I'm telling you guys, you guys have to work up to trans 230 00:33:51,800 --> 00:33:59,040 surfing. And I'm saying work up to reading it. You guys should, you guys can and absolutely 231 00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:05,760 should implement all of these principles or try to implement some of them because in all 232 00:34:05,760 --> 00:34:12,000 honestly, in truth, I don't implement them all. I'm just working towards being to that, 233 00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:19,360 getting to that point. There's only honestly, I'm like just beginning and I'm like extremely, 234 00:34:19,360 --> 00:34:27,320 I'm a really bad transfer for right now. And that me sharing with you guys is helping me. 235 00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:34,160 That's like an entirely selfish thing. I'm doing this to help me because no one's listening 236 00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:40,760 to me right now. I have like six subscribers. So no one, no one's listening. I'm doing this 237 00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:47,400 to help me. And then eventually you guys will be able to see because I can't conceptualize 238 00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:52,960 the idea of future people listening. I can like understand that people will listen to 239 00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:59,360 my podcast, but I can't like see your guys' faces. Like I don't know who you are. And 240 00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:04,280 that's what I'm trying to say. Right now I'm doing it for myself, but I'm keeping it up 241 00:35:04,280 --> 00:35:09,520 for you guys because I just want you guys to be able to see that there is no excuses 242 00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:18,540 and you're choosing to be where you are right now. And if you want more in life, do better 243 00:35:18,540 --> 00:35:26,460 and choose. You simply just have to choose. Now, if you think you can't choose to go move 244 00:35:26,460 --> 00:35:35,360 on your own to Hawaii, if you think that you're not able to, well, that's not your thoughts. 245 00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:44,720 Because you're being trapped by a pendulum and your wavelength is adhering to its wavelength. 246 00:35:44,720 --> 00:35:50,440 And that pendulum is just trying to keep you in, try and keep you in the system. And once 247 00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:56,360 you choose to break free and improve yourself and then eventually break free, you will be 248 00:35:56,360 --> 00:36:01,480 able to choose whatever you want in life. Now, this is a lot for me to say because to 249 00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:07,920 be honest, my life is almost identical to on the surface. It's basically identical to 250 00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:15,200 what it was two years ago, except yeah, like I'm literally living in the same home. I have 251 00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:20,700 I'm probably poorer. I have less money than I had like two years ago. I'm still living 252 00:36:20,700 --> 00:36:28,680 at my parents' house. I mean, I am 17. So that is kind of there is no excuse. I chose 253 00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:38,480 this. But me saying all this stuff, I just want you guys to see that my identity shifted. 254 00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:46,280 I was like you at once. I was like, oh, I'm gonna have to go to college. I'm gonna have 255 00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:52,680 to work a nine to five for the rest of my life. And and then I over a long period of 256 00:36:52,680 --> 00:37:01,200 time, I slowly changed my identity. And now I'm on the edge. I'm absolutely on the edge 257 00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:10,260 to where my identity is almost fully shifted. And then once my identity is fully shifted, 258 00:37:10,260 --> 00:37:20,320 I will be my life will start to transform. And it already has started to transform. And 259 00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:27,080 for example, I'm a part time student. That's awesome. Another example, I'm on Episode 28 260 00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:31,840 of my podcast. If I would have tried to do this two years ago, I wouldn't have had a 261 00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:37,320 vision for the future, a good enough vision for the future, or even any vision for the 262 00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:43,840 future to where I would have gotten past Episode two, maybe maybe even one. I probably wouldn't 263 00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:50,720 have even posted or made my I probably wouldn't have gotten past the create a channel create 264 00:37:50,720 --> 00:38:00,080 a podcast page on rss.com. So the fact that I'm on Episode 28, and I'll be on like Episode 265 00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:05,240 60 by the time I get to Funnel Hacking Live, that shows I have a vision for the future. 266 00:38:05,240 --> 00:38:11,920 Now, I want you guys know, I don't know what's coming up. And that is a thing that you guys 267 00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:16,280 should not try and decide what's coming up either you guys should just have a vision 268 00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:23,400 for the goal that you're moving towards. Just have a path forward. Now don't create the 269 00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:29,680 path because just walk the path because if you try to create the path, that's your mind 270 00:38:29,680 --> 00:38:36,280 trying to form exactly what you're going to do. And inevitably, when things don't go the 271 00:38:36,280 --> 00:38:44,440 way you choose, that is simply just the world trying to get you there quicker. But we interpret 272 00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:52,880 it as bad. And so we get latched on to by pendulums. And so then we never make it. So 273 00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:59,760 don't have expectations. Just go with the flow and accept what's the word, there's a 274 00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:09,680 word. It's it's like differences, oh, variations, accept variations of your into your script. 275 00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:16,160 And what I mean by that is, when you expect for something to happen, for example, on on 276 00:39:16,160 --> 00:39:22,000 Monday, two days ago, I expected for me to just walk into the building, go up to my counselor's 277 00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:28,080 office and get what I wanted. But a variation happened. And the world didn't want me to 278 00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:34,520 do that on that moment. And so I simply was not even allowed in the building at all. And 279 00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:39,920 so I just accepted the fact that that just happened. And when I'm with my day and created 280 00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:47,000 a backup plan. And that was the variation in the script, I still got what I wanted. 281 00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:54,600 I just didn't get it at that moment. Now, it's okay. And that is just the world trying 282 00:39:54,600 --> 00:40:00,900 to move things around for me. And the world is taking care of us. And when I say the world, 283 00:40:00,900 --> 00:40:05,200 you can interpret that however you like. It could be God, it could be the world, it could 284 00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:12,320 be whatever you want. It doesn't matter. It could be your guardian angel. I don't know. 285 00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:18,000 But I call it the world because that's what he calls it in trans surfing. And I kind of 286 00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:24,480 feel weird saying God, like God is looking out for me. Even though I believe in God, 287 00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:34,000 I just grew up in a Christian household. And it wasn't like anything that I was taught. 288 00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:39,480 It was just for some reason, I just feel weird around, I just feel really weird and sensitive 289 00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:45,920 around the topic. It's just some like internal turmoil that I don't know, it's weird. So 290 00:40:45,920 --> 00:40:56,600 I prefer world. I'm just more comfortable saying that. And it doesn't really matter 291 00:40:56,600 --> 00:41:03,120 what how you interpret it or what you what form you feel it takes place. It's all the 292 00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:10,080 same thing. Like there, you could call it love. Like every like love governs the world. 293 00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:15,800 And that's just simply like a fact. I actually don't know if it's a fact. But I feel like 294 00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:22,280 that is true. And all of these things are just different manifestations of the higher 295 00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:27,920 power like higher forces, whatever, God, it doesn't doesn't matter what you call it. It's 296 00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:36,200 all the same thing. And what was I talking about? I was talking about the variations 297 00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:40,600 in the script. And so you're supposed to go with the alternatives flow. And the world 298 00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:46,800 is the world. So nature never wastes energy. That's why we walk on our feet and not our 299 00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:57,160 ears. It's just the most energy efficient. And so we the way you go with the flow is 300 00:41:57,160 --> 00:42:03,080 by choosing the most energy efficient and most optimal path forward. Nature never screws 301 00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:08,560 you over that would waste a lot of energy and has no purpose. So nature always gives 302 00:42:08,560 --> 00:42:15,280 you what you want. But it's us that prevents us from getting what we want. Because nature 303 00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:22,020 sets path sets course the thing. And then when our mind begins to think and creates 304 00:42:22,020 --> 00:42:30,200 importance and doesn't and by the way, when we feel as though we didn't get the way we 305 00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:34,940 wanted, like we the it didn't play out the way we wanted. That is just inner importance 306 00:42:34,940 --> 00:42:41,680 because that's basically us saying our brain saying that I, I crafted the path forward 307 00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:48,480 and I am right. I know what's right for me. I'm extremely in knowledgeable like that's 308 00:42:48,480 --> 00:43:00,600 just inflating our brains importance level. And so the world sets forth the and the actually 309 00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:06,000 the world sets forth the worst way if you think that the war if you say that the world 310 00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:10,440 does not take care of you, then the world will give you what you want. Because you get 311 00:43:10,440 --> 00:43:14,000 whatever you choose the world is a mirror. So if you think that the world takes care 312 00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:19,200 of you, then the world will set path, the best forward like the it will set forward 313 00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:24,280 the best path. But if you think the world does not take care of you, well, then it won't 314 00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:35,000 take care of you. It'll set for the it'll set down the worst path for you. So just know 315 00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:41,660 that the world takes care of you. And then it will create the it will give you the best 316 00:43:41,660 --> 00:43:46,340 path forward. And you simply just have to go on the path. And the way you do that is 317 00:43:46,340 --> 00:43:52,520 by whenever you come up with a decision, you imagine yourself making one decision. And 318 00:43:52,520 --> 00:44:06,400 then clear your mind and contemplate the emptiness and just trying trying to figure out what 319 00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:13,280 your inner state is. So do you feel tense? Or do you feel at peace? If you feel tense, 320 00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:17,760 that's the heart saying no, and you should not take that decision. If you feel at peace, 321 00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:26,920 then take that decision because that's the heart saying yes. And literally, the only 322 00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:32,360 thing that's preventing us from moving towards our goals is importance. Because all the obstacles 323 00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:38,480 that we experience in life, we created them, the world did not create them. And if you 324 00:44:38,480 --> 00:44:43,800 look at animals, since they don't have like consciousness like we do, they never experience 325 00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:49,920 obstacles or problems in their life. Their life is just straightforward, because it's 326 00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:57,140 a waste of energy to have obstacles like it nature way is nature is not going to waste 327 00:44:57,140 --> 00:45:15,800 energy on giving you obstacles. But you create the obstacles yourself. I'm gonna get some 328 00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:26,280 water. Now I'm not gonna lie, the only thing that I've been doing for the past couple days 329 00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:35,720 honestly, the past like week relating to my business is just recording the podcast episodes. 330 00:45:35,720 --> 00:45:45,160 And I've kind of hit a wall where I don't really know where to go next. And every time 331 00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:51,640 I sit down to try and build a funnel for a local business, my I don't know if it's the 332 00:45:51,640 --> 00:45:56,960 right path. I don't know if I'm just being lazy. Or if it's my heart genuinely saying 333 00:45:56,960 --> 00:46:02,960 no, because I just feel inner tension whenever I don't even know if it's tension, I just 334 00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:08,280 every time I sit down to do something, I get like a lump in my throat for some reason. 335 00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:11,880 But not this like I don't get a lump in my throat when I'm doing the podcast. Like this 336 00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:19,860 is the only thing that I do relating to business that does not give me a lump in my throat. 337 00:46:19,860 --> 00:46:26,720 So that just shows me that this is the right path forward, at least for now. And eventually, 338 00:46:26,720 --> 00:46:32,440 I'll maybe I'll be able to monetize this and this will be the path forward. I don't know. 339 00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:39,020 Who knows maybe I'm just at in the beginning, I did this to have an audience so I could 340 00:46:39,020 --> 00:46:44,880 advertise my products and eventually make you guys products. And I actually have one 341 00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:53,280 information product. But I haven't worked on my personal business other than this. So 342 00:46:53,280 --> 00:46:59,580 I don't know. We'll see what happens. I that's like one thing that I don't have a vision 343 00:46:59,580 --> 00:47:13,080 for the future. I don't know where to go next. That's one thing that I did. I started on 344 00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:25,000 June 26. I believe it was around that day. I started journaling every day. Now I did 345 00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:31,840 journals in the past, but I was never consistent for more than like two months. I did dreaming 346 00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:38,000 journals like where I tracked wrote down my dreams so I could start to lucid dream. I 347 00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:43,680 did that for like two or three months. And then I kind of stopped because I didn't want 348 00:47:43,680 --> 00:47:47,280 to spend all that time in the morning working on it, even though it was literally only like 349 00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:56,960 five minutes. And then I did gratitude journaling for like a week and I realized that that was 350 00:47:56,960 --> 00:48:05,620 stupid and it was just a waste of time. And then I did. And then all randomly I started 351 00:48:05,620 --> 00:48:11,160 taking notes on my YouTube videos every once in a while that I would watch. And then just 352 00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:17,520 randomly out of the blue, I just decided to start journaling. And so ever since that day, 353 00:48:17,520 --> 00:48:25,000 like two months ago, I've been journaling every single day. And that's one of the things 354 00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:33,560 that has helped me make a lot of progress. Excuse me, I have hiccups, but that's one 355 00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:39,080 of the things that have helped me make a lot of progress. And it's journaling because it's 356 00:48:39,080 --> 00:48:48,280 helped me stay reflective and reflect on my day and see where I'm going bad, see where 357 00:48:48,280 --> 00:48:52,960 I'm going good. And that's another reason why I like podcasting because once I get in 358 00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:59,880 the zone, I basically start exposing myself. Like right now when I expose myself that I 359 00:48:59,880 --> 00:49:05,120 was, or in the beginning of the episode I exposed myself that how I was, my thoughts 360 00:49:05,120 --> 00:49:11,160 towards girls. And I just expose myself on a lot of different things and it allows me 361 00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:18,680 to be extremely open and critical about my actions and actually decide whether or not 362 00:49:18,680 --> 00:49:25,400 it's helping me. And it's definitely not helping me. Being reflective is helping me 100%. But 363 00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:30,720 all the things that I'm saying, like me thinking about girls is not helping me. So then once 364 00:49:30,720 --> 00:49:39,320 I expose myself, I start the first step in the sequence to change, which is realizing 365 00:49:39,320 --> 00:49:45,960 what you're doing and actually seeing that it's bad. And there's some marketing principles 366 00:49:45,960 --> 00:50:01,460 is to tell your dream customer what they're doing and make them realize how harmful it 367 00:50:01,460 --> 00:50:10,780 is for them. So there's a term called the pain web. I learned it from Garrett J. White. 368 00:50:10,780 --> 00:50:18,160 And it's basically where you have to get them to feel the pain of the habit that they're 369 00:50:18,160 --> 00:50:24,040 doing and how it's reflecting four parts of their life. And I don't remember exactly what 370 00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:32,800 the four parts were, but actually no, I could pull it up right now, but I have it as a bookmark. 371 00:50:32,800 --> 00:50:37,840 But I'm not going to because I promised you guys the other day that I will not be on my 372 00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:46,080 computer because that gets me out of the zone. But the pain web, there's four topics. And 373 00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:52,480 I'm just going to explain the topics that I'm pretty sure are the right things. So there's 374 00:50:52,480 --> 00:50:58,720 your health, your family, your wealth, which is like your business. And I forgot what the 375 00:50:58,720 --> 00:51:04,800 other one was, but pretty much you have to explain. So let's use the example. Let's just 376 00:51:04,800 --> 00:51:11,600 use the example of the way you think about girls. So you have to explain to them how 377 00:51:11,600 --> 00:51:20,800 that harmful habit is damaging and detrimental to your health, their family, their wealth 378 00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:26,360 and the other thing. So if I were advertising to you guys, which I'm also advertising to 379 00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:31,720 you guys and myself, because I'm trying to do that pain web for myself and for you guys 380 00:51:31,720 --> 00:51:40,080 so we can start to make change. So I'm just coming up with this on the blue. So thinking 381 00:51:40,080 --> 00:51:45,560 about girls that way and wasting all of your energy and sending all of your energy towards 382 00:51:45,560 --> 00:51:51,600 them. First of all, you don't even know them. They don't even know you. Even if you think 383 00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:56,480 you know them, you don't. Even if you spent a whole year talking to them, you don't. You 384 00:51:56,480 --> 00:52:01,500 know yourself and that's all. You barely even know yourself because you have no control 385 00:52:01,500 --> 00:52:12,760 over your head. You can't even stop thinking about girls. And this is affecting four key 386 00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:20,300 areas of your life. So you thinking about girls is distracting you from your health 387 00:52:20,300 --> 00:52:34,080 and this is causing your weight, your physique, your mental, emotional happiness, all of your 388 00:52:34,080 --> 00:52:40,840 health habits. You are just getting way worse unhealthy because you're wasting all of your 389 00:52:40,840 --> 00:52:47,600 energy towards her. You don't even know her. Now this is making you less rich because you're 390 00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:54,640 investing all of your energy, your focus, your drive, not towards your goals, not towards 391 00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:59,160 making a million dollars. You're focusing it towards this girl you saw walking on the 392 00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:07,160 street. Such a waste. Now all of that focus and energy could be harnessed and turned into 393 00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:15,520 a million dollar business. But no, you chose to send it towards some stranger. Now let 394 00:53:15,520 --> 00:53:22,480 me explain to you this. You have a future and in the future you're going to have a wife 395 00:53:22,480 --> 00:53:32,980 and kids. And that wife and kid are all going to be lower quality because you can't control 396 00:53:32,980 --> 00:53:42,040 yourself and can't stop thinking about a girl. That wife is going to know that you can't 397 00:53:42,040 --> 00:53:48,360 control yourself and you can't control your brain to only focus on her. She's going to 398 00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:56,000 feel subconsciously, she's going to know something is up and every time you guys walk by a hot 399 00:53:56,000 --> 00:54:01,120 girl on the street, she's going to feel all of your energy leaving your body going towards 400 00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:09,600 her. That random stranger and not towards your own wife. Your wife is going to be worse, 401 00:54:09,600 --> 00:54:14,800 she's going to be sad, she's going to start to die and wither away because you're not 402 00:54:14,800 --> 00:54:22,800 giving her your energy. You're giving your energy to some random stranger. Now let's 403 00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:29,080 talk about your kid. Your kid is going to pick up on your habits and he is going to 404 00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:38,200 feel that you are not in control of your own emotion. So he's going to pick up on that 405 00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:43,400 and not trust you as a man. He's not going to trust you as a father and you know what? 406 00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:48,800 He's going to pick up on the habits and think just the same about other girls and he's going 407 00:54:48,800 --> 00:54:54,880 to waste all of his energy and the loop is going to repeat. Now let's say you have a 408 00:54:54,880 --> 00:54:59,480 daughter. She's going to pick up on it as well and she's just going to feel that all 409 00:54:59,480 --> 00:55:05,560 men are like that and she's not going to feel safe around you, her own father because you 410 00:55:05,560 --> 00:55:13,840 can't control your mind to where you... you can't even control your mind to stop lusting 411 00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:19,320 over some random girl on the street. So how do you think that will make your daughter 412 00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:24,880 feel? Because she can sense the energy. Children are more attuned to energy than adults. She 413 00:55:24,880 --> 00:55:29,520 can sense all of the energy that is leaving your body and she can sense where it's going 414 00:55:29,520 --> 00:55:34,720 on a subconscious level. Maybe it's not conscious but subconsciously she will know that something 415 00:55:34,720 --> 00:55:47,800 is up and you are not... you're not strong. Yeah and I forgot... oh spiritually. I think 416 00:55:47,800 --> 00:55:55,160 spirituality is the fourth part of the pain web so I'm going to get into that. If you 417 00:55:55,160 --> 00:56:01,240 are thinking about a girl all day, you're not having focus, you're not having clarity, 418 00:56:01,240 --> 00:56:06,560 you're not one with God. You're just wasting all of your energy towards that girl and not 419 00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:14,680 towards your God or your world. And the world will know and you won't be able to give as 420 00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:20,480 much energy to your world so the world won't give you that much energy back. I don't even 421 00:56:20,480 --> 00:56:25,600 know what I'm saying about that but that's pretty much it. And that past couple minutes 422 00:56:25,600 --> 00:56:33,520 when I was giving you guys the pain web marketing, that goes towards myself as well. I needed 423 00:56:33,520 --> 00:56:38,320 to hear all of that stuff as well. And that stuff didn't come out of my mind. It just 424 00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:44,720 came out of my heart, straight from my heart. All this stuff, I needed to hear just as much 425 00:56:44,720 --> 00:56:51,160 as you guys needed to hear. I am on the road to improvement just the same as you guys. 426 00:56:51,160 --> 00:56:57,040 I am no better than you guys. I am no better than all the girls. They, just because I said 427 00:56:57,040 --> 00:57:01,960 they're low quality at my school, that doesn't make me better than them. I am low quality 428 00:57:01,960 --> 00:57:07,200 as well. Now I'm striving to be high quality and I feel as though I am high quality. But 429 00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:13,880 I'm not comparing myself to them because that creates a dependent relationship and also 430 00:57:13,880 --> 00:57:19,720 creates excess potential which strive to reduce your influence on the world. So do not compare 431 00:57:19,720 --> 00:57:24,920 yourself to girls and don't feel that you're superior to them either because we're all 432 00:57:24,920 --> 00:57:31,560 equal. And if you feel that you're superior to them, well you're screwing yourself over 433 00:57:31,560 --> 00:57:42,340 because you, that's another issue. You can't control your thoughts to where you are not 434 00:57:42,340 --> 00:57:47,200 lessing over a girl. Well you can't control your thoughts to where you're not feeling 435 00:57:47,200 --> 00:57:53,360 superior to another person. And this counts towards girls and guys. It doesn't matter. 436 00:57:53,360 --> 00:58:00,400 Do not ever feel superior or inferior to anyone. Don't feel inferior to me. Don't feel inferior 437 00:58:00,400 --> 00:58:07,400 to the president. Don't feel inferior to the famous soccer player. Doesn't matter who. 438 00:58:07,400 --> 00:58:13,920 Do not feel inferior or superior to anyone. That's just from an extremely selfish point 439 00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:21,160 of view or from an entirely selfish point of view. Do not feel inferior or superior 440 00:58:21,160 --> 00:58:42,640 because then you will not achieve your goals as easily. Let me get some more water. I'm 441 00:58:42,640 --> 00:58:48,840 really excited to post this episode because this is my first episode with a good quality 442 00:58:48,840 --> 00:58:56,120 microphone and I'm really excited to see my future growth because this is a milestone 443 00:58:56,120 --> 00:59:04,720 in my channel. Episode 21 was a huge milestone for me and episode 10 simply because episode 444 00:59:04,720 --> 00:59:14,400 10 I hit double digits so that was a milestone. Episode 21 was a huge milestone as well because 445 00:59:14,400 --> 00:59:24,400 then I entered the 1% club of top 1% podcasts in the world. And this episode is a milestone 446 00:59:24,400 --> 00:59:33,840 for me as well because it's the first time I have a better, a real good microphone. So 447 00:59:33,840 --> 00:59:43,120 I hope you guys enjoyed this episode. And this stuff do not take lighthearted. Take, 448 00:59:43,120 --> 00:59:52,920 put it into your body. Take it to heart because this stuff is an extremely important topic. 449 00:59:52,920 --> 01:00:02,900 Don't place excess meaning on it either because that's important. Have fun in your journeys 450 01:00:02,900 --> 01:00:08,240 and I'm on a journey as well. To wrap things up, don't forget to download your favorite 451 01:00:08,240 --> 01:00:16,400 episodes and subscribe to the Ascend Momentum Show. But before you guys leave, make sure 452 01:00:16,400 --> 01:00:33,200 to remember the Eagles.