How to Grow

1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:07,000 The big question is this, how do young men like us who didn't listen to society, who are on our own, 2 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:11,000 how do we grow and improve ourselves so that we can live a better tomorrow? 3 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:15,000 That is the question and this show will give you the answers. 4 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:21,000 My name is James Radsinski and welcome to the Ascend Momentum Show. 5 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:31,000 So if you guys haven't listened to yesterday's episode, you should check it out. 6 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:37,000 But today was a very good day. 7 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:43,000 Today, let me give some context if you haven't listened to yesterday's episode. 8 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:51,000 We, me and my friend, made a commitment to go to... 9 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:55,000 So first of all, let me give some more context. 10 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:58,000 Me and my friend are about to be seniors in high school. 11 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:05,000 We're both broke and we're both trying to essentially make money online through entrepreneurship. 12 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:11,000 And we're both broke right now. Our income is zero. 13 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:17,000 And yesterday, and some of the... 14 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:23,000 The person that we're studying right now on how to make money, how to build a business, 15 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:28,000 how to build a movement, how to market. 16 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:33,000 The person we're studying is Russell Brunson and he's at ClickFunnels. 17 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:41,000 And he is hosting a live event. 18 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:49,000 Today, as of recording this, is August 6th and his live event is in September 27th. 19 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:53,000 So a month and a half. 20 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:55,000 A little over a month and a half. 21 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:59,000 And tickets are $1,000 each. 22 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:04,000 And yesterday, me and my friend decided we're gonna go. 23 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:12,000 And then today, my friend was like, we should buy the tickets soon. 24 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:19,000 For many reasons, because when we're locked in and we were forced, we have to go now. 25 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:24,000 And there's no bailing out once we buy the tickets. 26 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:30,000 Two, we... 27 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:36,000 Two, we are... 28 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:43,000 Investing a big sum of money. So now we have to make money to actually be able to fly over there. 29 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:50,000 So my friend spent $2,000 of his own money to buy both the tickets. 30 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:54,000 And so now we're committed, we're locked in. 31 00:02:54,000 --> 00:03:00,000 So now I am focusing only on one thing. 32 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:05,000 And that is sales, essentially. 33 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:12,000 And this is one thing, this is a principle that I've heard from many different... 34 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:18,000 Many different mentors, many different books, many different podcasts. 35 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:25,000 And it's focus on one thing and you'll be successful. 36 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:32,000 So for me, that one thing is making a sale. 37 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:35,000 I only have to make one sale. 38 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:39,000 And that's the only thing I'm focusing on right now. 39 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:43,000 So I'm trying to make a sale every single day. 40 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:50,000 And you know what, tomorrow... Yeah, I'm going to make a sale every single day. 41 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:57,000 This concept of focusing on one thing, I am still going to the gym. 42 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:59,000 I'm still doing all my other stuff. 43 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:02,000 But all that stuff doesn't really require anything. 44 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:10,000 Once it's time to get down to business and actually move forward, 45 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:15,000 the only thing that I'm focusing on is sales. 46 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:21,000 So there's this concept that me and my friend follow. 47 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:24,000 And it's called a critical task. 48 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:36,000 So what it is, is your critical task for the day is the one task that if you only did that one task, 49 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:39,000 you would be happy with your progress. 50 00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:47,000 And so my critical task every single day for now on is make a sale. 51 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:49,000 Make a sale. 52 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:54,000 So the way I'm doing that is walking up to local businesses and actually going in person. 53 00:04:54,000 --> 00:05:03,000 And that actually expands my comfort zone and it will give me better chance of making a sale 54 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:09,000 than just emailing and cold calling. 55 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:13,000 Now, that is something that you guys should apply. 56 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:18,000 If you're just starting to go to the gym, the only thing you focus, the only thing that matters, 57 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:22,000 the only thing that you're changing is going to the gym every day. 58 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:25,000 That's the only thing that matters. 59 00:05:25,000 --> 00:05:27,000 No diet matters, nothing else. 60 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:33,000 And then once you're comfortable and once you want to go to the gym and have positive feedback loop hits, 61 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:35,000 then you can add another thing. 62 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:37,000 That's essentially what I did. 63 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:42,000 I went to the gym and then once I started going to the gym and I was addicted to it, 64 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:51,000 then I started changing other habits and fixing my diet, fixing my sleep, fixing my breathing, all of that stuff. 65 00:05:51,000 --> 00:06:00,000 And that's what I'm doing with making a sale. 66 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:08,000 Now, I'm at a huge advantage now with just life in general and making improvement 67 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:16,000 because I changed this, I fixed this one piece of my health and it was to increase my testosterone. 68 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:22,000 Now, at the time I didn't realize how much of an asset it is, 69 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:29,000 but when I learned that my testosterone was low, it was on a Hamza video 70 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:38,000 and he was talking about how everyone, he was just talking about estrogenics and how everyone is, 71 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:45,000 like everyone in society is affected and everyone's testosterone is way lower than it should be 72 00:06:45,000 --> 00:06:53,000 and we're becoming infertile and so I started making slight changes, little changes every day 73 00:06:53,000 --> 00:07:00,000 and I focused on that for like a month or two months and my testosterone has increased so much 74 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:07,000 plus now I'm adding in supplements like I'm taking, I've always taken creatine since I was starting the gym 75 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:12,000 but now I'm taking cyst damage and I'm going to start taking pine pollen. 76 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:22,000 So all of these, and I also do certain habits like icing my balls, which I talked about yesterday I think, 77 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:30,000 that is increases your testosterone as well, just like many different habits increasing my testosterone 78 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:40,000 and back to what I was saying is that if you increase your testosterone, like we're men, we have testosterone, 79 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:49,000 we are the ones building the earth essentially, we are the ones building the buildings, 80 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:54,000 we're the ones going out and doing things, now yeah women do that stuff too, 81 00:07:54,000 --> 00:08:01,000 but men are really the ones who are like the builders and we're the ones who are taking the most risk, 82 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:11,000 who are the most aggressive, have the most vigor, we're just men essentially 83 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:20,000 and that's because we have testosterone, so me increasing, before I had no test, low testosterone 84 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:27,000 and that was, I didn't want to build anything, I didn't want to do much of what men do 85 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:33,000 and now that I am increasing my testosterone higher and higher and higher to where I'm actually supposed to be, 86 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:39,000 I actually want to build stuff and I actually want to go out and take risks and actually grow and improve as a man, 87 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:48,000 I've always wanted to grow and improve but now especially and it's just having high testosterone is such a huge advantage 88 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:55,000 over someone who does not, it's, I mean honestly you don't know until you have it 89 00:08:55,000 --> 00:09:03,000 and I don't even have as high as testosterone as I want, I want to get way higher test 90 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:08,000 and then, yeah so that's one of the things that has helped me a lot, increasing my testosterone 91 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:16,000 and now it's a slow process especially if you were where I was at where you were basically consuming a lot of estrogenics, 92 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:22,000 it takes a couple months to get the results by removing certain things 93 00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:31,000 but when I started taking cyst-anch it was probably two or maybe one month, one or two months after I started removing things 94 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:37,000 and cyst-anch I saw results like that day or like that night 95 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:45,000 so that's another thing, testosterone, increase your testosterone, huge advantage 96 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:56,000 now let me bring back, bring you back to what I was talking about earlier about going to local businesses in person 97 00:09:56,000 --> 00:10:05,000 and trying to essentially be a sales person, one that increases my sales ability so I'm getting better at selling in person 98 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:12,000 which is huge, that's a huge skill to have and two I'm increasing my comfort zone so much 99 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:20,000 so when I first started getting into trying to build funnels for other people, I would send emails to people 100 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:27,000 and I'll tell you, when I sent my first email I was extremely nervous, I did not want to click send 101 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:39,000 and I ended up doing this later on but at that time which was literally like two, maybe one week ago 102 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:48,000 yeah I think it was actually a week ago, I mean I documented it so you guys can go back to episodes and see what day it was 103 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:59,000 but it was literally like recently and if I were to ask that person to cold call that same business that I just emailed 104 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:06,000 I would have not wanted to do it and then I started cold calling after that 105 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:13,000 and then that expanded my comfort zone so first of all emailing expanded my comfort zone 106 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:19,000 and then cold calling expanded my comfort zone, now let me tell you exactly what that means 107 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:26,000 the first time I emailed I was super nervous, now I can email just with a breeze and I can just email anyone I want 108 00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:35,000 and not have any worries, the first time I cold called I was like on that call I was struggling 109 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:43,000 I was nervous, I was like if you were to listen to that audio recording which I don't think is possible because it was a call 110 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:48,000 but if you were to hear me, you would, my voice was shaking it was bad 111 00:11:48,000 --> 00:11:55,000 but then the second time I did it it was so much easier and then after that I got easier and easier and now I can cold call 112 00:11:55,000 --> 00:12:02,000 without question and to be honest yesterday I was so nervous about cold calling 113 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:08,000 I'm not even kidding, today I can cold call whoever I want and not have to worry about it 114 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:20,000 now three days ago I realized that cold calling is not enough and I need to go into the business in person 115 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:26,000 and try and sell them in person because then they know I'm serious and legit and then they can see like 116 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:32,000 it's incredible if you go in person, there's many reasons and the first time I'm going to be honest 117 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:42,000 I pushed it off the next day and then it wasn't until I went into deep meditation and my friend spent like an hour or two slowly 118 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:54,000 but low key, like he wasn't making it obvious that he was doing this but slowly but surely he was saying things that ended up making me convince myself 119 00:12:54,000 --> 00:13:01,000 but he was really the one that helped me through it to actually do it and go to the first shop 120 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:07,000 and then once I did it I was way more nervous than any of the other places I felt like I was about to die 121 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:19,000 and I was scared, my voice was shaking, I was stumbling over my words, I was really bad 122 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:30,000 and then I did it and I was fine, I got rejected but that's okay and then the next day I was going to do it but 123 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:38,000 my bike lock got stolen but to be honest I just used that as an excuse to not do it again 124 00:13:38,000 --> 00:13:46,000 and so I was still scared but then the next day I went which was yesterday and it was so much easier 125 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:56,000 and then it was similar to how the second cold call went where it was just 80% easier 126 00:13:56,000 --> 00:14:04,000 so instead of 100% fear I had 20% fear and that's the same thing that happened today again 127 00:14:04,000 --> 00:14:13,000 today I went for a third time and instead of 20% fear I only had 10% fear and it went a lot more smoothly 128 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:20,000 and so tomorrow when I go again it's just going to be 5% and then it's just going to keep getting lower and lower 129 00:14:20,000 --> 00:14:31,000 and so I'm comfortable doing it and then I make a sale and really I'm going in to try and get them to accept my offer 130 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:38,000 but really what's happening is I'm just trying to expand my comfort zone to be honest 131 00:14:38,000 --> 00:14:44,000 that's really all that I'm trying to do and I have bad social anxiety and I'm an introvert 132 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:49,000 and also I'm shy around people, I get nervous around people 133 00:14:49,000 --> 00:14:58,000 usually my dad has his friends over sometimes and whenever that happens I just get really nervous 134 00:14:58,000 --> 00:15:04,000 and then when people try and talk to me I just stumble over my words and all that 135 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:12,000 not a great scene and today after I've done all this stuff I didn't really know that this was going to happen 136 00:15:12,000 --> 00:15:22,000 but today people came over and we started talking and I was actually like way more comfortable and confident talking 137 00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:31,000 it was, it's crazy how much of a difference cold emailing people, cold calling and then going in person has made on me 138 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:42,000 I'm just so much more calm around people and this is huge because school is starting literally in like maybe 7 or 8 days 139 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:48,000 maybe 6 days, yeah no 7 days is my first day of school 140 00:15:48,000 --> 00:15:56,000 no 8 days sorry, 8 days is my first day of school because today is Sunday tomorrow is Monday 141 00:15:56,000 --> 00:16:03,000 8 days is my first day of school and now during school I'm like nervous in the first day 142 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:11,000 but then once I get comfortable around the people then it's fine but I still am like shy and stuff like that 143 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:15,000 but I feel like it's going to be different this year 144 00:16:15,000 --> 00:16:24,000 I'm going to be way more confident and just stronger, better man, I'm going to be more manly 145 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:32,000 because honestly looking back it's embarrassing being like having bad social anxiety 146 00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:41,000 and even today like I'm still embarrassed or not embarrassed but I'm still like shy, nervous and scared around other people 147 00:16:41,000 --> 00:16:46,000 even today when I was going to the business today 148 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:55,000 it's embarrassing, I'm like weak and I'm a man, I need to be strong and confident up front 149 00:16:55,000 --> 00:17:01,000 it's fine to have all that stuff inside but on the face I have to be strong and confident 150 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:06,000 and so doing this stuff is actually making me more strong and confident 151 00:17:06,000 --> 00:17:11,000 and it's honestly embarrassing, I'm embarrassed that I waited this long to do it 152 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:19,000 but literally the past 6 days I've grown more, I've grown my social abilities more than I have in my entire life 153 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:25,000 it's actually crazy just by doing progressive overload and I did this on accident 154 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:32,000 I wasn't doing this to grow at first, I was doing this to for my business, my consulting business 155 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:39,000 and it's literally just progressive overload from emailing businesses and then voicemail 156 00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:44,000 or cold calling them and then to going in person 157 00:17:44,000 --> 00:17:51,000 it's actually insane how much I've grown, I'm like so much more calm, calm and I feel more manly 158 00:17:51,000 --> 00:18:02,000 I'm actually really excited for the future because I always felt like a, I always felt like a, what's the word? 159 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:10,000 I always felt like a boy and yeah I was a boy but once you get to a teenager you're supposed to feel more manly 160 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:15,000 I never felt manly, today while I'm saying this is probably the first day I've ever felt manly 161 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:23,000 because I was able to, I always like shake people's hands but I'm not really confident when I do it 162 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:30,000 but today was the first time where I met one of my dad's friends while he was over for like dinner 163 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:41,000 and, or it was lunch but he, like I introduced myself and he introduced himself and I just walked over to him and I shook his hand 164 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:52,000 and for the first time I actually felt confident and it was like the first time I'd ever felt like a man in a social situation 165 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:57,000 so that's huge, if you guys, I definitely recommend doing that 166 00:18:57,000 --> 00:19:08,000 even if you don't have like a business idea, just try and like, I mean if I was, if I was looking to grow 167 00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:15,000 I would do this and I would just do the same exact thing I'm doing and then if you happen to get a yes 168 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:20,000 and I know what I'm doing and I'm trying to get a yes and I have not gotten a single yes 169 00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:29,000 so, and most people just ignore me unless I'm like, obviously unless I'm calling them, like most people I email just ignore me 170 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:39,000 and if you're trying to grow your social, like your social capabilities, all that stuff that I just talked about 171 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:48,000 I would literally just send emails in earlier podcasts, I told you exactly the email that 172 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:55,000 but you should just make an email and say, hey I want to help you with your business, like I'm just looking for opportunities to grow 173 00:19:55,000 --> 00:20:00,000 and then if they say yes, just say, hey nevermind, sorry about that 174 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:06,000 it's literally, that's such a huge exercise to grow and I wish I did it a lot earlier 175 00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:13,000 but if you do that, just start with emails and then move on after like three or four days 176 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:19,000 or two days or one day, it doesn't matter, once you build up enough confidence 177 00:20:19,000 --> 00:20:25,000 and trust me, you're not going to want to move to calls but just do it anyways and you're never going to feel ready 178 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:30,000 but once emails become too easy and you lose that uncomfortable feeling 179 00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:39,000 then just cold call a random local business and talk about your opportunity and do that like for five people 180 00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:46,000 I literally only called like six people maybe, actually maybe like 10 or 15, I don't remember 181 00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:51,000 I was doing like five calls a day for like a couple of days, I don't know 182 00:20:51,000 --> 00:21:02,000 but literally five emails, five calls and five in persons will change your life 183 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:05,000 and right now I've done five emails, I've done five calls at least 184 00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:13,000 I've done way more than that on each of those two and so far I've done three in person visits 185 00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:19,000 so two more and I will be just like how I was earlier 186 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:25,000 I will be just how I was with calling or how I am with calling in person 187 00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:32,000 and that's a huge skill to have being able to make a sale in person 188 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:37,000 it changes your life, not just for the business but more so because you're more confident 189 00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:43,000 like what I said, I feel way more manly, I feel more masculine, I feel more confident 190 00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:49,000 and it's actually crazy, I've always heard all my life like how awesome it is to be confident 191 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:55,000 and I didn't know until now, it is different, it is one of the most amazing things 192 00:21:55,000 --> 00:22:03,000 and today is my first day and I'm getting better every time 193 00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:15,000 now I want to talk to you guys about one of the things that really propelled me forward 194 00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:24,000 so I never read the book Atomic Habits but just like ten minutes ago 195 00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:29,000 I read James Clear's book, who is the author of Atomic Habits 196 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:38,000 I read one of his blog posts and I came to the realization that what he was talking about 197 00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:45,000 is exactly what I did and I didn't realize what I was doing until now 198 00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:48,000 and I realized that that's the most effective method 199 00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:54,000 so what he says is don't worry about your goals, worry about your system 200 00:22:54,000 --> 00:23:01,000 so your goal would be, if your goal is to get jacked, don't worry about getting jacked 201 00:23:01,000 --> 00:23:07,000 don't worry about looking in the mirror every day, that's a waste of time, it's distracting 202 00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:11,000 and worry about the system on how to do it 203 00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:15,000 so I don't like the word system, I like the word routine 204 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:18,000 worry about the routine on how to get there 205 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:22,000 and literally just add the gym, go to the gym to your routine 206 00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:25,000 and that's what I did, I went to the gym every single morning 207 00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:31,000 like during school, because I figured out how to put it into my routine the easiest 208 00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:34,000 that will make me actually be able to go 209 00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:38,000 so for me I found that going before school was the easiest 210 00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:45,000 because I had the most energy, or not the energy 211 00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:50,000 I was still like not, I was still tired waking up in the morning 212 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:53,000 I hadn't adjusted to it yet at that time 213 00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:58,000 but the reason why I did it in the morning was because if I went after school 214 00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:02,000 there was a lot of times where I just skipped because 215 00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:07,000 and it just wasn't as enjoyable because I'd use all my mental energy at school 216 00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:10,000 and I didn't feel as productive 217 00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:13,000 so I decided to put it in the morning 218 00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:16,000 because then I could use the afternoon to read books 219 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:19,000 but I slowly added that to my routine 220 00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:22,000 I only focused on one thing, and it was gym 221 00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:26,000 I was literally just only going to the gym, that's the only thing that mattered 222 00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:30,000 so that's exactly how you get progress 223 00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:33,000 so goal is to set your direction 224 00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:38,000 and then literally ignore the goal but still move towards the goal 225 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:41,000 but the way you move towards the goal is routine 226 00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:44,000 routine is how you make progress towards the goal 227 00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:48,000 the goal is to set your direction, routine is to make progress 228 00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:52,000 and to be honest you need both 229 00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:55,000 so you need to set the goal first 230 00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:58,000 and then you need to figure out what you need to do 231 00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:00,000 and then just add it to your daily routine 232 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:05,000 so that's what I did with the gym and that is what I did with podcasting 233 00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:08,000 I just added it to my daily routine 234 00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:12,000 and then I just told myself I was just going to do it every day 235 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:16,000 it was just as simple as that, it was actually way easier 236 00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:20,000 just doing that then trying to figure out a time 237 00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:24,000 but that's also what I did 238 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:28,000 and am doing with selling in person 239 00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:31,000 I told myself I was going to email someone 240 00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:34,000 and really the first day I emailed like 50 people 241 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,000 because email is just really easy 242 00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:40,000 my first email was hard but after that it was really easy 243 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:48,000 and then I told myself I was going to cold call every day for the next 5 days 244 00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:53,000 or 5 calls every day for the next however much days 245 00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:55,000 and then I realized that I had to go in person 246 00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:58,000 and I feel like that's the last stage of growth 247 00:25:58,000 --> 00:26:02,000 because once I'm in person I can talk in person 248 00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:07,000 and actually control the situation a lot better 249 00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:10,000 plus that's like growth 250 00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:15,000 and the way I did that was I made a commitment of doing it every day 251 00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:17,000 doing it every day and that's it 252 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:21,000 and I didn't think I'm going to do it every day for the next 100 days 253 00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:25,000 that is way too big of a number to think about 254 00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:27,000 it will demotivate me 255 00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:31,000 I told myself when I started podcasting 256 00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:35,000 the reason why I started was because Russell Brunson said 257 00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:38,000 post on your show daily for the next year 258 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:41,000 so instead of telling myself I was going to post every day 259 00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:43,000 for the next 365 days 260 00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:45,000 which would have demotivated me because 261 00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:49,000 looking now I'm on episode 18 262 00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:51,000 and I'm out of 365 263 00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:53,000 it feels like I've been doing it forever 264 00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,000 and I have 360 days left 265 00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:58,000 that is not any progress 266 00:26:58,000 --> 00:27:00,000 that number barely went down 267 00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:03,000 so that's why I just said I was going to do it every day 268 00:27:03,000 --> 00:27:05,000 I don't care about the end number 269 00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:08,000 I was just going to do it every day 270 00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:14,000 no 365 days in mind 271 00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:18,000 so that means that every single day you achieve your goal 272 00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:25,000 and that is such a huge, huge thing to do 273 00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:27,000 every single day 274 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:29,000 just add it to your daily routine 275 00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:33,000 and honestly 276 00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:36,000 I'm glad that I read that 277 00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:39,000 that blog that James Clear wrote 278 00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:42,000 because now I'm conscious of it 279 00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,000 I already was conscious of it 280 00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:47,000 like a couple months ago 281 00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:50,000 but now I realize, explaining it to you guys 282 00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:51,000 how valuable that is 283 00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:53,000 literally if you want to achieve anything 284 00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,000 just add it to your daily routine 285 00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,000 and I'm jealous of you guys 286 00:27:57,000 --> 00:28:00,000 because I'm telling you exactly what to do 287 00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:03,000 and if I heard this podcast when I was first starting 288 00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:07,000 I would be so much farther ahead of where I am now 289 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:11,000 but I'm glad that I'm telling you guys 290 00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:14,000 because you guys are getting this opportunity 291 00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:17,000 so I'm giving you guys gold 292 00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:19,000 and it's worthless if you don't pick it up 293 00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:21,000 so pick it up and apply it 294 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:23,000 and really doing the routine is like the easiest 295 00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:25,000 there's a quote that I heard 296 00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:28,000 and it's that successful people are not really good at doing hard things 297 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:32,000 they're really good at making hard things easy 298 00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:34,000 and that's essentially what routine is 299 00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:39,000 it's really hard to make a million dollars 300 00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:44,000 but if you work, that's about analogy 301 00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:46,000 it's really hard to get jacked 302 00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:49,000 but it's really easy to go to the gym today 303 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:52,000 and then just replicate that every day 304 00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:54,000 that's just routine 305 00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:58,000 it's really easy to go to the gym every day 306 00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:00,000 but it's hard to go to the gym every day 307 00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:02,000 for the next 365 days 308 00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:05,000 it's easy to go to the gym every day 309 00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:07,000 for 365 days 310 00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:10,000 but if you tell yourself to do it for the next year 311 00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:14,000 it's gonna be way harder because that's a really big number 312 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,000 I hope you guys understand what I'm saying 313 00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:20,000 because this is like really important concepts to know 314 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:22,000 and that's exactly... 315 00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:26,000 this routine is exactly how I'm gonna get to Florida 316 00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:36,000 and plus me saying it on the podcast 317 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:38,000 is getting me accountable 318 00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,000 so accountability is huge 319 00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:42,000 I wasn't really... 320 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:47,000 before I announced to my friend and then to you guys 321 00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:51,000 that I was doing this business consulting thing 322 00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:52,000 I wasn't really... 323 00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:56,000 I was doing it but I wasn't really making big gains 324 00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:58,000 until I announced it 325 00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:02,000 and then once I announced it I became more accountable 326 00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:05,000 because I told you guys and I didn't want to 327 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:08,000 one, look like a wuss 328 00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:11,000 because I didn't want to look like a failure 329 00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:12,000 and that's huge 330 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:15,000 if you can announce your... 331 00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:18,000 like announce that you're gonna do this every day 332 00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:19,000 don't announce your goal 333 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,000 don't announce I'm going to be jacked 334 00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:24,000 announce I'm going to go to the gym every single day 335 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:27,000 and then... 336 00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:32,000 and then do it because you'll feel like a wuss 337 00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:34,000 or a failure if you miss 338 00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:37,000 and then that means that you can't miss the next day 339 00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:39,000 or else you're gonna actually be a failure 340 00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:41,000 if you miss one day 341 00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:46,000 bad but just wipe it off like sweat it off 342 00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:49,000 and then don't miss two days 343 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:50,000 don't miss two days in a row 344 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:52,000 that's one quote that I heard also 345 00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:54,000 don't miss two days in a row 346 00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:56,000 if you miss two days in a row that's the end 347 00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:58,000 like that's terrible 348 00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:00,000 and don't miss three days in a row 349 00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:01,000 or else it's terrible 350 00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:04,000 like it just don't miss two days in a row 351 00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:05,000 don't miss one day in a row 352 00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:07,000 which is just don't miss 353 00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:11,000 but if you miss just make sure you don't miss two days in a row 354 00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:19,000 and that was actually what that quote actually pushed me through 355 00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,000 not missing two days in a row yesterday 356 00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:26,000 when I went the second day 357 00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,000 because I was gonna miss two days in a row 358 00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:29,000 if I didn't go yesterday 359 00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:31,000 but I didn't 360 00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:34,000 and yesterday was actually when I committed to doing it every day 361 00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:36,000 so I wouldn't have even missed a day 362 00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:38,000 but besides the point 363 00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:40,000 and can you guys realize that 364 00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:42,000 I just want to bring to your attention 365 00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:45,000 that there are so many quotes 366 00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:47,000 that push me forward 367 00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:49,000 and concepts 368 00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:51,000 and it's because I read them in books 369 00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:53,000 or heard them in podcasts 370 00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:55,000 but that's way less effective 371 00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:58,000 it's all the quotes that I read in the books 372 00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:00,000 I understand 373 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:02,000 and I remembered them 374 00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:05,000 I understood the concepts and the ideas around them 375 00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:06,000 that's huge 376 00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:08,000 that's so valuable 377 00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:11,000 because if you can have a quote pop up in your mind 378 00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:13,000 and actually understand what it means 379 00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:14,000 just at the right moment 380 00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:16,000 like right before you're about to bail out 381 00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:18,000 and it pops up in your mind 382 00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:19,000 and then you remember that quote 383 00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:21,000 then you push forward 384 00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:23,000 that's how valuable 385 00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:25,000 that's one of the hidden benefits of reading 386 00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:27,000 like one reading is the most valuable 387 00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:29,000 like one of the most valuable skills 388 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,000 or habits 389 00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:32,000 whatever 390 00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:34,000 like things that you can do 391 00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:36,000 but that is one of the biggest benefits 392 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:38,000 that no one talks about 393 00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:42,000 having little pieces of information 394 00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:44,000 pop up in your head at the right moment 395 00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:46,000 just when you need it 396 00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:47,000 and that is like 397 00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:49,000 and even if it doesn't pop up 398 00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:52,000 you still have a vague idea 399 00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:54,000 or you have a vague notion 400 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:57,000 that that is the idea 401 00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:59,000 and you just keep pushing forward 402 00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:01,000 maybe you don't actually understand 403 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:02,000 why you're pushing forward 404 00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:04,000 but you can feel deep down 405 00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:06,000 that that is the right thing to do 406 00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:08,000 and that's really because of reading 407 00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:10,000 reading remolds your brain 408 00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:12,000 to make better decisions 409 00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,000 on a subconscious scale 410 00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:15,000 especially 411 00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:17,000 but also on a conscious scale 412 00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:18,000 because you know the new information 413 00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:20,000 but reading molds your subconscious 414 00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:22,000 and I mean 415 00:33:22,000 --> 00:33:24,000 I'm actually gonna look this up 416 00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:25,000 percentage 417 00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:26,000 I've never looked this up 418 00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:27,000 but I heard this before 419 00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:31,000 percentage of human action 420 00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:33,000 subconscious 421 00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:36,000 uh 422 00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:37,000 oh wow 423 00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:38,000 yeah 424 00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:39,000 current studies 425 00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:41,000 or current scientific estimates 426 00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:42,000 are that 427 00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:45,000 some 95% of brain activity 428 00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,000 is unconscious 429 00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:50,000 95% of your like brain activity 430 00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:51,000 that is insane 431 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:53,000 and if you can 432 00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:54,000 so that is essentially 433 00:33:54,000 --> 00:33:56,000 you have no control over that 434 00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:57,000 because it's subconscious 435 00:33:57,000 --> 00:33:59,000 like you don't have conscious control 436 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:00,000 over your subconscious 437 00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:01,000 so think about that 438 00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:03,000 you don't have 439 00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:05,000 conscious control over 440 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:08,000 95% of your actions 441 00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:09,000 not actions but 442 00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:11,000 activity in your brain 443 00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:12,000 that is insane 444 00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:15,000 so would you rather have 445 00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:17,000 very bad 446 00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:18,000 like a weak subconscious 447 00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:20,000 which is how society molds it 448 00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:22,000 like with tiktok 449 00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:24,000 would you rather have a weak subconscious 450 00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,000 of 95% of your brain activity 451 00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:29,000 or would you rather have 452 00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:31,000 a strong subconscious 453 00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:33,000 with 95% of your brain activity 454 00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:35,000 I would rather have a strong subconscious 455 00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:38,000 and I've never heard anyone say this before 456 00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:40,000 but 457 00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:42,000 I really think that 458 00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:45,000 reading like rewires your subconscious 459 00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,000 to where you 460 00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:49,000 simply by the fact of reading 461 00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:51,000 you are actually making 462 00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:53,000 you're molding your subconscious brain 463 00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:56,000 so you can make conscious decisions 464 00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,000 that's only 5% of your brain activity 465 00:34:58,000 --> 00:34:59,000 if you read 466 00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:02,000 you're molding all 95% 467 00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:05,000 plus you're making conscious decisions 468 00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:06,000 off of the new knowledge 469 00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:08,000 so you're actually getting the full 100% 470 00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:11,000 if you are just making conscious decisions 471 00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:14,000 and just doing conscious things 472 00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:16,000 based off stuff you are here 473 00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:19,000 like there's a quote that I heard 474 00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:22,000 if you hear something you forget it 475 00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:24,000 if you see something you remember it 476 00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,000 and if you do something you understand it 477 00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:28,000 so if you hear something like on a podcast 478 00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,000 you're gonna forget it 479 00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:32,000 you're gonna forget most of the things 480 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,000 on this episode that I said to you 481 00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:36,000 hopefully you pick up one thing 482 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:38,000 and decide to go for it 483 00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:40,000 and that's the goal 484 00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:43,000 and then if you see something you understand it 485 00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:44,000 or not understand it 486 00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:46,000 if you see something you remember it 487 00:35:46,000 --> 00:35:47,000 and that's reading 488 00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:50,000 you literally look at the words on a piece of paper 489 00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:52,000 and you have to see it 490 00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:54,000 but you also 491 00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:56,000 like interpret it 492 00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:58,000 so that like goes through your mind 493 00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:00,000 and that's huge 494 00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:02,000 I can't believe no 495 00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:04,000 I mean there's probably people saying this 496 00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:06,000 but when I was learning 497 00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:08,000 about self improvement 498 00:36:08,000 --> 00:36:10,000 and learning about reasons to start reading 499 00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:12,000 no one was saying that 500 00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:15,000 95% of your brain activity is unconscious 501 00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:17,000 and reading helps 502 00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:20,000 really like shape your unconscious 503 00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:21,000 to make better decisions 504 00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:23,000 so if you read good books 505 00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:25,000 like nonfiction self help books 506 00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:28,000 you are actually changing 100% of your brain activity 507 00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:30,000 whereas if you're listening to podcasts 508 00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:32,000 or watching YouTube videos 509 00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:33,000 that's 5% 510 00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:35,000 you're making 5% progress 511 00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:37,000 if you're listening to podcasts 512 00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:39,000 or YouTube videos 513 00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:42,000 if you read that's 100% progress 514 00:36:42,000 --> 00:36:44,000 man 515 00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:46,000 I just put all of that together 516 00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:48,000 just now 517 00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:50,000 I've been piecing it together 518 00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:51,000 over the past couple days 519 00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:53,000 but today was like the first time 520 00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:57,000 I actually put it all together into words 521 00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:01,000 reading is one of the most valuable skills 522 00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,000 that is huge 523 00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:08,000 95% of your brain activity is unconscious 524 00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:10,000 you guys have to understand 525 00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:12,000 how valuable that is to know 526 00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:14,000 because if you guys think you're improving 527 00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:18,000 on listening to YouTube videos and podcasts 528 00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:21,000 that's only 5% 529 00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:23,000 imagine what you can do when you start reading 530 00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:25,000 and 100% 531 00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:28,000 and then once you start meditating 532 00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:30,000 and focusing your brain better 533 00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,000 to make reading more effective 534 00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:35,000 and then meditation also heals your brain 535 00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:37,000 and takes out the trash out of it 536 00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:39,000 and then what happens when you start 537 00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:41,000 reading Transurfing 538 00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:43,000 what happens when you start 539 00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,000 man there's so many possibilities 540 00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:47,000 I'm really excited for you guys 541 00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:49,000 you guys have 542 00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:51,000 honestly I think that 543 00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:53,000 I don't think I could say this 544 00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:55,000 a week ago 545 00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:57,000 I don't even think I could say this 546 00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:59,000 5 days ago 547 00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,000 but honestly I think that this podcast 548 00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:03,000 is the best podcast out there 549 00:38:04,000 --> 00:38:06,000 now I know the audio is not that good 550 00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:08,000 and I'm still getting better at speaking 551 00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:10,000 but I'm growing as I'm going 552 00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:12,000 and by the time that I'm popular 553 00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:14,000 I'll have a better microphone 554 00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:16,000 and I'll be way better at speaking 555 00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:18,000 because that's how growth happens 556 00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:20,000 self-improvement 557 00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:23,000 I really think that this podcast is the best podcast out there 558 00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:25,000 and if you guys 559 00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:27,000 actually want to make growth 560 00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:29,000 like you're here to make growth 561 00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:31,000 you're here to improve yourself 562 00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,000 well then stop listening to my podcast 563 00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:35,000 only listen to this one episode 564 00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:37,000 that's all you need to be successful 565 00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:39,000 this episode 566 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:41,000 and just listen to 567 00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:43,000 all of my episodes 568 00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:45,000 up to this one 569 00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:47,000 and then 570 00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:49,000 there are 571 00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:51,000 2 or 3 episodes 572 00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:53,000 episode 14 for sure is very good 573 00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:55,000 this episode I think is 574 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:57,000 18 maybe 575 00:38:57,000 --> 00:38:59,000 episode 14 576 00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,000 episode 18 577 00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:03,000 and then also there was one other episode where I talk about the 6 steps 578 00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:05,000 of 579 00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:07,000 self-improvement that I would take 580 00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:09,000 that I would listen to that too 581 00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,000 but I'll just tell you 582 00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:13,000 I kind of touched on them already 583 00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:15,000 but I'll tell you exactly what they are 584 00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:19,000 so 585 00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:21,000 the 6 steps of self-improvement that I would take 586 00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,000 is 587 00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:25,000 these are in no particular order 588 00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:27,000 but I kind of tried to order them 589 00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:29,000 where they would be most valuable 590 00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:31,000 in that order 591 00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:33,000 so if you want to follow them in this order 592 00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,000 do that 593 00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:37,000 but I definitely did not follow them in this order 594 00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:39,000 and I'm not sure if this order is optimal 595 00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:41,000 for people actually trying to 596 00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:43,000 I just try to use logic 597 00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:45,000 but I also know that I don't have 598 00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:47,000 very good logic when it comes to 599 00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:49,000 people's mindset 600 00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,000 so that's one thing 601 00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:53,000 so you can try this order 602 00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:55,000 or not 603 00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:57,000 so step 1 is to build discipline 604 00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:59,000 and the way you do that is 605 00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:01,000 you can build showers 606 00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:03,000 cold showers are 607 00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:05,000 literally the easiest way 608 00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:07,000 the simplest way to build discipline 609 00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:09,000 you don't have to go outside of your house 610 00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:11,000 you can literally 611 00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:13,000 in the morning time 612 00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:15,000 when you normally take a shower 613 00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,000 or at the night time whenever you take a shower 614 00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:19,000 just do cold water 615 00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:21,000 and at first it's going to be like 616 00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:23,000 terrible like you're not going to want to do it 617 00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:25,000 so just force yourself to do it 618 00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:27,000 and every time you force yourself to do it 619 00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:29,000 every time you don't want to do it 620 00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:31,000 but you do it anyways 621 00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:33,000 you're building your discipline 622 00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:35,000 and in the beginning 623 00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:37,000 maybe you won't only be able to do it for 10 seconds 624 00:40:37,000 --> 00:40:39,000 that is still huge 625 00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:41,000 even if it's one second of cold 626 00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:43,000 that is insane 627 00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:45,000 like that is so much discipline 628 00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:47,000 especially if you 629 00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:49,000 walk into it 630 00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:51,000 because that makes it harder 631 00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:53,000 so if you 632 00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:55,000 have the warm water on first 633 00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:57,000 and then you have 634 00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:59,000 and then you just switch it to cold 635 00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:01,000 that's easy 636 00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:03,000 but if you already have it on 637 00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:05,000 and you're still dry 638 00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:07,000 and you walk into cold water 639 00:41:07,000 --> 00:41:09,000 that is way harder 640 00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:11,000 and that requires discipline 641 00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:13,000 like discipline is the way that you 642 00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:15,000 achieve anything really 643 00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,000 I've focused so much on building my discipline 644 00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:21,000 and discipline allows you 645 00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:23,000 to actually get through all the stuff that I talked about today 646 00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:25,000 that allows you to send your first email 647 00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:27,000 allows you to 648 00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:29,000 actually 649 00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:31,000 it makes it so you're actually able to 650 00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:33,000 cold call someone that actually makes it 651 00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:35,000 so you're able to go in 652 00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:37,000 to your first business 653 00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:39,000 and talk to them 654 00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:41,000 it makes it so you 655 00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:43,000 lift those two extra reps 656 00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:45,000 in the gym it makes it so you 657 00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:47,000 actually go to the gym everyday 658 00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:49,000 discipline is how you achieve your goals 659 00:41:49,000 --> 00:41:51,000 discipline is 660 00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:53,000 discipline is you can't do anything 661 00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:55,000 without discipline you can't get out of bed without discipline 662 00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:57,000 and 663 00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:59,000 I mean 664 00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:01,000 you can get out of bed with 665 00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:03,000 that's purpose I'll talk about that 666 00:42:03,000 --> 00:42:05,000 step two is purpose 667 00:42:05,000 --> 00:42:07,000 well let me talk about the cold showers 668 00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:09,000 on discipline first 669 00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:11,000 I was super excited because 670 00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:13,000 I was into cold showers before 671 00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:15,000 but I had done it consistently 672 00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:17,000 and then I stopped and then I did it 673 00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:19,000 and then I read in a book 674 00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:21,000 that the simplest way to build 675 00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:23,000 discipline is cold showers 676 00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:25,000 and literally that is 677 00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:27,000 so awesome to think about 678 00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:29,000 how we're already in the shower 679 00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:31,000 and we can grow there 680 00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:33,000 well no one has to see 681 00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:35,000 like no one has to see you being a wuss 682 00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:37,000 and backing off the first couple of times 683 00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:39,000 but then 684 00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:41,000 people see 685 00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:43,000 that discipline that you built from 686 00:42:43,000 --> 00:42:45,000 going back in after being a wuss 687 00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:47,000 and staying in 688 00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:49,000 and then eventually just 689 00:42:49,000 --> 00:42:51,000 staying in the cold shower the entire shower 690 00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:53,000 every single time you shower 691 00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:55,000 people see that discipline outside 692 00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:57,000 of the shower no one sees you showering 693 00:42:57,000 --> 00:42:59,000 so you can grow in 694 00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:01,000 like you can grow 695 00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:03,000 in solitude 696 00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:05,000 like no one has to see you growing 697 00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:07,000 no one has to see your failures in the cold shower 698 00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:09,000 but people do see that you're success 699 00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:11,000 and how you grew from that 700 00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:13,000 and people see your 701 00:43:13,000 --> 00:43:15,000 progress move forward from the discipline 702 00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:17,000 built from cold showers 703 00:43:17,000 --> 00:43:19,000 they don't know it was from cold showers 704 00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:21,000 but they think that this guy is superhuman 705 00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:23,000 and it's all just because you did cold showers 706 00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:25,000 like that's so simple cold showers 707 00:43:25,000 --> 00:43:27,000 I mean if you think about it 708 00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:29,000 a cold shower is literally 709 00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:31,000 the easiest thing to do 710 00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:33,000 you're already in the water 711 00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:35,000 so it might as well be cold 712 00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:37,000 and I'm not even gonna lie I still struggle to this day 713 00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:39,000 I'm still 714 00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:41,000 okay I'll let you know 715 00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:43,000 for the past couple months I have been 716 00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:45,000 in 717 00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:47,000 I have been only taking cold showers 718 00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:49,000 with no hot water 719 00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:51,000 and only being in the cold 720 00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:53,000 but I still even this morning when I took my shower 721 00:43:53,000 --> 00:43:55,000 I still struggle to stay in there 722 00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:57,000 because I 723 00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:59,000 sometimes step out 724 00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:01,000 and 725 00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:03,000 it's hard 726 00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:05,000 I'll tell you it is hard 727 00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:07,000 it gets easier but it's still hard 728 00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:09,000 and I've been doing this for like a while and it's still hard 729 00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:11,000 so 730 00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:13,000 hopefully that gives you comfort 731 00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:15,000 it's hard for everyone 732 00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:17,000 my friend says that it's easy for him 733 00:44:17,000 --> 00:44:19,000 I don't believe him 734 00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:21,000 I believe I think that it's 735 00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:23,000 easy enough to say that it's easy 736 00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:25,000 that's what I'm trying to say 737 00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:27,000 it gets easier 738 00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:29,000 and my friend has probably gotten to the point where 739 00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:31,000 it's easy enough to where 740 00:44:31,000 --> 00:44:33,000 it requires very little discipline 741 00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:35,000 to where you barely notice but 742 00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:37,000 it's still harder than 743 00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:39,000 not doing it 744 00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:41,000 so step 2 745 00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:43,000 that was step 1 to build discipline and 746 00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:45,000 cold shower. Step 2 is to gain a purpose 747 00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:47,000 and confidence and the way you do that 748 00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:49,000 is by going to the gym 749 00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:51,000 so a purpose, having a purpose, basically 750 00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:55,000 so discipline gets you out of bed 751 00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:57,000 purpose gets you out of bed 752 00:44:57,000 --> 00:44:59,000 and what I mean by that is discipline 753 00:44:59,000 --> 00:45:01,000 you have to push through 754 00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:03,000 fight your mind to get out of bed 755 00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:05,000 having a purpose 756 00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:07,000 gets you out of bed 757 00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:09,000 so you 758 00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:11,000 literally jump for joy when you wake up 759 00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:13,000 and you want to get out of your bed 760 00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:15,000 now that is an over exaggeration 761 00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:17,000 but 762 00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:19,000 having a purpose basically makes it so 763 00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:23,000 you want to get out of bed 764 00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:25,000 and you don't want to stay in bed 765 00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:27,000 that's like the easiest way to explain it 766 00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:29,000 it's where you actually have a reason to live 767 00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:31,000 and have a reason to push forward 768 00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:33,000 and my first purpose was 769 00:45:33,000 --> 00:45:35,000 getting jacked 770 00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:37,000 essentially going to the gym 771 00:45:39,000 --> 00:45:41,000 just don't forget about the process 772 00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:43,000 that I was talking to you guys about routine 773 00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:45,000 don't worry about the gold, worry about the routine 774 00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:49,000 so that's step 2, step 3 775 00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:51,000 is increase mental clarity 776 00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:53,000 and curing your internet addiction 777 00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:55,000 so and the way you do that 778 00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:57,000 is by meditation 779 00:45:57,000 --> 00:45:59,000 now I had always not 780 00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:01,000 meditated consistently 781 00:46:01,000 --> 00:46:03,000 but I did meditate for a while 782 00:46:03,000 --> 00:46:05,000 and I found some benefits 783 00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:07,000 but it wasn't until 784 00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:09,000 I saw a Hamza video where 785 00:46:09,000 --> 00:46:11,000 he was saying your 786 00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:13,000 addicted to the internet and the way you cure it 787 00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:15,000 there's only one way to cure it 788 00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:17,000 and it's through meditation 789 00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:19,000 now I always had the 790 00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:21,000 kind of 791 00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:23,000 thoughts 792 00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:25,000 or the subconscious thoughts that 793 00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:27,000 curing your internet addiction 794 00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:29,000 through meditation 795 00:46:29,000 --> 00:46:31,000 was like that was the way through meditation 796 00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:33,000 but it wasn't until he said it out loud 797 00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:35,000 to where I became 798 00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:37,000 100% confident of it 799 00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:39,000 and just went all in 800 00:46:39,000 --> 00:46:41,000 so that's meditation 801 00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:45,000 that cures your internet addiction 802 00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:47,000 improves your mental clarity 803 00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:49,000 pretty much all around 804 00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:51,000 and then 4 805 00:46:51,000 --> 00:46:53,000 is freeing up your time 806 00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:55,000 and improving your mental health 807 00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:57,000 and 808 00:46:57,000 --> 00:46:59,000 that's the way you do that is 809 00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:01,000 by cutting out your phone 810 00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:03,000 and there's many steps 811 00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:05,000 that you should take to do that 812 00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:07,000 I'll tell you them all right now 813 00:47:07,000 --> 00:47:09,000 very quick rapid fire if you want more in depth 814 00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:11,000 I'll go to my previous 815 00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:13,000 episodes and you'll see 816 00:47:13,000 --> 00:47:15,000 so the first is turn on gray 817 00:47:15,000 --> 00:47:17,000 scale color filter and keep it on 818 00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:19,000 the second is 819 00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:21,000 delete all your non tool apps 820 00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,000 so youtube, social media, games, everything 821 00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:25,000 a tool app would be the notes app 822 00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:27,000 or like a calculator 823 00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:29,000 the third thing is remove all of your apps 824 00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:31,000 from the home screen 825 00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:33,000 so your home screen is empty 826 00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:35,000 and then change your wallpaper to 827 00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:37,000 both of your wallpapers to like a black 828 00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:39,000 or a gray or something 829 00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:41,000 some mundane thing 830 00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:43,000 step 4 is 831 00:47:43,000 --> 00:47:45,000 turn off all of your notifications 832 00:47:45,000 --> 00:47:47,000 on your phone on every single app 833 00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:49,000 and keep on do not disturb forever 834 00:47:49,000 --> 00:47:51,000 the fifth thing is 835 00:47:51,000 --> 00:47:53,000 keep your phone on airplane mode 836 00:47:53,000 --> 00:47:55,000 and always power it off 837 00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:57,000 like actually hold the power button 838 00:47:57,000 --> 00:47:59,000 and slide it to the right to power it off 839 00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:01,000 and keep that power off 840 00:48:01,000 --> 00:48:03,000 forever and then also 841 00:48:03,000 --> 00:48:05,000 make sure you keep your phone 842 00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:07,000 in the basement or the attic 843 00:48:07,000 --> 00:48:09,000 or wherever is furthest away 844 00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:11,000 from you where you normally are 845 00:48:11,000 --> 00:48:13,000 so that will 846 00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:15,000 make it so you have to 847 00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:17,000 have a huge task to use your phone 848 00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:21,000 the sixth thing is 849 00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:23,000 don't bring your phone places like 850 00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:25,000 leave it at the house 851 00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:27,000 most of the time 99% of the time 852 00:48:27,000 --> 00:48:29,000 you do not need your phone outside of 853 00:48:29,000 --> 00:48:31,000 your house and I'm actually 854 00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:33,000 the school year is starting up soon 855 00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:35,000 I'm going to email all my teachers 856 00:48:35,000 --> 00:48:37,000 that I'm not bringing my phone 857 00:48:37,000 --> 00:48:39,000 because they require us to put our phones in the phone home 858 00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:41,000 so I'm going to email them and tell them 859 00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:43,000 that I won't be putting my phone in the phone home 860 00:48:43,000 --> 00:48:45,000 because it's going to be at home 861 00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:47,000 it's going to actually be at home 862 00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:49,000 and 863 00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:51,000 never put your phone in the pocket 864 00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:53,000 that's for many reasons 865 00:48:53,000 --> 00:48:55,000 the main reason why I do is 866 00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:57,000 because our phone actually 867 00:48:57,000 --> 00:48:59,000 radiates 868 00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:01,000 it emits radiation which damages 869 00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,000 our bodies 870 00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:05,000 but especially our balls 871 00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:07,000 and 872 00:49:07,000 --> 00:49:09,000 just look it up phone 873 00:49:09,000 --> 00:49:11,000 radiation 874 00:49:11,000 --> 00:49:13,000 you'll go into all that stuff 875 00:49:13,000 --> 00:49:15,000 the seventh thing is 876 00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:17,000 only 877 00:49:17,000 --> 00:49:19,000 use your phone like once a day 878 00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:21,000 and really 879 00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:23,000 eventually I want to get to the point where 880 00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:25,000 I use it like once a week 881 00:49:25,000 --> 00:49:27,000 to where you just 882 00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:29,000 check your texts once a week or something like that 883 00:49:29,000 --> 00:49:31,000 and then 884 00:49:31,000 --> 00:49:33,000 keep making more changes 885 00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:35,000 as you experiment 886 00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:37,000 but those are the most significant things 887 00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:39,000 and I just want to say 888 00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:41,000 I'm embarrassed that I didn't 889 00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:43,000 make these changes 890 00:49:43,000 --> 00:49:45,000 a while ago 891 00:49:45,000 --> 00:49:47,000 it's just embarrassing how 892 00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:49,000 I'm so embarrassed that I was 893 00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:51,000 addicted to my phone 894 00:49:51,000 --> 00:49:53,000 I still am kind of attached 895 00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:55,000 to my phone where I want to bring my phone places 896 00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,000 where I've never been 897 00:49:57,000 --> 00:49:59,000 it's so embarrassing to 898 00:49:59,000 --> 00:50:01,000 want to bring my phone 899 00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:03,000 I just feel so 900 00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:05,000 it's so embarrassing to be so attached 901 00:50:05,000 --> 00:50:07,000 where I can't 902 00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:09,000 do stuff on my own 903 00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:11,000 you don't feel manly 904 00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:13,000 because 905 00:50:13,000 --> 00:50:15,000 you're supposed to be able to do things on your own 906 00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:17,000 not 907 00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:19,000 no because I 908 00:50:19,000 --> 00:50:21,000 always want to bring my phone 909 00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:23,000 and that, yeah, it's just embarrassing 910 00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:25,000 I'm ashamed of it 911 00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:27,000 so that's 912 00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:29,000 step 4 913 00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:31,000 to free up time and improve 914 00:50:31,000 --> 00:50:33,000 mental health 915 00:50:33,000 --> 00:50:35,000 also you just delete all your social media accounts 916 00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:37,000 but if you want more 917 00:50:37,000 --> 00:50:39,000 in depth on that 918 00:50:39,000 --> 00:50:41,000 on all of these steps and especially that 919 00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:43,000 particular step 920 00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:45,000 I don't go to my recent episodes 921 00:50:45,000 --> 00:50:47,000 I don't remember exactly what episode it was 922 00:50:47,000 --> 00:50:49,000 but one of my earlier episodes 923 00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:51,000 I talked about that 924 00:50:53,000 --> 00:50:55,000 and step 5 925 00:50:55,000 --> 00:50:57,000 is fill up your time 926 00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:59,000 so you just freed up your time 927 00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:01,000 now you fill it up for the best purpose possible 928 00:51:01,000 --> 00:51:03,000 because if you don't fill up your time after you cut off your phone 929 00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:05,000 you're going to fail 930 00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:07,000 you're going to want to go back on your phone 931 00:51:07,000 --> 00:51:09,000 so you have to fill up your time 932 00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:11,000 for the best purpose possible 933 00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:13,000 I've already told you guys exactly 934 00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:15,000 why reading is so beneficial 935 00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:17,000 and it's so beneficial 936 00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:19,000 for so many other reasons 937 00:51:19,000 --> 00:51:21,000 and I'm sure you guys can hear about those other reasons 938 00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:23,000 and I'm sure you guys already know 939 00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:25,000 about those other reasons 940 00:51:25,000 --> 00:51:27,000 but that's one of the big reasons 941 00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:29,000 that no one's talking about 942 00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:31,000 the 95% of your subconscious 943 00:51:31,000 --> 00:51:33,000 and just start reading nonfiction 944 00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:35,000 and if you want a recommendation on your first book 945 00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:37,000 always 946 00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:39,000 and I still follow this principle 947 00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:43,000 always choose a nonfiction self-help book 948 00:51:45,000 --> 00:51:47,000 based off of what you want to improve at that time 949 00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,000 or based off what you're curious about 950 00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:51,000 or want to learn about at that time 951 00:51:51,000 --> 00:51:53,000 so my first book 952 00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:55,000 I was interested in improving my breathing 953 00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:57,000 so I got the oxygen advantage 954 00:51:57,000 --> 00:51:59,000 which teaches me how to breathe 955 00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:01,000 and 956 00:52:03,000 --> 00:52:05,000 I'm interested right now in business 957 00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:07,000 so right now I'm reading business books 958 00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:09,000 so always read a book based on 959 00:52:09,000 --> 00:52:11,000 where you're at and what you need in life right now 960 00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:17,000 step 961 00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:19,000 6 is gain consistency 962 00:52:19,000 --> 00:52:21,000 I talked about this earlier as well 963 00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:23,000 and that's just routine 964 00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:25,000 you just make a routine 965 00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:27,000 it's really that simple 966 00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:33,000 and honestly all of this stuff 967 00:52:33,000 --> 00:52:35,000 all those six steps are 968 00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:37,000 really 969 00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:39,000 if you guys hone in on 970 00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:41,000 each of those six steps 971 00:52:41,000 --> 00:52:43,000 you'll get exactly where I'm at 972 00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:45,000 way quicker than it took me to get here 973 00:52:45,000 --> 00:52:47,000 and those are not the only things you need to do 974 00:52:47,000 --> 00:52:49,000 but those are like the big 975 00:52:49,000 --> 00:52:51,000 I found that these are like the core 976 00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:53,000 pieces of self-improvement 977 00:52:53,000 --> 00:52:55,000 or at least where I'm at right now 978 00:52:57,000 --> 00:52:59,000 and maybe I should add a 7 step 979 00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:01,000 and it's to 980 00:53:01,000 --> 00:53:03,000 add more 981 00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:05,000 and what I mean by that is 982 00:53:05,000 --> 00:53:07,000 self-improvement 983 00:53:07,000 --> 00:53:09,000 and I noted on this concept 984 00:53:09,000 --> 00:53:11,000 while like this entire episode 985 00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:13,000 self-improvement you get better every day 986 00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:15,000 so what you did yesterday is too easy for today 987 00:53:15,000 --> 00:53:17,000 so now you need to add a little bit more 988 00:53:17,000 --> 00:53:19,000 that's gym 989 00:53:19,000 --> 00:53:21,000 you progressively overload 990 00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:23,000 if I have been 991 00:53:23,000 --> 00:53:25,000 if I started 992 00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:27,000 I started with 993 00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:29,000 self-improvement 994 00:53:29,000 --> 00:53:31,000 have been 995 00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:33,000 bench pressing 996 00:53:33,000 --> 00:53:35,000 dumbbells 997 00:53:35,000 --> 00:53:37,000 20 pounds each 998 00:53:37,000 --> 00:53:39,000 well if I did that today that would be way too easy 999 00:53:41,000 --> 00:53:43,000 so I have to add more and do 50 pound dumbbells 1000 00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:47,000 that's gym 1001 00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:49,000 this self-improvement 1002 00:53:49,000 --> 00:53:51,000 is all over 1003 00:53:51,000 --> 00:53:53,000 so add more 1004 00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:55,000 that's why I said 1005 00:53:55,000 --> 00:53:57,000 the 1006 00:53:57,000 --> 00:53:59,000 also you don't have to add more numerically 1007 00:53:59,000 --> 00:54:01,000 you could add more 1008 00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:03,000 discomfort so for example 1009 00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:05,000 how I started with 1010 00:54:05,000 --> 00:54:07,000 emails and then once emails got too 1011 00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:09,000 easy the way I added 1012 00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:11,000 more is by cold calling 1013 00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:13,000 that wasn't adding more emails 1014 00:54:13,000 --> 00:54:15,000 it was just adding more 1015 00:54:15,000 --> 00:54:17,000 discomfort 1016 00:54:17,000 --> 00:54:19,000 and then the way the once 1017 00:54:19,000 --> 00:54:21,000 that got too easy 1018 00:54:21,000 --> 00:54:23,000 I added more 1019 00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:25,000 discomfort through going in person 1020 00:54:25,000 --> 00:54:27,000 so that's 1021 00:54:27,000 --> 00:54:29,000 I'm actually going to write that down 1022 00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:31,000 because 1023 00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:33,000 I'm reading off of a 1024 00:54:33,000 --> 00:54:35,000 kind of a guidebook 1025 00:54:35,000 --> 00:54:37,000 that I wrote when I was first getting 1026 00:54:37,000 --> 00:54:39,000 into business for a lead 1027 00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:41,000 lead magnet 1028 00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:43,000 and 1029 00:54:43,000 --> 00:54:45,000 I'm not 1030 00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:47,000 focusing on that business right now 1031 00:54:47,000 --> 00:54:49,000 so 1032 00:54:49,000 --> 00:54:51,000 I'm not really publishing 1033 00:54:51,000 --> 00:54:55,000 this as a lead magnet 1034 00:54:55,000 --> 00:54:57,000 let me just write it 1035 00:54:57,000 --> 00:54:59,000 there we go add more 1036 00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:01,000 uh 1037 00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:03,000 episode 1038 00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:05,000 wait I'm going to 1039 00:55:05,000 --> 00:55:07,000 note down my time 1040 00:55:07,000 --> 00:55:09,000 55 minutes in 1041 00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:11,000 on episode 1042 00:55:11,000 --> 00:55:13,000 I think it's 1043 00:55:13,000 --> 00:55:15,000 18 let me log into my rss feed 1044 00:55:17,000 --> 00:55:19,000 yeah 18 1045 00:55:19,000 --> 00:55:21,000 episode 1046 00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:23,000 18 1047 00:55:23,000 --> 00:55:25,000 podcast 1048 00:55:29,000 --> 00:55:31,000 uh 1049 00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:33,000 yeah 1050 00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:39,000 yeah that's 1051 00:55:39,000 --> 00:55:41,000 if those seven things 1052 00:55:41,000 --> 00:55:43,000 those seven steps 1053 00:55:43,000 --> 00:55:45,000 you just focus on that 1054 00:55:45,000 --> 00:55:47,000 and since you're going to be cutting off your phone 1055 00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:49,000 that implies internet as well 1056 00:55:49,000 --> 00:55:51,000 you'll improve so fast 1057 00:55:51,000 --> 00:55:53,000 if I read 1058 00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:55,000 if I listen to this 1059 00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:57,000 if I had access to this podcast 1060 00:55:57,000 --> 00:55:59,000 when I first started 1061 00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:01,000 man 1062 00:56:01,000 --> 00:56:03,000 now it's one thing to have access 1063 00:56:03,000 --> 00:56:05,000 but it's another thing to actually do it 1064 00:56:07,000 --> 00:56:09,000 and that's the hardest part 1065 00:56:09,000 --> 00:56:11,000 to actually do it so good luck on that 1066 00:56:11,000 --> 00:56:13,000 and I gave you all the tools 1067 00:56:13,000 --> 00:56:15,000 that you need to be able to do it 1068 00:56:15,000 --> 00:56:17,000 you have to build your discipline by cold showers 1069 00:56:17,000 --> 00:56:19,000 and routine 1070 00:56:19,000 --> 00:56:21,000 just build a routine 1071 00:56:21,000 --> 00:56:23,000 so add things into your routine slowly 1072 00:56:23,000 --> 00:56:25,000 but surely and add more 1073 00:56:25,000 --> 00:56:27,000 so I would first 1074 00:56:27,000 --> 00:56:29,000 add cold shower to your routine 1075 00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:31,000 do it every single day 1076 00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:33,000 even if you start with 10 seconds 1077 00:56:33,000 --> 00:56:35,000 10 seconds is still more than the 0 seconds 1078 00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:37,000 you did yesterday 1079 00:56:37,000 --> 00:56:39,000 and then tomorrow you do 11 seconds 1080 00:56:39,000 --> 00:56:41,000 the next day you do 13 1081 00:56:41,000 --> 00:56:43,000 there's really no rush 1082 00:56:43,000 --> 00:56:45,000 especially since I just told you exactly what to do 1083 00:56:45,000 --> 00:56:47,000 you're going to be 1084 00:56:47,000 --> 00:56:49,000 so much more efficient 1085 00:56:49,000 --> 00:56:51,000 quicker at growth 1086 00:56:51,000 --> 00:56:53,000 ever 1087 00:57:09,000 --> 00:57:11,000 today 1088 00:57:11,000 --> 00:57:13,000 this is another reason why 1089 00:57:13,000 --> 00:57:15,000 podcasting 1090 00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:17,000 and finding someone 1091 00:57:17,000 --> 00:57:19,000 at least talking 1092 00:57:19,000 --> 00:57:21,000 talking to someone 1093 00:57:21,000 --> 00:57:23,000 who's like-minded with you 1094 00:57:23,000 --> 00:57:25,000 and or 1095 00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:27,000 podcasting is so valuable because 1096 00:57:27,000 --> 00:57:29,000 when I'm at the park 1097 00:57:29,000 --> 00:57:31,000 with my friend 1098 00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:33,000 who is like-minded with me 1099 00:57:33,000 --> 00:57:35,000 we're at very similar stages 1100 00:57:35,000 --> 00:57:37,000 in our growth and we're both on self improvement 1101 00:57:37,000 --> 00:57:39,000 and we talk a lot 1102 00:57:39,000 --> 00:57:41,000 and a lot of times 1103 00:57:41,000 --> 00:57:43,000 we say things and make connections 1104 00:57:43,000 --> 00:57:45,000 that we would never have known 1105 00:57:45,000 --> 00:57:47,000 prior or otherwise 1106 00:57:47,000 --> 00:57:49,000 if we hadn't 1107 00:57:49,000 --> 00:57:51,000 actually spent time together 1108 00:57:51,000 --> 00:57:53,000 and I'm realizing that 1109 00:57:53,000 --> 00:57:55,000 with spending time at the park with them 1110 00:57:55,000 --> 00:57:57,000 which is master-minding 1111 00:57:57,000 --> 00:57:59,000 master-minding 1112 00:57:59,000 --> 00:58:01,000 it's basically where you spend time 1113 00:58:01,000 --> 00:58:03,000 at least once a week 1114 00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:05,000 once a month, once a day 1115 00:58:05,000 --> 00:58:07,000 spend time with that person 1116 00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:09,000 and it's just two people in your group 1117 00:58:09,000 --> 00:58:11,000 it can be like five, ten people 1118 00:58:11,000 --> 00:58:13,000 if you want 1119 00:58:13,000 --> 00:58:15,000 and then basically just talk about 1120 00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:17,000 where you're at 1121 00:58:17,000 --> 00:58:19,000 goals, progress 1122 00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:21,000 tips, things to teach 1123 00:58:21,000 --> 00:58:23,000 and all that stuff 1124 00:58:23,000 --> 00:58:25,000 new ideas and connections are formed 1125 00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:27,000 plus your teaching 1126 00:58:27,000 --> 00:58:29,000 so your understanding better yourself 1127 00:58:29,000 --> 00:58:31,000 it's just 1128 00:58:31,000 --> 00:58:33,000 that's a huge thing 1129 00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:35,000 one of the very big things that I've done as well 1130 00:58:35,000 --> 00:58:37,000 that I never really had until 1131 00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:39,000 I started hanging out with my friend 1132 00:58:39,000 --> 00:58:41,000 this summer 1133 00:58:41,000 --> 00:58:43,000 and 1134 00:58:43,000 --> 00:58:45,000 now I know how valuable it is 1135 00:58:45,000 --> 00:58:47,000 I've grown so much 1136 00:58:47,000 --> 00:58:49,000 you really are the product of the five people 1137 00:58:49,000 --> 00:58:51,000 you're the average of the five people 1138 00:58:51,000 --> 00:58:53,000 that you spend your time with 1139 00:58:53,000 --> 00:58:55,000 now I believe that 1140 00:58:55,000 --> 00:58:57,000 but I also think that 1141 00:58:57,000 --> 00:58:59,000 it's not the average 1142 00:58:59,000 --> 00:59:01,000 because the five people that I spent my time with 1143 00:59:01,000 --> 00:59:03,000 during the school year 1144 00:59:03,000 --> 00:59:05,000 they were not on self improvement 1145 00:59:05,000 --> 00:59:07,000 and I definitely 1146 00:59:07,000 --> 00:59:09,000 was not the average of all of those people 1147 00:59:09,000 --> 00:59:11,000 I was 1148 00:59:11,000 --> 00:59:13,000 but I was definitely held down 1149 00:59:13,000 --> 00:59:15,000 like they were tugging 1150 00:59:15,000 --> 00:59:17,000 down my 1151 00:59:17,000 --> 00:59:19,000 growth 1152 00:59:19,000 --> 00:59:21,000 they were tugging me down to lower 1153 00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:23,000 they were tugging me, pulling me down closer 1154 00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:25,000 so 1155 00:59:25,000 --> 00:59:27,000 that's that 1156 00:59:27,000 --> 00:59:29,000 being that 1157 00:59:29,000 --> 00:59:31,000 but you definitely 1158 00:59:31,000 --> 00:59:33,000 once you do spend time with 1159 00:59:33,000 --> 00:59:35,000 who are like minded with you 1160 00:59:35,000 --> 00:59:37,000 or better than you 1161 00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:39,000 that's where real growth happens 1162 00:59:39,000 --> 00:59:41,000 I thought that I could just get away with 1163 00:59:41,000 --> 00:59:43,000 the five average people 1164 00:59:43,000 --> 00:59:45,000 rule 1165 00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:47,000 and I could just stay conscious of it 1166 00:59:47,000 --> 00:59:49,000 and not let it affect me, no 1167 00:59:49,000 --> 00:59:51,000 it's not 1168 00:59:51,000 --> 00:59:53,000 just that piece 1169 00:59:53,000 --> 00:59:55,000 it's not just them pulling you down piece 1170 00:59:55,000 --> 00:59:57,000 it's also the fact that 1171 00:59:57,000 --> 00:59:59,000 if you spend time with different people 1172 00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:01,000 or actually where you're at 1173 01:00:01,000 --> 01:00:03,000 that's them pulling you up 1174 01:00:03,000 --> 01:00:05,000 so you're missing out on the pulling up piece as well 1175 01:00:05,000 --> 01:00:07,000 so 1176 01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:09,000 that's huge 1177 01:00:09,000 --> 01:00:11,000 and if you can't find anyone 1178 01:00:11,000 --> 01:00:13,000 like I didn't even know 1179 01:00:13,000 --> 01:00:15,000 that this person, my friend right now 1180 01:00:15,000 --> 01:00:17,000 was on self improvement before the summer 1181 01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:19,000 and so 1182 01:00:19,000 --> 01:00:21,000 what I would tell myself 1183 01:00:21,000 --> 01:00:23,000 my previous self 1184 01:00:23,000 --> 01:00:25,000 six months ago 1185 01:00:25,000 --> 01:00:27,000 when I didn't know anyone 1186 01:00:27,000 --> 01:00:29,000 didn't think that anyone at my school was like that 1187 01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:31,000 I would tell myself 1188 01:00:31,000 --> 01:00:33,000 to start a podcast 1189 01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:35,000 and start talking and teaching things 1190 01:00:35,000 --> 01:00:37,000 and 1191 01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:39,000 even you don't even have to post it 1192 01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:41,000 just add it to your daily routine 1193 01:00:41,000 --> 01:00:43,000 to talk on voice memos 1194 01:00:43,000 --> 01:00:45,000 or some 1195 01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:47,000 some place 1196 01:00:47,000 --> 01:00:49,000 just that communication 1197 01:00:49,000 --> 01:00:51,000 and building epiphanies 1198 01:00:51,000 --> 01:00:53,000 is so valuable and push through it 1199 01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:55,000 because in the first 1200 01:00:55,000 --> 01:00:57,000 day you'll be terrible 1201 01:00:57,000 --> 01:00:59,000 second day you'll be terrible but a little bit less terrible 1202 01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:01,000 third day you'll be terrible 1203 01:01:01,000 --> 01:01:03,000 but a little less terrible 1204 01:01:03,000 --> 01:01:05,000 and so on 1205 01:01:05,000 --> 01:01:07,000 until you start getting good 1206 01:01:07,000 --> 01:01:09,000 right now I think that I'm almost on the verge of getting good 1207 01:01:11,000 --> 01:01:13,000 like my first episode was 1208 01:01:13,000 --> 01:01:15,000 absolutely garbage 1209 01:01:15,000 --> 01:01:17,000 and you can go back and listen to that 1210 01:01:17,000 --> 01:01:19,000 and that was actually my fifteenth episode 1211 01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:21,000 but that's a different story, I didn't post my first 14 episodes 1212 01:01:21,000 --> 01:01:23,000 and 1213 01:01:23,000 --> 01:01:25,000 I'm on 1214 01:01:25,000 --> 01:01:27,000 episode 18 right now 1215 01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:29,000 and I'm just starting to 1216 01:01:29,000 --> 01:01:31,000 almost get out of the garbage territory 1217 01:01:31,000 --> 01:01:33,000 and it's worth it 1218 01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:35,000 and it's going to be even more worth it 1219 01:01:35,000 --> 01:01:37,000 once I'm not garbage 1220 01:01:37,000 --> 01:01:39,000 and it's going to be worth it for you guys too 1221 01:01:43,000 --> 01:01:45,000 to wrap things up 1222 01:01:45,000 --> 01:01:47,000 don't forget to download your favorite episodes 1223 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