Expand Your Comfort Zone to Achieve Anything

1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:06,040 So the big question is this, how do young men like us, who didn't listen to society, 2 00:00:06,040 --> 00:00:13,400 who are on our own, how do we grow and improve ourselves so that we can live a better tomorrow? 3 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:16,440 That is a question and this show will give you the answers. 4 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:28,080 My name is James Radzinski and welcome to the Ascend Momentum Show. 5 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:30,000 Welcome back everyone. 6 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:38,520 So yesterday was an amazing day and I'm going to be honest, today was not that great of 7 00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:39,520 a day. 8 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:48,360 So what happened, I did my normal stuff but today I'm enrolled in this class in school 9 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:55,680 for my senior year which starts next week in one, in literally six days, next Tuesday 10 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:58,160 and Tuesday is Wednesday. 11 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:04,640 And I'm enrolled in this class which is basically the leadership class where the seniors are 12 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:05,640 leaders. 13 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:18,120 There's like, it's really only for seniors and the leaders like select few seniors become 14 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:19,440 leaders. 15 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:27,520 So our grade probably has like 800 or 900 kids in it and maybe like 200 or 300 people are 16 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:32,120 leaders and I was chosen to be a leader and so I accepted. 17 00:01:32,120 --> 00:01:41,760 That was last winter and it's August right now so that was like December. 18 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:51,600 And when I originally got the email to be invited, I initially rejected, like not, I 19 00:01:51,600 --> 00:01:56,120 didn't send them a message saying I'd say no, I just said, I told my parents and I said 20 00:01:56,120 --> 00:01:58,080 I'm not doing this. 21 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:06,040 And then they told me to, they told me don't reject it right away. 22 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:12,160 And so I was like okay and then I let it sit and then I realized that the reason why I'm 23 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:17,520 rejecting this was because I was uncomfortable and I was scared. 24 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:29,520 And so I ended up accepting it and so that was January and I was into it. 25 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:34,840 And then I started getting really deep into self-improvement and started getting really 26 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:37,280 into business. 27 00:02:37,280 --> 00:02:44,800 And over like the beginning of September this thought went, like started in my mind, a seed 28 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:50,080 was planted in my mind saying that, or not September, the beginning of the summer, that's 29 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:51,160 what I'm going to say. 30 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:58,260 A seed was planted in my mind saying that I need to get out of school as soon as possible. 31 00:02:58,260 --> 00:03:08,640 So throughout summer that seed grew and grew and grew until eventually I, it was that thought 32 00:03:08,640 --> 00:03:19,440 in my mind was so strong I took action on it and over the past couple days I've been, 33 00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:29,200 well on Monday I went in and deleted all my stuff from my schedule but my schedule was 34 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:30,440 not good enough. 35 00:03:30,440 --> 00:03:37,400 I still had leadership and calculus which were not required classes. 36 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:45,680 So I was going to get out maybe like two or three hours later than I should have, or than 37 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:47,720 the minimum. 38 00:03:47,720 --> 00:04:00,560 So today I was, today was a thing that we had to go to as leaders where we had to give 39 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:05,880 tours to the freshmen, the incoming freshmen, give them tours of their new classes when 40 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:08,360 they pick up their schedules. 41 00:04:08,360 --> 00:04:15,780 So we basically just had to go for like two hours and give them tours. 42 00:04:15,780 --> 00:04:16,780 So I did that. 43 00:04:16,780 --> 00:04:20,120 It was alright and I was not uncomfortable at all. 44 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:21,960 I was completely calm. 45 00:04:21,960 --> 00:04:29,400 It was just not a waste of time but I could have used the time on business and I didn't 46 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:32,280 really grow that much from the experience. 47 00:04:32,280 --> 00:04:41,240 I mean I grew and it was a good experience and I'm grateful but the reality is I would 48 00:04:41,240 --> 00:04:51,800 have had much more benefit going to the park shirtless and barefoot instead with my friend. 49 00:04:51,800 --> 00:05:02,000 But other than that my plan was to go to that thing and then talk to my leadership teacher 50 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:04,760 about dropping out of the class. 51 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:09,020 And then after that I was going to talk to my counselor about dropping, actually taking 52 00:05:09,020 --> 00:05:19,640 the step to dropping me out of, unenrolling me out of that class and also the, and then 53 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:33,160 I was going to have my counselor take all of the, sorry guys I'm not in, this episode 54 00:05:33,160 --> 00:05:35,040 is not going really good. 55 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:41,040 I gotta focus. 56 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:51,320 Okay so I had my counselor, I was planning on going to the counselor to drop all of my 57 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:58,080 classes except for my required classes but neither of those things happened. 58 00:05:58,080 --> 00:06:03,400 The leadership teacher was in a meeting so I couldn't talk and she wanted to reschedule 59 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:12,040 to this Sunday night for the training session for Husky Kickoff Day which is just the first 60 00:06:12,040 --> 00:06:18,280 day of school for freshmen and no other grade levels go to school that day. 61 00:06:18,280 --> 00:06:23,600 Like freshmen get a first day of school and then everyone else starts the next day. 62 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:29,840 It's just for the freshmen to get their classes and all that. 63 00:06:29,840 --> 00:06:39,720 But I, she wanted to do it then and as you guys know I go to bed at 6.30pm and I don't 64 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:42,920 like staying up late for bad reasons. 65 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:48,880 And so with a combination of me wanting to drop out of that class and the training session 66 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:56,720 was at like 7pm at night, I was not about to, I do not want to go to it. 67 00:06:56,720 --> 00:07:05,400 So I was like bummed after I received that text because I was at the school already waiting 68 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:12,560 to receive that text from her and so she said she was in a meeting. 69 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:18,360 So then I was like okay I'll figure this out and then I instantly felt like demotivated, 70 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:25,200 felt really sad, felt like my heart and mind were disconnected again. 71 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:32,120 And then so I decided to just try and go to my counselor's office to set up my schedule 72 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:42,480 to where all they had to do was to, I was going to actually get rid of my calculus class 73 00:07:42,480 --> 00:07:47,200 which is not required and then organize my schedule so that all I would have to do is 74 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:51,480 drop out of leadership and then the schedule would be perfect. 75 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:56,360 But then none of my counselors, none of the counselors were there so I couldn't do that 76 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:58,800 either. 77 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:08,960 So I just had to go home, eat, and then I attempted to distract myself by going on Click 78 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:16,040 Funnels and starting to build the flower funnel for the flower shop, the business that, my 79 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:17,720 first client. 80 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:20,520 So I was like okay I might as well do something productive today. 81 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:23,800 So I started to build that but I was just not getting in the zone. 82 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:28,640 My heart and mind were disconnected and I wasn't doing very well. 83 00:08:28,640 --> 00:08:35,320 So I went upstairs and ate food, or like I ate a pineapple. 84 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:42,800 To try and distract myself I practiced balancing on this medicine ball that I bought. 85 00:08:42,800 --> 00:08:46,740 All attempts of distraction were unsuccessful. 86 00:08:46,740 --> 00:08:56,840 So then I just said, told my mom I can't wait until Sunday or something, I told my mom something 87 00:08:56,840 --> 00:08:59,680 and I just, I was like should I just email? 88 00:08:59,680 --> 00:09:01,560 And then she was like sure. 89 00:09:01,560 --> 00:09:09,760 So I emailed and I wrote out a very, my mom said it was a very well written email. 90 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:14,160 So I just sent that maybe 10 minutes before I got on this podcast. 91 00:09:14,160 --> 00:09:20,960 So I am not planning on checking the reply until tomorrow because I don't want to get 92 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:27,600 distracted and I want to study because I haven't studied in a long time. 93 00:09:27,600 --> 00:09:34,720 I haven't studied since like yesterday morning and I've been skipping expert secrets for 94 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:39,600 the past three days which is not good. 95 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:46,000 And I want to study at least Transurfing today so that happened. 96 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:54,440 And I'm not going to lie, right now I still kind of feel, I feel like my heart and mind 97 00:09:54,440 --> 00:10:01,200 were disconnected but then the second I sent the email and took action I was back to neutral 98 00:10:01,200 --> 00:10:06,760 and it was just up to my interpretation. 99 00:10:06,760 --> 00:10:13,800 To it was just up to my interpretation to decide how I'm feeling and honestly my subconscious 100 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:21,080 interpretation was, and probably conscious as well, was to stay feeling like this when 101 00:10:21,080 --> 00:10:27,320 I could have chosen to be happy and get on a positive lifeline. 102 00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:31,520 So I'm going to change that. 103 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:34,520 Right now. 104 00:10:34,520 --> 00:10:37,520 Okay. 105 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:41,520 Let's go. 106 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:43,520 Alright. 107 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:48,080 I, future's looking good. 108 00:10:48,080 --> 00:10:50,560 I have a client. 109 00:10:50,560 --> 00:10:55,080 Right now I'm still like on the gray. 110 00:10:55,080 --> 00:10:57,640 My mood is gray. 111 00:10:57,640 --> 00:10:58,640 Yesterday I was bright yellow. 112 00:10:58,640 --> 00:10:59,960 I was super happy. 113 00:10:59,960 --> 00:11:03,240 And now it's gray. 114 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:09,840 But I'm going to do a little exercise live right now that I just, just like just thought 115 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:12,120 of doing. 116 00:11:12,120 --> 00:11:15,360 Let's go dude. 117 00:11:15,360 --> 00:11:16,360 Future's looking great. 118 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:26,320 I have a, my first client so that means that I get to build her a funnel and make it successful 119 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:34,360 and make her a lot of money and then I'll be able to charge a lot of money in the future 120 00:11:34,360 --> 00:11:36,440 for my expertise. 121 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:38,000 This is huge. 122 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:40,560 This is just, I'm already on the first step. 123 00:11:40,560 --> 00:11:43,400 I am, my life, my life is great. 124 00:11:43,400 --> 00:11:45,160 My future's looking bright. 125 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:52,360 I'm already on the first step to becoming, to making my first thousand dollars. 126 00:11:52,360 --> 00:12:01,560 Like I just, my goal is five thousand dollars by September 25th. 127 00:12:01,560 --> 00:12:04,560 And right now I'm at zero and it's August 9th. 128 00:12:04,560 --> 00:12:12,320 But I just have to build that funnel and I feel as though I can do it and get it up live 129 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:16,200 on her computer before school even starts. 130 00:12:16,200 --> 00:12:18,000 So that's looking good. 131 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:25,320 And then I'll have so much time during school as well because I'm, my, once I get the scheduling 132 00:12:25,320 --> 00:12:36,800 thing fixed and once I get all the things worked around, worked through, I am going 133 00:12:36,800 --> 00:12:43,600 to have only three periods of the day instead of eight. 134 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:48,920 So I will have a first period which will be English, a second period which will be the 135 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:54,000 other English class, and a third period which will be gym. 136 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:58,800 And then fourth period will be lunch and then the rest is dismissal so I'll just leave after 137 00:12:58,800 --> 00:13:02,160 gym. 138 00:13:02,160 --> 00:13:10,920 And this will be huge because I'll be able to get out at maybe ten o'clock after third 139 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:22,400 period and honestly I can, since it's gym class, gym would be one third of my day. 140 00:13:22,400 --> 00:13:25,280 So the day would not even be that bad. 141 00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:28,680 I just have to do two English classes and then gym. 142 00:13:28,680 --> 00:13:32,240 And those English classes are not going to be that hard because I'm going to go to, I'm 143 00:13:32,240 --> 00:13:37,040 going to tell my counselor to give me the easiest English classes possible. 144 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:43,080 So I won't have homework and if I do I'll just do it in English class, the next English 145 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:47,600 class or I'll do it in that current one. 146 00:13:47,600 --> 00:13:56,960 And yeah, so, future is actually looking really good. 147 00:13:56,960 --> 00:13:58,600 Things are just looking good. 148 00:13:58,600 --> 00:14:06,320 I just was nervous this morning because change was happening and I misinterpreted it even 149 00:14:06,320 --> 00:14:09,640 though it was positive, it was actually being beneficial towards me. 150 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:16,560 The world is making changes to push me towards my lifeline and I didn't, I interpreted the 151 00:14:16,560 --> 00:14:23,720 change as bad when in reality it was actually good and I just didn't see how it was good, 152 00:14:23,720 --> 00:14:25,600 what it was. 153 00:14:25,600 --> 00:14:32,480 And I just got to get better at interpreting things as positive because really the world 154 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:55,920 is taking care of me and everything that happens is to my benefit. 155 00:14:55,920 --> 00:15:12,840 So I felt a lot better and I'm not going to lie, I've been going to bed late, like an 156 00:15:12,840 --> 00:15:20,440 hour late past two days and it's unacceptable, I need to be on top of my health. 157 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:26,440 Over the past two days I've been saying like, oh this is for a good reason. 158 00:15:26,440 --> 00:15:32,680 Yeah, it was for a good reason but I could have done a better job planning and keeping 159 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:35,160 my health as priority. 160 00:15:35,160 --> 00:15:44,880 So today I'm not going to be doing that, I'm going to be going to bed at my normal time. 161 00:15:44,880 --> 00:15:51,600 I actually reworked my night time routine and my morning routine, so I have the same 162 00:15:51,600 --> 00:16:00,400 morning routine but for context I bought a medicine ball, it's just like this small soccer 163 00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:05,080 ball size ball which is 10 pounds. 164 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:09,000 Medicine ball you might have seen at the gym, people like to throw it on the ground. 165 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:14,800 I've seen big ones, small ones but the one I got is about the same size as a size 5, 166 00:16:14,800 --> 00:16:17,440 soccer ball, maybe slightly bigger. 167 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:26,200 So if you know how big a soccer ball is, like a normal professional sized soccer ball, then 168 00:16:26,200 --> 00:16:34,080 it's just slightly bigger and I bought it, it's 10 pounds, soccer ball is not 10 pounds, 169 00:16:34,080 --> 00:16:39,120 so you can't really kick it like a soccer ball, it's like a weight essentially, but 170 00:16:39,120 --> 00:16:40,120 it's a ball. 171 00:16:40,120 --> 00:16:48,800 And I bought that because one of the things that I'm going to be doing soon actually is 172 00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:54,240 going to Hawaii and surfing and becoming a surfer. 173 00:16:54,240 --> 00:17:08,840 My plan is to make some money, make $5,000 before September 25th and then go to Funnel 174 00:17:08,840 --> 00:17:17,360 Hacking Live which is on September 27th with my friend Franklin and then stay there for 175 00:17:17,360 --> 00:17:24,080 like 3 or 4 days however long the event is and decide if we want to stay at Florida or 176 00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:28,480 go back home or we'll decide, whatever. 177 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:34,000 And Funnel Hacking Live will be huge because I'll be able to learn a lot about entrepreneurship, 178 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:41,120 marketing, pretty much has the possibility to change my life. 179 00:17:41,120 --> 00:17:50,120 So I'll do that and then I'll come home probably and finish out the school year and make enough 180 00:17:50,120 --> 00:18:03,680 money, like make a bunch of money, like just focus 100% on business and go to Hawaii or 181 00:18:03,680 --> 00:18:15,800 some place that's warm and has good surfing waves, surfing waves, waves for surfing. 182 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:26,040 And this will be around December, like right after I finish my first semester, it'll be 183 00:18:26,040 --> 00:18:39,400 then and it will allow me to, well once I do that I'm just going to move out on my own 184 00:18:39,400 --> 00:18:48,960 to Hawaii or wherever else and live there for however long I choose, still work on business 185 00:18:48,960 --> 00:18:53,080 but really just focus on surfing. 186 00:18:53,080 --> 00:19:01,000 And my plan is to, once I, second I land, I'm going to go bald, I'm going to shave off 187 00:19:01,000 --> 00:19:09,680 all my hair because right now I have the surfer, let me look up surfer dude hair. 188 00:19:09,680 --> 00:19:16,160 Uh, yeah right now I basically have the surfer dude hair but it's not really that long, it's 189 00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:19,440 just like decently long. 190 00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:32,320 It's not like past, past my collarbone, it's not past my chin either, it's like, I don't 191 00:19:32,320 --> 00:19:40,680 know it doesn't matter but I have like surfer dude hair kind of and right now I don't know 192 00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:43,600 how to surf and my balance is terrible. 193 00:19:43,600 --> 00:19:51,120 And so that's why I bought the medicine ball because I'm practicing balancing on it, like 194 00:19:51,120 --> 00:19:56,680 standing on it and doing squats on it, doing many different exercises to practice my balance. 195 00:19:56,680 --> 00:20:01,360 I'm doing that 10 minutes every day right after my meditation in the morning. 196 00:20:01,360 --> 00:20:07,680 I just add it right after my meditation, my breath work, 10 minutes every day and that 197 00:20:07,680 --> 00:20:12,920 will build up my balance by the time it's, by the time I'm ready to start learning how 198 00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:17,560 to surf I'll be at an advantage than I would have been otherwise. 199 00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:29,360 But also, but then once I get to, once I get to Hawaii or wherever I go, once I get there 200 00:20:29,360 --> 00:20:34,920 for the first time I will be terrible at surfing because I've never done it before. 201 00:20:34,920 --> 00:20:39,720 That's just how everyone is with every skill. 202 00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:50,800 And so I will shave my head bald and that is because I want to, I want the hair growth 203 00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:56,960 to be incongruent with my surfing growth. 204 00:20:56,960 --> 00:21:01,440 So I want my hair to grow as I become a better surfer. 205 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:07,160 And then by the time I'm a very good surfer my hair will be long again and it will be 206 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:11,160 the surfer dude hair again. 207 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:15,000 And so that's, that's my plan. 208 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:25,960 Go to Hawaii, go bald, learn how to surf. 209 00:21:25,960 --> 00:21:31,560 Yeah and so I'm really excited for the future. 210 00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:34,720 And I know that the world is going to take care of it for me. 211 00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:41,920 I just have to keep moving forward and just things like this, I just gotta, things like 212 00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:52,680 what happened today, how I interpreted change as bad and instantly felt sad or like disconnected, 213 00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:53,920 felt down. 214 00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:59,400 I gotta interpret change as good because that's the world pushing me forward, the world helping 215 00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:09,320 me along my way. 216 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:15,760 Yeah so I gotta, I really gotta get in on reading Transurfing Everyday because I have 217 00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:21,800 been reading it pretty much everyday but yesterday I only read it for like 10 minutes and today 218 00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:23,920 I haven't even read it yet. 219 00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:31,000 So I'm gonna read it right before bed, hopefully get a 30 minutes at least in. 220 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:39,440 And I gotta keep reading Transurfing because I'm on the foundation part so I'm trying to 221 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:47,840 really get it in, really trying to get all that stuff in. 222 00:22:47,840 --> 00:22:53,080 And I'm really excited to get to Intention which we'll talk about, Inner Intention and 223 00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:55,840 Outer Intention. 224 00:22:55,840 --> 00:23:01,000 And I understand, I like know of the concepts but I don't really have a deep understanding 225 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:02,000 of it. 226 00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:07,160 I don't really have a deep understanding of any of this stuff in Transurfing but studying 227 00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:09,560 it is definitely helping me. 228 00:23:09,560 --> 00:23:12,320 And the only way to do it is by doing it everyday. 229 00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:20,760 And right now I'm kinda falling off so I gotta catch myself back. 230 00:23:20,760 --> 00:23:26,000 I really gotta set my routine because a lot of things are popping up that I'm not preparing 231 00:23:26,000 --> 00:23:28,320 for, not planning well for. 232 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:38,000 For example, yesterday we spent the whole day at the mall talking to girls and I didn't 233 00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:46,120 prepare for that to take that long but I should have done everything beforehand so I didn't 234 00:23:46,120 --> 00:23:48,760 have to do anything after. 235 00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:52,920 Stuff like that. 236 00:23:52,920 --> 00:24:06,280 Okay so as I'm writing, or as I'm talking on these podcasts I want you guys to take 237 00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:08,800 note of my tone. 238 00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:17,240 So today my tone is a lot less excited, a lot less joyful as yesterday. 239 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:20,800 And yesterday was probably a lot more than the day before. 240 00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:27,040 And that's just, I'm not sure if that is what it's supposed to be. 241 00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:38,480 I'm not sure if I should be happy all the time or if it's normal in Transurfing terms 242 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:44,200 to have high days and low days. 243 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:45,200 I'm not sure. 244 00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:49,640 I'm not sure what it is but for now I'm just interpreting it as normal. 245 00:24:49,640 --> 00:25:00,080 I just want you guys to know that my path is really a roller coaster and your journey 246 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:06,040 is going to be a roller coaster as well. 247 00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:15,120 I've noticed that over this past summer I started on the lowest part of the track and 248 00:25:15,120 --> 00:25:28,560 let me get some water, I have to pick up this. 249 00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:40,700 I notice, okay so I'm going to write down life as a roller coaster. 250 00:25:40,700 --> 00:25:46,640 So in the beginning of summer I started at the bottom of the track on the roller coaster 251 00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:53,240 just at the ground level and I had a little ups and then I went back down. 252 00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:56,120 Every once in a while I'd go up a little bit and then go right back down. 253 00:25:56,120 --> 00:26:05,760 Just slight bumps and those bumps represent joy, like high points, good moments. 254 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:10,080 So the more bumps the better obviously and you would actually want your baseline to be 255 00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:12,640 higher. 256 00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:18,480 So in the beginning of this summer and even like before but I'm going to use the beginning 257 00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:29,560 of this summer as a time frame and this year is 2023 and the beginning of this summer is 258 00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:32,480 my baseline was zero. 259 00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:37,320 We're just going to reset the baseline to zero even though I was like better than four 260 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:43,800 months before, let's just start with zero at the beginning of summer for simplistic 261 00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:47,600 sake. 262 00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:52,280 So I would ride on the track flat just like it was a train and then every once in a while 263 00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:58,880 there would be a bump of happiness or good moment and then it would go down back to my 264 00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:04,040 baseline and the baseline of zero doesn't necessarily mean bad, like I'm not happy, 265 00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:05,680 it just means neutral. 266 00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:09,040 That's where I'm neutral, I'm not happy or sad. 267 00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:12,000 I was just pushing along. 268 00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:23,120 And then over the couple weeks as I was getting to know my friend Franklin who I had just, 269 00:27:23,120 --> 00:27:32,680 I met him a long time ago like maybe in middle school and but we never really talked and 270 00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:38,600 we just played like video games every once in a while together a long time ago. 271 00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:45,080 We weren't like really friends and then once I saw him at the gym this one time and we 272 00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:51,200 both like started talking and then we both realized that each of us were on self-improvement 273 00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:57,940 which was an awesome experience to have because just over the past couple weeks or months 274 00:27:57,940 --> 00:28:03,800 we were both thinking like there's no one else at this school that is like me and then 275 00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:12,240 turns out that there was and we just hadn't like met each other yet, like officially knew 276 00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:16,720 that each other were on this path. 277 00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:28,640 And so I, so as I was, that was when I like met my friend, that was in the beginning of 278 00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:34,520 summer so my baseline was zero and then slowly as more bumps, I would hit a bump and then 279 00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:37,960 I would go back down but this time I wouldn't go all the way back down to the baseline. 280 00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:42,440 My new baseline would be a little bit higher. 281 00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:47,440 And then I would just keep going up, like I would just stay at the baseline and then 282 00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:54,680 another bump and then over time these bumps would get closer and closer to where they 283 00:28:54,680 --> 00:29:08,300 were happy and maybe once every couple weeks to once a week to once every couple days. 284 00:29:08,300 --> 00:29:16,040 And if you guys like listen back on the podcast you could probably tell that yesterday was 285 00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:22,560 my bump and I went back down to the baseline but just a little bit above the baseline right 286 00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:34,560 now and so my baseline now is higher than it was last week and I'm just now realizing 287 00:29:34,560 --> 00:29:40,640 that I do have, I am on a roller coaster or I am on a train, a train ride. 288 00:29:40,640 --> 00:30:01,120 I'm gonna say life is a, life is a, or life is an unusual train ride. 289 00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:05,760 Because that's more indicative of life than a roller coaster because a roller coaster 290 00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:10,960 goes all the way up, all the way down, flips like all that stuff. 291 00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:14,680 Yeah life is like that but actually not life. 292 00:30:14,680 --> 00:30:26,120 I'm gonna say self-improvement is an unusual roller coaster. 293 00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:35,280 So as long as you keep walking forward, keep going at it, keep pushing your baseline will 294 00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:37,040 just get higher and higher every day. 295 00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:43,960 And today I was like, I'm not gonna lie, I was just on my phone looking for something 296 00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:45,240 to distract myself with. 297 00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:56,480 I was on the podcast like reading episode descriptions on a podcast to try and distract 298 00:30:56,480 --> 00:31:02,920 myself and then I saw this one guy who's like reverse aging so I, that caught my eye so 299 00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:11,920 I just started looking at his stuff and then I caught myself maybe, I knew that I was not 300 00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:18,360 doing, I knew that I shouldn't be doing that like the whole time but then eventually I 301 00:31:18,360 --> 00:31:25,800 was like dude what am I doing after like 10 minutes or 20 minutes of doing that and then 302 00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:32,640 I went back upstairs and then that's where the beginning of the episode I told you, I 303 00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:37,000 told my mom I can't wait any longer. 304 00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:47,920 So then I made an email, sent it to my teachers and counselors and then now I'm good. 305 00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:59,800 Okay so this, so right now I'm just on the decline of the bump. 306 00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:06,760 So you go up, yesterday was my up and then this morning was my down and now I'm at my 307 00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:16,840 new baseline after sending the email and so now soon my next up will happen. 308 00:32:16,840 --> 00:32:22,800 Maybe when I, maybe the park tomorrow my friend and I are going to the park tomorrow because 309 00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:31,160 we skipped today because I had to go to do tours, give tours to the freshmen. 310 00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:43,600 Not a valid reason to skip but it's okay. 311 00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:48,360 Maybe it's because I didn't go to the park today, maybe the park is just so important 312 00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:59,760 now that if I don't go then I'm just not as good or as happy or whatever during the day 313 00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:08,640 maybe it's also because for the past two days I've been going to bed at like 730 instead 314 00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:14,440 of 630 staying up late but I don't know it'll all work out. 315 00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:21,640 I'm going to bed at 630 today and also I'm going to the park tomorrow so I'm back on 316 00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:25,160 routine tomorrow. 317 00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:32,400 I was going to go on this live training that Russell Brunson that I signed up for from 318 00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:39,400 Russell Brunson like a funnel builder training but I'm not going to do that because I think 319 00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:48,640 I'd have more value studying his book Expert Secrets than going on his training simply 320 00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:56,320 because when you see something you forget it but when you hear something you forget 321 00:33:56,320 --> 00:34:02,960 it which is like watching the training video like listening to him talk and then when you 322 00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:07,080 see something you remember it which is like reading and when you do something you understand 323 00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:13,960 it which is like building a funnel for a client, my first client. 324 00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:19,000 But tomorrow I'll be studying Expert Secrets and building that funnel. 325 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:22,560 Man I'm back on routine tomorrow. 326 00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:31,000 Tomorrow's Thursday and then Friday we're going back to the mall I think to yeah we're 327 00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:38,880 going back to the mall to ask for some more girls numbers. 328 00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:43,760 Expand our comfort zone one more time because we already did the hard part so. 329 00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:50,520 On not tomorrow on Friday I meant Friday we're going to do that and so we're just going to 330 00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:56,120 do that and then we already did the hard part the first day was like 100% fear and then 331 00:34:56,120 --> 00:35:00,480 on Friday when we go it'll be like maybe 50 to 30%. 332 00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:06,000 I don't really know because my framework of 100% fear the first time and then 50% fear 333 00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:14,360 the second time was based off of going to one customer or like one business every day 334 00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:28,880 which was like one minute every day but yesterday we went to maybe 10 girls in like three hours. 335 00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:36,240 So that is like we talked to 10 girls in like three hours so I don't know how that will 336 00:35:36,240 --> 00:35:43,040 work because we did a lot more but it was a lot more dense so who knows maybe we'll 337 00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:52,080 be at 0% discomfort on Friday or we'll be at 50% who knows we'll see. 338 00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:59,720 Right now I feel like I could do it so I feel like I'm at less than 50% comfort for that 339 00:35:59,720 --> 00:36:06,240 particular task like of asking for girls numbers. 340 00:36:06,240 --> 00:36:10,520 So yeah that is something. 341 00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:16,560 Let me look up how to expand my comfort zone because asking for girls numbers is going 342 00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:22,040 to get really easy really quick just like going to local businesses is and by the way 343 00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:27,680 I said I was going to go to one local business every single day for the rest of like summer. 344 00:36:27,680 --> 00:36:29,000 Yeah I stopped. 345 00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:36,560 Today was the last, yesterday was the last day because I now have to focus 100% of my 346 00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:42,800 time on building that funnel for that one business that I actually my first acceptance 347 00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:45,960 my first client. 348 00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:54,520 So I don't want to go to new businesses one because it's not uncomfortable anymore I can 349 00:36:54,520 --> 00:37:06,120 do it easily so it's not worth my time just for the discomfort but two I don't want to 350 00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:09,920 put on more work and divide my attention over multiple businesses. 351 00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:16,320 I want to focus 100% on one business and get it extremely successful. 352 00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:27,040 Alright so I'm going to look up how to expand my comfort zone. 353 00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:33,000 Oh and that's one thing. 354 00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:41,560 Do not you guys need to alright so I made a commitment to you guys like five days ago 355 00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:47,920 to go to one business every single day and I broke it today. 356 00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:51,680 Well technically I haven't broken it yet because I could still go after this episode but I'm 357 00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:55,000 not going to go and so that's one thing. 358 00:37:55,000 --> 00:38:00,820 You guys should know that it's okay to break your commitment as long as something comes 359 00:38:00,820 --> 00:38:05,560 up like for example the thing that came up for me was that it's not worth it to do it 360 00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:11,120 anymore I get way more benefit not doing it so that's the only reason why it's you guys 361 00:38:11,120 --> 00:38:17,360 could go against your commitment because if you would have more benefit not doing it for 362 00:38:17,360 --> 00:38:22,240 me it would just be adding on more unnecessary work because I know that I could get more 363 00:38:22,240 --> 00:38:28,320 people to accept me and I don't want to work on multiple businesses at once I want to just 364 00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:35,600 focus on one and it's not uncomfortable anymore so I'm not getting benefit on that aspect. 365 00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:40,440 But when it's not okay to go against your commitment is when you're just being a wuss 366 00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:48,720 and you think that you could you don't want to do it that day and trust me every single 367 00:38:48,720 --> 00:38:52,860 day I didn't want to do it and I had moments where I didn't want to do it whether I told 368 00:38:52,860 --> 00:38:58,520 you guys or not I think there were days where I did tell you and I always just passed through 369 00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:03,620 it like that's the difference between successful people and not successful people is the successful 370 00:39:03,620 --> 00:39:11,800 people just do it they just walk pass through that mental emotion and figure out how to 371 00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:18,000 make it work and not successful people just succumb to the thought. 372 00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:26,760 Alright so I'm looking at this I just looked up how to expand your comfort zone. 373 00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:30,820 This is an interesting picture that I just saw. 374 00:39:30,820 --> 00:39:37,520 So it's a circle with a circle around it but it's slightly to the side so it's kind of 375 00:39:37,520 --> 00:39:45,640 like so the alright so it's like a circle and a circle and a circle but they're all 376 00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:50,040 not in the center this circle originates on the left side and then it just expands to 377 00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:51,660 the right words. 378 00:39:51,660 --> 00:39:55,880 You can probably see that picture too same picture that I'm seeing if you look up on 379 00:39:55,880 --> 00:40:03,840 Google how to expand my comfort zone and this picture is the first circle is comfort zone 380 00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:14,720 feel safe and in control and then the second zone is fear zone affected by others opinion 381 00:40:14,720 --> 00:40:22,640 find excuses and lack self confidence and then the third zone is the learning zone deal 382 00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:29,200 with challenges and problems acquire new skills extend the comfort zone so the learn it looks 383 00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:38,200 like the learning zone is where you actually start to extend the comfort zone and the fourth 384 00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:44,720 circle the fourth zone is called the growth zone and it's find purpose live dreams set 385 00:40:44,720 --> 00:40:47,880 new goals realize aspirations. 386 00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:55,840 Now if I were to just look at that picture two days ago maybe even before I went to the 387 00:40:55,840 --> 00:41:01,040 mall yesterday I would not have understand this picture at all but since I took action 388 00:41:01,040 --> 00:41:07,960 and if you guys haven't listened to episode 20 last episode definitely listen to it that 389 00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:18,720 is the best episode I've ever made and the second best is episode 14 but this picture 390 00:41:18,720 --> 00:41:26,040 is so important because the growth zone you have to go through the fear zone and the learning 391 00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:32,120 zone in order to make it to the growth zone so the fear zone let's I'm going to talk about 392 00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:37,760 this in the context of approaching a girl cold approaching a girl and asking for a number 393 00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:44,520 so the comfort zone is before you come up with the idea to cold approach and then the 394 00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:49,800 second the idea comes up to your head to cold approach you enter the fear zone where you're 395 00:41:49,800 --> 00:41:56,040 affected by the others opinions you've tried to find excuses like a lot of the excuses 396 00:41:56,040 --> 00:42:03,160 that popped up yesterday at the mall was she's with her mom she's got friends around her 397 00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:07,460 there's like a lot of different excuses and sometimes the excuses just didn't even make 398 00:42:07,460 --> 00:42:13,240 sense like I am not going to look not going to do this one even though it was just us 399 00:42:13,240 --> 00:42:21,240 being a wuss and so that's finding excuses and then lack self-confidence I'm not sure 400 00:42:21,240 --> 00:42:28,600 if I necessarily lack the self-confidence actually no I definitely did because I would 401 00:42:28,600 --> 00:42:34,840 like walked up to the first girl trembling in my like shaking in my voice so I definitely 402 00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:44,840 lacked self-confidence and then once you enter the learning zone that is when you actually 403 00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:52,960 start speaking with the girl literally the second you start speaking with the girls when 404 00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:59,280 you enter the learning zone or maybe even after I don't know how this really relates 405 00:42:59,280 --> 00:43:06,640 to this particular example where you deal with challenges and problems acquire new skills 406 00:43:06,640 --> 00:43:12,600 yes so the acquire new skills you would actually yeah that's when you talk to the girl you 407 00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:16,760 actually take action you acquire new skills and then also extend the comfort zone that 408 00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:24,440 is where yeah talking to the girls that and then because I'm not sure if I'm really interpreting 409 00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:30,360 this picture 100% accurately I didn't read the article that goes along with it I just 410 00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:38,120 looked it up just now but the learning zone also has extend the comfort zone so that extends 411 00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:43,080 and what I was talking about yesterday about once you take action you release your access 412 00:43:43,080 --> 00:43:50,160 potential and it turns into pure intention and pure intention is all you need to achieve 413 00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:58,640 your goals and so the growth zone is find purpose live dreams the way you do that you 414 00:43:58,640 --> 00:44:04,640 find a purpose and then you set new goals and yeah set new goals realize aspirations 415 00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:09,400 are the other two things so you find your purpose and then you set the goals and then 416 00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:15,320 you realize your aspirations and then you live the dreams so that is literally the growth 417 00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:20,280 zone and you have to go through the fear zone the learning zone until you get to the growth 418 00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:25,520 zone and honestly the fear zone is the hardest part it's directly outside of your comfort 419 00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:32,920 zone and so the second you it's the hardest part to walk up to a girl it's easy to walk 420 00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:37,960 up to a girl but it's the hardest part to actually begin the conversation but the second 421 00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:45,480 you start talking to her you're already in so you might as well keep talking and then 422 00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:53,560 you the second even the second you start talking to her if you just walk away literally you 423 00:44:53,560 --> 00:44:59,040 say one word and then walk away that's still expanding your comfort zone then the next 424 00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:04,720 time if you like saying two words and then walk away like that is another expanding your 425 00:45:04,720 --> 00:45:11,120 comfort zone and then eventually you'll be able to start a whole conversation and that's 426 00:45:11,120 --> 00:45:22,520 like this literally walking up to a girl and what's it called walking up to a girl and 427 00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:29,680 actually starting a conversation is probably the hardest thing to do if you have built 428 00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:34,520 up a lot of access potential and if you're like most people you have built up a lot of 429 00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:45,160 access potential and that's that excess potential gets built up through many ways like putting 430 00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:54,080 girls on pedestals like making them giving them more value than they actually are just 431 00:45:54,080 --> 00:46:04,360 all that stuff and that when it's just think about it like this when you're walking up 432 00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:11,520 to a girl and you're like brain is exploding you're start dying like you're literally you 433 00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:17,040 feel like you're about like you know that feeling if you start walking up to a girl 434 00:46:17,040 --> 00:46:24,800 and then you just start going like your brain starts just goes numb or something like that 435 00:46:24,800 --> 00:46:30,360 I don't know how to describe it but that is because all that excess potential is affecting 436 00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:37,640 you and then the second you take action and start a conversation you just dissipate all 437 00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:42,680 of the excess potential and by the way excess potential decreases your influence on the 438 00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:46,760 world so if you have a lot of excess potential you're not going to have that much influence 439 00:46:46,760 --> 00:46:51,640 on the world which means you're not going to be able to achieve your goals and when 440 00:46:51,640 --> 00:46:58,920 you take action and start a conversation you one dissipate the excess potential which allows 441 00:46:58,920 --> 00:47:03,000 you to have more influence in the world like you actually should so you can achieve your 442 00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:15,520 goals but two it actually converts the excess potential into pure intention and pure intention 443 00:47:15,520 --> 00:47:23,680 is happens when excess potential gets converted through action so when you take action excess 444 00:47:23,680 --> 00:47:31,880 potential converts into pure intention and pure intention is the only thing that is needed 445 00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:37,840 to achieve your goals literally just pure intention and then you can live in Hawaii 446 00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:52,640 and surf all day so that's huge taking action it's so it's like a double double effect 447 00:47:52,640 --> 00:48:04,880 oh wow okay this is the the next picture that i just looked at expanding your comfort zone 448 00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:10,680 the comfort zone you are experiencing right now is familiar and safe however everything 449 00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:17,580 you have ever wanted lies outside its boundaries to get to your goal you will need to overcome 450 00:48:17,580 --> 00:48:27,360 problems and uncertainty it's those who are willing to risk it all that end up victorious 451 00:48:27,360 --> 00:48:36,840 man that is i i actually understand that sentence if you were to read that sentence to me yesterday 452 00:48:36,840 --> 00:48:42,680 before i went to the mall or a month ago i would not have understood as well as i do 453 00:48:42,680 --> 00:48:53,080 now i would have like said oh yeah you have to go through your comfort zone to like achieve 454 00:48:53,080 --> 00:48:59,480 your goals but i wouldn't have actually interpreted it how i did right now and this interpretation 455 00:48:59,480 --> 00:49:06,640 is actually very interesting and i have two different reasonings behind this so in the 456 00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:14,280 first sentence the comfort zone you are experiencing right now is familiar and safe yeah let's 457 00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:19,400 okay let's just move on to the second sentence however everything you have ever wanted lies 458 00:49:19,400 --> 00:49:25,640 outside its boundaries yeah so there's a reason why you don't have you're not living in hawaii 459 00:49:25,640 --> 00:49:31,240 right now because it's outside of your comfort zone there's a reason why and you're actually 460 00:49:31,240 --> 00:49:38,000 holding yourself back because you're too you're you want you choose comfort the knowledge 461 00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:48,000 of being in your current area right now current part of your life over the discomfort of hawaii 462 00:49:48,000 --> 00:49:54,700 which you know hawaii is comfortable but you're just discomfort uncomfortable about moving 463 00:49:54,700 --> 00:50:01,180 towards that which doesn't make any sense but that's how everyone is and the difference 464 00:50:01,180 --> 00:50:06,460 and then the last sentence i'm going to skip the third sentence for now and that's the 465 00:50:06,460 --> 00:50:12,920 last sentence it's it's those who are willing to risk it all that end up victorious and 466 00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:19,920 that's really it's those who are willing to risk literally nothing like right now i have 467 00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:27,480 no risk but it seems like a lot of risk like if you were to ask me one year ago to start 468 00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:32,040 like to go to hawaii or do all this stuff like start a business do all this stuff that 469 00:50:32,040 --> 00:50:37,960 i'm doing right now i've been like i would have said no and i would come up with an excuse 470 00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:42,120 but in reality the reason why i did it was because i was too scared to risk my current 471 00:50:42,120 --> 00:50:49,840 position but my current position was literally a high school student living in my my 472 00:50:49,840 --> 00:50:56,000 home which is my parents house they own it so i literally have nothing to lose i have 473 00:50:56,000 --> 00:51:07,360 no risk but my brain tells me i have so much risk so that is and it's me i'm willing to 474 00:51:07,360 --> 00:51:14,640 risk it all that ends up victorious i'm willing to risk it all which is nothing because even 475 00:51:14,640 --> 00:51:22,480 if i fail my parents are still gonna take care of me but i won't fail because i am gonna 476 00:51:22,480 --> 00:51:30,340 live on my own soon and i'm gonna go to hawaii and i'm not gonna be taking i'm not gonna 477 00:51:30,340 --> 00:51:36,880 be dependent on my parents for long so that's the whole thing and i'm very by the way i'm 478 00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:45,360 very grateful for my parents taking care of me and i'm in a very good situation and i'm 479 00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:50,520 but i'm saying that everyone will if everyone was in the same situation it would still have 480 00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:57,720 a similar success and not success rate because i'm only becoming successful because i'm only 481 00:51:57,720 --> 00:52:04,800 to risk it all which in reality it is nothing that i'm risking but in my mind it is everything 482 00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:09,920 that i'm risking because my mind plays and this is just everyone the human mind plays 483 00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:16,320 so many tricks on you and lies tells yourself so many lies that try and keep you in your 484 00:52:16,320 --> 00:52:23,040 comfort zone now in the third sentence to get to your goal you will need to overcome 485 00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:28,800 problems and uncertainty i mean yeah that's just you're a discomfort zone and then when 486 00:52:28,800 --> 00:52:36,640 you take action that one increases your comfort zone but also dissipates excess potential 487 00:52:36,640 --> 00:52:40,480 yeah there's a whole thing i'm not really good at explaining this right now which means 488 00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:47,240 that i i don't understand it that well so i have to go back and study more but i kind 489 00:52:47,240 --> 00:52:51,800 of understand it in my mind i'm just not doing a good job telling you and that just shows 490 00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:59,640 that i also don't understand it as good as i should uh let me read this yeah this is 491 00:52:59,640 --> 00:53:06,160 actual steps uh it's the same picture and it says set your goal and make a public commitment 492 00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:12,200 reframe your problem in a positive and a helpful way give yourself an inspiring motivational 493 00:53:12,200 --> 00:53:21,120 talk ask solution focus questions move yourself with urgency take small gradual steps okay 494 00:53:21,120 --> 00:53:27,800 so i just read a bunch of actual ideas say you're going to make a public commitment is 495 00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:33,120 the first one i agree i didn't actually do that until i started making a podcast and 496 00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:38,160 it actually helps a lot i made a public commitment suppose every single day for a year and i'm 497 00:53:38,160 --> 00:53:46,760 already on episode 21 and the public commitment has definitely helped me get certain days 498 00:53:46,760 --> 00:53:53,680 where i didn't think that or i didn't want to upload like today was one of the days where 499 00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:57,080 i didn't want to upload i was actually like two hours ago i was actually thinking like 500 00:53:57,080 --> 00:54:04,240 i'm not uploading today i'm too i'm too sad like like my tension my inner tension is i'm 501 00:54:04,240 --> 00:54:08,800 feeling a lot of tension in my heart but i just pushed through it and did it anyways 502 00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:15,080 and now it's worth it and i did it because i made a public commitment also because i 503 00:54:15,080 --> 00:54:20,040 discipline it's one to make a public commitment but you also have to make a discipline public 504 00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:26,840 commitment is not a guarantee but it is definitely helpful because that's the extra extra external 505 00:54:26,840 --> 00:54:35,480 motivation external um like keeping you on track i don't know 506 00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:42,840 or uh reframe your problem in a positive and a healthy helpful way i don't really understand 507 00:54:42,840 --> 00:54:48,280 what that means uh so i can't really speak on that uh the next one is give yourself an 508 00:54:48,280 --> 00:54:54,880 inspiring motivational pep talk yeah those you can do that but i find that that doesn't 509 00:54:54,880 --> 00:55:00,640 really work you just have to do it uh it's just a waste of time and i actually realized 510 00:55:00,640 --> 00:55:10,920 that yesterday with uh my friend he was i mean i was doing it too but he was there's 511 00:55:10,920 --> 00:55:16,080 a lot of moments where he was not taking action when he should have and i was just giving 512 00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:20,600 him a lot of inspirational pep talks but he he still wasn't taking action and the only 513 00:55:20,600 --> 00:55:28,360 reason why he did end up taking action was because he just did it um yeah so once you 514 00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:33,840 realize that motivation does not really matter and the only way to actually get something 515 00:55:33,840 --> 00:55:39,960 done is by doing it that's when you start to become successful all right so ask the 516 00:55:39,960 --> 00:55:46,480 next one is ask solution focus questions yeah i actually think i know what that means and 517 00:55:46,480 --> 00:55:51,420 i learned that the other day literally the maybe two weeks ago and it's the difference 518 00:55:51,420 --> 00:55:57,480 between a rich person and a not rich person is the poor person says i can't afford this 519 00:55:57,480 --> 00:56:03,840 and then the rich person says how can i afford this that's a solution focused question and 520 00:56:03,840 --> 00:56:08,120 the poor person has the limited belief that they can't afford it and so they just tell 521 00:56:08,120 --> 00:56:16,200 themself they can't afford it and and the world gives them what they want but the rich 522 00:56:16,200 --> 00:56:20,320 person knows that they can't afford it but they're just trying to figure out how and 523 00:56:20,320 --> 00:56:28,840 so the world gives them what they want and they figure out how uh and then move yourself 524 00:56:28,840 --> 00:56:36,640 with urgency yeah i agree i have some urgency uh because my friend bought two tickets to 525 00:56:36,640 --> 00:56:44,160 funnel hacking live like a couple days ago so and we don't have any money for plane tickets 526 00:56:44,160 --> 00:56:49,360 so we have to have some urgency to buy the plane tickets or else my friend will be out 527 00:56:49,360 --> 00:56:57,240 two thousand dollars but we'll be we'll get there we'll do it uh and then the last one 528 00:56:57,240 --> 00:57:02,160 is take small gradual steps yeah i agree but don't limit yourself if you couldn't take 529 00:57:02,160 --> 00:57:08,720 longer bigger steps maybe yeah i don't know there's a whole thing with that of being blown 530 00:57:08,720 --> 00:57:12,320 out or burned out i don't know i haven't gotten burned out yet so i don't know 531 00:57:19,120 --> 00:57:19,680 all right so 532 00:57:19,680 --> 00:57:33,960 so yeah i'm i'm actually gonna look into oh this is dale carnegie he wrote how to win 533 00:57:33,960 --> 00:57:45,920 friends and yeah okay i'm gonna look into expanding my comfort zone because i know how 534 00:57:45,920 --> 00:57:52,240 much this is helping me in life and in business going to the mall and getting a girl's number 535 00:57:52,880 --> 00:57:59,520 expanded my comfort zone so much that literally like an hour later i was able to go to 536 00:58:00,720 --> 00:58:06,640 get my first client because i was so confident and my comfort zone was expanded to actually accept 537 00:58:08,000 --> 00:58:14,160 i have a theory before i got the girl's number getting my first client was outside of my comfort 538 00:58:14,160 --> 00:58:19,680 zone and then once i got the girl's number and took action to that was needed to get it 539 00:58:22,640 --> 00:58:30,800 um that instantly moved towards my inside of my comfort zone plus other things moved inside my 540 00:58:30,800 --> 00:58:38,960 comfort zone like okay i just came up with a whole theory so i'm kind of putting it together i'm 541 00:58:38,960 --> 00:58:44,320 pretty sure other people are already talking about this but i'm putting together what we just read 542 00:58:44,320 --> 00:58:48,880 so everything you have is in the first circle that's your comfort zone 543 00:58:52,080 --> 00:59:04,160 uh i'm gonna actually write down uh in today's lessons comfort okay comfort zone framework 544 00:59:04,160 --> 00:59:14,160 okay so now i've okay that's a comfort zone framework i just thought of it so everything 545 00:59:14,160 --> 00:59:22,640 you have is in your comfort zone and then literally everything you don't have or are trying to get 546 00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:28,560 but you have not had success is outside your comfort zone so let's say you're trying to get 547 00:59:28,560 --> 00:59:34,400 a new phone that is and you don't have it yet that's outside of your comfort zone until you get the 548 00:59:34,400 --> 00:59:43,760 new phone and so for me what i just realized is that over the past couple over past week my first 549 00:59:43,760 --> 00:59:51,280 client having my first client was outside of my comfort zone and so the way that i actually get it 550 00:59:51,280 --> 00:59:58,800 is by expanding my comfort zone to be able to get my first client i'm gonna write down first client 551 00:59:58,800 --> 01:00:17,520 but then outside of my first client is girls uh and so i had to stop the podcast but what i was 552 01:00:17,520 --> 01:00:22,720 trying to do was expand my comfort zone is 553 01:00:25,440 --> 01:00:34,800 okay so no no comfort zone my comfort zone framework so getting my first client was outside my comfort zone 554 01:00:36,080 --> 01:00:36,800 and 555 01:00:40,080 --> 01:00:45,680 the way i needed to get my first client was to expand my comfort zone and the means to do that 556 01:00:45,680 --> 01:00:50,240 but then those got dull and it wasn't expanding my comfort zone so then i went in person that 557 01:00:50,240 --> 01:00:56,560 expand my comfort zone so it kept on pushing my comfort zone out and out and out and i was just 558 01:00:56,560 --> 01:01:02,960 nearly there and then getting a girl's number was even further out of my comfort zone than getting 559 01:01:02,960 --> 01:01:09,680 my first client so then once i got my first girl's number or my first number from a girl 560 01:01:09,680 --> 01:01:18,640 uh so i expand my comfort zone to where my comfort zone now engulfed my first client so then i was 561 01:01:18,640 --> 01:01:25,920 actually capable of getting my first client and then it is now 562 01:01:27,920 --> 01:01:32,560 now a girl's number is just outside of my comfort zone so then the next time i get another girl's 563 01:01:32,560 --> 01:01:38,560 number it will get even closer into my comfort zone until after maybe two or three or four or five 564 01:01:38,560 --> 01:01:44,160 i don't know how many girls how many numbers i have to get until getting a number will be in my 565 01:01:44,160 --> 01:01:51,680 comfort zone and then that means we can expand that even further to where the next thing just 566 01:01:51,680 --> 01:02:03,120 outside my comfort zone is making my first sale so actually making money so that's outside my 567 01:02:03,120 --> 01:02:09,520 comfort zone right now because i haven't actually achieved it yet or else i would have gotten it or 568 01:02:10,400 --> 01:02:15,280 it would have been if i would have if it was in my comfort zone i would have achieved it already 569 01:02:18,240 --> 01:02:24,960 so then the way to get it is by doing something that's even further out of my comfort zone from 570 01:02:24,960 --> 01:02:29,760 the first sale which could be that's why i was looking up how to how to expand your comfort zone 571 01:02:29,760 --> 01:02:40,000 um they didn't give me any i haven't looked into like practices yet like one practice would be 572 01:02:40,000 --> 01:02:48,240 going to talk to girls but i was thinking about going to the beach with my friend shirtless 573 01:02:48,880 --> 01:02:58,160 and barefoot on at the beach of the lake right at lake michigan and talking to hot girls and 574 01:02:58,160 --> 01:03:04,320 keenies that would be the next step probably because that would be even more nerve-wracking 575 01:03:05,440 --> 01:03:07,840 i don't know what what i'll figure it out 576 01:03:11,440 --> 01:03:18,160 uh yeah so actually just kind of over the past couple days i've become 577 01:03:18,160 --> 01:03:24,400 accept obsessed with the comfort zone expanding my comfort zone because that new framework theory 578 01:03:24,400 --> 01:03:33,440 that i just discovered and actually put into words which i'm sure other people have talked about but 579 01:03:33,440 --> 01:03:37,360 i'm going to talk about it because i think i just discovered it but i'm sure other people 580 01:03:37,360 --> 01:03:44,400 have already talked about it and i'm this is this is how you become a millionaire also by 581 01:03:45,120 --> 01:03:46,320 expanding your comfort zone 582 01:03:46,320 --> 01:03:51,840 so to wrap things up don't forget to download your favorite episodes and subscribe to the ascend 583 01:03:51,840 --> 01:04:16,720 momentum show but before you guys leave make sure to remember the eagles