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When you're on self-improvement and you're actually striving for success and you're actually making yourself better every single day,
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you're increasing your discipline, you're focusing on your health, your fitness, your cardio, your physique,
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all of this stuff. When you're getting better and better and better every single day, you're disciplined.
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And you come home and you see the people around you not doing them. You see them scrolling on their phones.
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You see them say they're gonna go work out and not do it. You see them make excuses. You see them eat unhealthy.
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You see them do all these things. It is frustrating. It makes me angry. And I'm sure a lot of people are like that.
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It's extremely offensive. Honestly, I think it's offensive that the people around us find it acceptable to be a terrible influence on us.
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A couple months ago, I went to a business conference called Funnel Hacking Lot.
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And it was a business conference for entrepreneurs and it was amazing. But on one of the last days,
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one of the motivational speakers, his name was Ben Kajar. I don't know if I pronounced that right,
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but pretty much he came up and talked about how it's actually bad not to show your kids what greatness looks like.
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He actually had an entire talk that he didn't give at Funnel Hacking Lot, the place I went to, but he referenced it.
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And he said at another event, he talked about how the greatest form of child neglect is not striving for success,
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not striving for greatness, not showing them what success or greatness looks like through their own actions.
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And so the majority of Americans of what I've seen are like this. The majority of people in middle class are like this.
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There's a well-known concept of the 99% and the 1%. The 1% is the successful people and the 99% are the not successful people.
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Actually, I'd say that a lot of people are like this. And I read a book called Reality Transurfing and that book is a whole conversation on itself.
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But one of the biggest takeaways I realized after reading Reality Transurfing is basically just to ignore the mediocrity, ignore the averageness or whatever.
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Ignore all that. Don't let it get to you because it used to get to me all the time.
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I remember one day I came home from the gym. It was winter. It was cold and I biked to the gym at 6 in the morning.
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I biked to the gym, went, worked out, and then I biked home. It was like snowing. It was like 10 degrees outside.
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I was freezing. I was biking, but that's just what I did. I was bicycling. I went to the gym every single morning.
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6 am. Sun didn't even come out yet. And I remember I came home from death and I saw the people around me being lazy.
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They hadn't even started their days. They're just sitting on the couch watching YouTube, watching Netflix.
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And the moment I saw this, I just got so mad, so angry. This was before I read Reality Transurfing and so I was so mad.
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But something held me back from getting mad. So I just said, hello. Like usual, they say hello.
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And then I got so angry and then I just went straight to my room, took out my journal, and I started writing.
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And I basically wrote down what I was feeling. I wrote down how angry I felt at how I just got home from the gym.
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I'm striving for success. And the people around me are being lazy, not striving for anything.
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Just scrolling on with their phones, being consumer. It's extremely offensive.
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And I'm not sure if many people will understand what I'm trying to say here about how that's actually offensive to me.
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But I just understand that this is offensive. This is offensive because the culture and environment around you greatly affect your habits.
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I know this because ever since fifth grade, ever since I got an Xbox, I became mediocre myself.
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And I became average and I started playing Xbox, started wasting my days.
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And then once I got my phone, I started watching YouTube. And then I started watching TikTok.
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And I started just wasting all of my days, not striving for anything.
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Because this is what I saw around me. So this is what I'd rep if you're a parent watching this.
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I want to tell you how powerful it is to show your kids what greatness looks like through your own action.
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Because a couple of years ago, when I was, I believe I was either in eighth grade or freshman year,
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I watched my dad, he went from being overweight, and then he started running.
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He started running 5Ks, 10Ks, half marathon.
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He started running marathon and he was training a lot. He lost a lot of weight.
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And he had his purpose. He had something he was striving for, some greatness he was striving for.
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And then he started training for an Ironman, which an Ironman, if you don't know, it's like a triathlon, but longer.
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So it's like a two mile swim, 150 mile bike ride, and then a marathon at the end, which is a 26 mile run, all in one day.
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So it's an entire day of exercise.
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So my dad started training for this Ironman. He started waking up at 3.30 in the morning.
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And he was showing me what success looks like. He was not telling me. And he was not mediocre anymore.
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He was showing me what success looks like through his actions.
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And so I picked up on that and then I started striving for my own things.
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I started striving for success trying to make the soccer team. I never made it.
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But then I started striving for success in other aspects of my life, like building my physique in the gym.
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And so this had a domino effect, where I started striving for success in the gym and then I realized, oh, that's awesome.
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This feels amazing. I like this. So now I want to strive for success in other areas.
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I started reading books. I started studying things. I started studying business.
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And then I started a podcast. I started striving for success through making a podcast.
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And now I'm striving for success trying to grow a YouTube channel and learn how to be a YouTuber.
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I want to say that my dad striving for success, it rubbed off on me. And now I started striving for success.
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Now, my life is so much better and I have such a higher standard for myself because of what my dad did.
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So that is the power. That is the true power of showing your kids what it looks like to be successful.
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My dad ran an Iron Man once three years ago. And then he kind of stopped running
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and stopped working out slowly but surely after that. But that still has an effect on me to this day.
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That's how powerful it is to show your kids what success looks like.
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And so I want to talk about reality trans surfing because I mentioned that earlier when I realized
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that everyone around me was a bad influence on me. And I realized that they were not really
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showing me what success looks like. It was offensive and I got angry.
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And so I needed some solution because I knew that that was not good for my health.
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That was not good for my mental health just to be angry at everyone around me all the time.
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So I discovered reality trans surfing and in that book I learned to be indifferent and simply just
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let it go. I learned to let them be themselves and I learned that I can't fix them. I learned
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to just focus on myself and every time I see my parents being beat ochre and it gets to me,
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just realize that that is not good. I get drawn into the trap of thinking negative thoughts
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towards them. It's not good to get drawn into that trap. And so I tell myself focus and be
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indifferent because you can't be successful if you hold contempt for others. You can't be successful
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if you're constantly angry at your parents. So I realized I had to do a lot of inner work to get
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over this anger to get over this. And it took a long time and I still have moments of slight anger
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but it's a lot better and I've gotten a lot better at dealing with that. And so if you're
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someone who gets angry at all the mediocrity around you then read reality trans surfing
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and just know that it's going to take a long time. It's going to take a lot of work on your part to
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get over this. But that's what we must do. That's what you have to do if you want to achieve success.