People Think About Themselves 90% of the Time

1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:14,000 So the big question is this, how do young men like us who didn't listen to society, who are on our own, how do we grow and improve ourselves so that we can live a better tomorrow? 2 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:26,000 That is a question and this show will give you the answers. My name is James Radzinski and welcome to the Ascend Momentum Show. 3 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:47,000 So real quick I want to talk to you guys about something I mentioned yesterday and it's that people treat you differently when you have your shirt off and today my suspicions were definitely confirmed. 4 00:00:47,000 --> 00:01:01,000 So for some context in my gym class we have to, in my gym class we're in the unit called, it's a kayaking unit. 5 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:14,000 So we have to change into our swimsuits and be shirtless basically because we're swimming. 6 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:26,000 And the pool that we're kayaking in is on the opposite end of the fieldhouse and our lockers are on one end of the fieldhouse and the pool is on the other. 7 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:35,000 So we have to walk all the way across the fieldhouse and the fieldhouse is just where everyone congregates for gym class. 8 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:44,000 And it's basically just a track and basketball court, big fieldhouse, indoors. 9 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:47,000 And that's just at my school. 10 00:01:47,000 --> 00:02:04,000 And our adventure ed class is co-ed so there's boys and girls and let me tell you yesterday I had suspicions where people treat you differently and better when you have your shirt off. 11 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:17,000 And for some context I'm tan, I'm very tan right now and I'm pretty shredded. I've been lifting for two years and I've got visible abs. 12 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:20,000 So that's some context. 13 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,000 Just as humbly as I can say that. 14 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:33,000 But today there was this one girl that I know and I would say hi to her. 15 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:43,000 And when I was walking back to the locker room across the fieldhouse and I was shirtless she like saw me but she did not make eye contact with me. 16 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:45,000 She just stared at my abs. 17 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:52,000 And then I was like hey but then I said her name and then she was like oh hey. 18 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:56,000 So she was like in a trance. 19 00:02:57,000 --> 00:03:01,000 So then I kind of, I actually kind of like it. I'm not even going to lie. 20 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:08,000 Yesterday I felt a little weird about it but I mean you got to take advantage you know. 21 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:25,000 So today I, one of my critical tasks, my critical task for today was to go to the bank and change my pin number because I forgot it. 22 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:32,000 And so I biked, I had to bike there or I got to bike there. I chose to bike there. 23 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:37,000 So I biked shirtless all the way there. 24 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:42,000 And it is, it's a different feeling biking across town shirtless. 25 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:47,000 It's pretty uncomfortable when you get near people your age. 26 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:51,000 But I don't know I think I like it. 27 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:55,000 And I'm preparing for Hawaii basically. 28 00:03:55,000 --> 00:04:01,000 Expanding my comfort zone because I'm probably going to be shirtless 24-7 at Hawaii. 29 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:03,000 In Hawaii. 30 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:06,000 So that's cool. 31 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:22,000 So I want to talk to you guys about this podcast and where it's headed. 32 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:29,000 I'm on episode 34 so it's been over a month of just straight podcasting. 33 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:43,000 And I am planning on continuing one hour a day every day because it's actually helping me a lot with my speech and getting better at talking. 34 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:51,000 So it's, I'm actually very excited for the future with this podcast. 35 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:58,000 And I haven't checked the analytics in a while and I'm probably not going to check them until September. 36 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:01,000 At least September. 37 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:06,000 But it's still cool. 38 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:10,000 I want to talk to you guys about comfort zone. 39 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:16,000 A couple of weeks ago I was talking a lot about your comfort zone. 40 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:19,000 And it's because I was expanding it a lot. 41 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:27,000 I was doing exercises to expand my comfort zone and it has, it is paying off so much. 42 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:37,000 It is so worth it to expand your comfort zone because I used to get have very a lot of anxiety. 43 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:45,000 And I was just super, not insecure but insecure around other people. 44 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:51,000 And I always just felt, I always felt inferior. 45 00:05:52,000 --> 00:06:03,000 And that was just in social situations because I just, I don't know why but yeah, I think I am an introvert. 46 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:07,000 So, but that was not like introvertedness. 47 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:13,000 That was just me having a small comfort zone and not being comfortable in social situations. 48 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:21,000 And so then what I did to expand it, which I didn't even do it for this reason in the beginning. 49 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:32,000 Eventually I changed it to this reason but what I did was I sent emails to five companies to try and work with them. 50 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:43,000 To build them a funnel, which is just a better website that converts customers, converts leads into customers. 51 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:51,000 And that once that got too easy, then I started cold calling. 52 00:06:52,000 --> 00:07:00,000 And then once that got too easy, it usually gets too easy around five goes five times over five days. 53 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:03,000 That's like the magic number that I found. 54 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:13,000 But the emails and the cold calls I did not do over five days, I did over maybe two or three days because those are just very easy things. 55 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:18,000 Not easy because I was definitely, is very difficult for me in the beginning. 56 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:22,000 But they're easy compared to the things that I'll talk about soon. 57 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:33,000 And then once the cold call got too easy, I switched it up and went in person and then did that five times over five days. 58 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:44,000 And then I needed something more difficult and something to push me even further, even harder. 59 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:49,000 And it was to cold approach girls my age. 60 00:07:49,000 --> 00:08:00,000 And so me and my friend went to the mall and went up to like 10 girls each and just started talking to them and asking for their numbers. 61 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:08,000 And we did that one day and then nine days after that, we did it a second time and we cold approached five girls each. 62 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:20,000 And so in the grand scheme of things, I think that I'm two out of five attempts because I've gone twice so far. 63 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:27,000 So once I go three more times over three different days, then cold approaching will be in my comfort zone. 64 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:29,000 So that's really inspiring. 65 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:36,000 That's really motivating because even when we went that second time, it was so much easier. 66 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:39,000 It was still really difficult, but it was so much easier. 67 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:54,000 So I'm definitely going to try and convince him to go again, which he won't need convincing because he knows and he's probably thinking the same to go again anyways. 68 00:08:54,000 --> 00:09:08,000 And all of that stuff that I've done to expand my comfort zone, it's such a huge asset, so valuable to be confident, cool, calm, collected in social situations. 69 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:13,000 Because I'll give you an example right away. 70 00:09:13,000 --> 00:09:28,000 I wanted to drop all of my classes and only take the required classes so I can graduate early in high school and have a half day for first semester and not take second semester. 71 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:30,000 And that's what I wanted. 72 00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:48,000 If I were to have wanted that last year and it would have been feasible, I probably wouldn't have gotten it because the things that I had to do to get it, I had to go to my counselor's office, tell them what I wanted and which alone would have been difficult for me to do. 73 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:56,000 And then I had to, since she couldn't do it alone, we had to go get permission from her advisor. 74 00:09:56,000 --> 00:10:07,000 So basically her boss. So we had to walk all the way through the office and through some locked doors. We had to go through locked doors to get to her boss. 75 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:13,000 And then I basically had to stand up in front of her boss and tell her what I wanted. 76 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:22,000 Now I was cool and calm and collected throughout that, but I wouldn't have been if I didn't expand my comfort zone one week earlier. 77 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:36,000 So that alone, it already is paid off because the amount of hours that I've saved in my life getting that, it's hit my friend did the math, I'm pretty sure. 78 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:42,000 And he said it's about 250 hours per period for an entire semester. 79 00:10:42,000 --> 00:10:52,000 So if you do the math, I save myself eight periods in second semester for a whole semester. 80 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:58,000 So that's eight times 250. I'm not even going to bother with the math. You guys can do it if you're curious. 81 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:08,000 And then I also saved myself fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth, four times 250, 2000 hours this semester. 82 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:21,000 So I guess it was 6000 hours. I've saved myself 6000 hours simply because I was cool, calm and collected. 83 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:25,000 And I was only able to do that because I expanded my comfort zone. 84 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:33,000 6000 hours is near enough to become an expert at a field. 85 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:41,000 And I would argue that it's more than enough. 10,000 hours is the milestone number that people like to throw around. 86 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:49,000 But I'd argue that you can become an expert at your craft even before 10,000 hours. 87 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:58,000 So I saved myself 6000 hours of indenture time to the school system. 88 00:11:58,000 --> 00:12:10,000 Simply because I cold approached, I talked to five strangers, female strangers who are my age. 89 00:12:11,000 --> 00:12:22,000 6000 hours just to spend 10 seconds each conversation five times to a random girl. 90 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:28,000 Yeah, I'll take that trade. That's one minute for 6000 hours. 91 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:36,000 And plus now that I did, I spent that one minute in discomfort talking to girls. 92 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:45,000 Now I get the benefits of that for the rest of my life because now my comfort zone has expanded and now I'm more confident. 93 00:12:45,000 --> 00:12:52,000 And that's just one of the benefits that I got. 94 00:12:53,000 --> 00:13:00,000 I've gotten plenty more, but another one that I got just today was I got to go to the bank. 95 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:07,000 My mom sent me to the bank to reset my pin number and change it. 96 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:19,000 And I was able to go in there, get what I wanted and leave easily, calmly and without any question. 97 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:33,000 And it was very, it was a very good thing because I, it was very nice because if I would have been in that situation, 98 00:13:33,000 --> 00:13:38,000 even three weeks ago, I would have been nervous and had a lot of anxiety. 99 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:45,000 But now I can do it just easily and I was calm throughout that whole thing. 100 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:54,000 So that's, that's really, it's really nice is expanding your comfort zone is actually one of the best things I've ever done. 101 00:13:54,000 --> 00:14:06,000 And I'm definitely going to invest three more days to go to the mall and talk to girls because if my framework holds true on the next level, 102 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:13,000 which it so far it's definitely held true on the smaller level of going in person to five businesses. 103 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:28,000 But if it holds true on the next level and going to cold approach girls, then after three more goes, three more trap visits to the mall, 104 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:32,000 I will be different. I will be a different breed. 105 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:35,000 So I'm looking forward to that. 106 00:14:35,000 --> 00:14:36,000 Let me get some water. 107 00:14:36,000 --> 00:15:05,000 So this Florida trip is definitely going to happen. I know I announced it like 20 days ago, but it is 100% happening. 108 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:15,000 And I'm actually going to book, I'm actually going to book the tickets soon today or tomorrow. I'll book them. 109 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:23,000 That's going to be awesome. That trip is going to be really fun. 110 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:28,000 But I want to talk about something that I brought up yesterday. 111 00:15:28,000 --> 00:15:39,000 And it's that I've been slacking off lately. I haven't really worked on my business. I haven't worked towards my goals. I haven't really done much. 112 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:47,000 And yesterday after the podcast, 113 00:15:47,000 --> 00:16:02,000 I, after I told you guys about how I'm not really doing much, I went and I checked my email and it and that email was newsletter from ClickFunnels. 114 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:09,000 And they were just sharing a bunch of information, very valuable stuff. 115 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:18,000 And I read the whole thing through, but there was one segment of the article that really stuck out to me that I really needed to hear at that moment. 116 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:28,000 And it was from a two comma club winner times two. So he won the two comma club two times. 117 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:36,000 And the two comma club basically means that you've earned a million dollars in sales in one funnel. 118 00:16:36,000 --> 00:16:44,000 I'm not sure if it's in one year or a million dollars at like total. 119 00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:57,000 But I saw that video or not video. I read that article or that quote that they placed in from there. 120 00:16:57,000 --> 00:17:11,000 And it was basically four tips from him for you moving four tips from him for someone who is chasing their first two comma club award, which is basically me. 121 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,000 I'm trying to get a million dollars. 122 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:20,000 And in there, he said a bunch, he said four tips, but one of them really stuck out to me. 123 00:17:20,000 --> 00:17:30,000 And I needed to hear it. He said treat doing business, treat working on your business as the gym, as you would the gym. 124 00:17:30,000 --> 00:17:36,000 So if you went to the gym for eight hours one day, you're just killing yourself. 125 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:39,000 You're just, you're not going to make any gains from that. 126 00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:42,000 You're just going to get injured and it's not going to be fun. 127 00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:50,000 But if you went to the gym 30 minutes a day or a month, well, then then you will get some gains. 128 00:17:50,000 --> 00:17:52,000 You will make some progress. 129 00:17:53,000 --> 00:18:02,000 And so that's what he and he also said, if you go to the gym one day and look in the mirror, you're not going to see any change. 130 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:08,000 But if you go to the gym four days and look in the mirror, you're not going to see any change. 131 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:15,000 But if you go to the gym for three weeks and look in the mirror, you'll see a little change. 132 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:20,000 Maybe you'll see a tiny change and then definitely three months you will see change. 133 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:33,000 So that's what he said, treat your business as you would to treat the gym, which I really needed to hear because 134 00:18:33,000 --> 00:18:40,000 because that is definitely something that I'll take into consideration moving forward. 135 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:45,000 Because lately I've just been, I've even been, I've been really inconsistent. 136 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:56,000 And so if I just treat the business as the gym consistency, like the only thing that I've been treating like the gym in my business is the podcast. 137 00:18:56,000 --> 00:18:58,000 I've just been consistent at the gym. 138 00:18:58,000 --> 00:19:05,000 And I do it an hour every day, but other than that, it's not really, it's not really good. 139 00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:09,000 I'm not really doing being very consistent. 140 00:19:09,000 --> 00:19:11,000 I've just been working on my podcast. 141 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:19,000 So when it came up, the solution that I came up with is I need to figure out what I want. 142 00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:22,000 And I'm not going to be doing it all day. 143 00:19:22,000 --> 00:19:28,000 The solution that I came up with is I need to figure out what I want. 144 00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:33,000 And what I think I want is to build funnels for other people. 145 00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:38,000 And then the second step is to figure out how to do that. 146 00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:48,000 And then after that, I need to treat it like the gym and create a routine and work on it 30 minutes every day. 147 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:55,000 Take some rest days if needed, but just stay consistent and add it to my schedule. 148 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:59,000 So right now, everything is in my schedule. 149 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:03,000 I've got a very strict schedule. 150 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:09,000 I follow a morning routine that takes about two hours and 10 minutes. 151 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:16,000 And then I go to school, which takes four hours, three hours, maybe, 152 00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:21,000 which I'm very grateful I only have to go to school for three hours. 153 00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:25,000 And then I go come home, eat my lunch. 154 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:28,000 And then on days where I go to the gym, I go to the gym. 155 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:36,000 If not, then I kind of have a free time slot of an hour or so. 156 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:44,000 And then after the gym or that time slot, I record my podcast for an hour. 157 00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:51,000 And then I upload it, which usually takes, I edit and upload, which usually takes 20 to 30 minutes, 158 00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:55,000 maybe 10 to 20 minutes, I don't know. 159 00:20:55,000 --> 00:21:00,000 And then after that, at five o'clock, I start my nighttime routine. 160 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:03,000 And that takes an hour and a half. 161 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:06,000 And then I go to bed. 162 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:13,000 So I've got a very strict regimented routine that I do every single day. 163 00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:18,000 And what I need to do moving forward, I've been successful at everything that I've added into my routine. 164 00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:21,000 I've been successful at podcasting because I added it to my routine. 165 00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:25,000 I've been successful at the gym because I added it to my routine. 166 00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:30,000 I've been successful at even the tiny little things that I added into my routine. 167 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:37,000 Like working on doing three sets or two sets or one set of neck bridges, 168 00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:40,000 neck push-ups every single day. 169 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:46,000 And I've seen some very good results from that after one week of doing it consistently. 170 00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:52,000 And balancing on a medicine ball, I added into my routine 10 minutes a day. 171 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:55,000 And I've already improved so much. 172 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:59,000 And it's only been like a week and a half. 173 00:21:59,000 --> 00:22:06,000 So what I'm trying to say is whatever you add into your routine and just get consistent at it, 174 00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:13,000 you teleport one month from now and you're going to be exceptionally good at it. 175 00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:17,000 So that's what I've done with all of my things. 176 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:25,000 And then most of the time I usually keep it in my routine for the remainder of my life so far. 177 00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:29,000 Once I added the gym to my routine, I just kept it in there. 178 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:32,000 Yeah, I moved it around here and there. 179 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:35,000 Sometimes I didn't go. Sometimes I did go. 180 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:41,000 But it's always been a staple of my routine. 181 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:43,000 So that's what I need to do. 182 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:48,000 I need to treat the business the same as I would treat anything else I'm planning on being successful at. 183 00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:54,000 Just add it to my routine and then become consistent at it and work on it every day. 184 00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:59,000 So if I simply just do 30 minutes of focused time on my business every single day, 185 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:04,000 sit down for 30 minutes and just crank some work out, just crank some work done. 186 00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:12,000 Then I will definitely succeed in business. 187 00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:22,000 Especially now because it's not summer anymore and I'm a part-time student so I have to go to school for half the day. 188 00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:27,000 I definitely don't have as much time as I did a couple weeks ago. 189 00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:33,000 So I have to compensate for that and add it into my routine, which is perfect because 190 00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:39,000 I definitely can fit 30 minutes into my day. 191 00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:44,000 It would be a slight. 192 00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:52,000 I'd have to cut. I'd have to go to the gym fairly quickly on days where I go to the gym. 193 00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:57,000 But I could definitely make it work, especially on days where I don't go to the gym because 194 00:23:57,000 --> 00:24:04,000 I've got, like I said, I have that whole time slot open from available from the days. 195 00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:13,000 Same time that I go to the gym, which is around 1 to 2. 1 to 230. 196 00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:17,000 So I'm thinking if I... 197 00:24:17,000 --> 00:24:19,000 Because here, let me say this. 198 00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:25,000 I used to like to be done recording my podcast at 4 so I can get a study session done, 199 00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:32,000 but I actually stopped reading two books at once for many reasons because I just feel like 200 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:38,000 I'm not retaining enough information for it to make it worth it. 201 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:43,000 And so I used to like to study from 4 to 5, but now I don't... 202 00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:47,000 I'm not doing that. I'm just studying in the morning. 203 00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:52,000 So I actually have that whole slot open so I can work on my podcast. 204 00:24:52,000 --> 00:25:04,000 I can do my podcast from 3.30 until 4.30 and then edit until 5 and then go straight to my nighttime routine. 205 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:11,000 So I really actually do have a lot of time available to work on business. 206 00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:21,000 So if I don't succeed moving forward, it's simply just because I'm making excuses and I'm just slacking. 207 00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:26,000 But that's really one of the challenges for me. 208 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:30,000 I don't really know how to move forward. I don't know what to do. 209 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:35,000 I said that I wanted to build funnels for people and I think that that would be one of the paths forward 210 00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:43,000 because I've got maybe 20 some days until my birthday. 211 00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:55,000 And once it's my birthday, I'm going to make a business bank account and focus on my business. 212 00:25:55,000 --> 00:26:05,000 And so if I can build my skills, building funnels for 20 days, 30 minutes a day, 213 00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:11,000 then I will definitely be ample prepared for the launch of my business. 214 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:20,000 So all these, if I lock in moving forward, then all the stars will align. 215 00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:25,000 And it will be, I'll be on like episode 50 something. 216 00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:28,000 So hopefully I'll have an audience as well. 217 00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:31,000 And then I can promote my new product. 218 00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:35,000 I can build a product for you guys and then promote it to you guys. 219 00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:38,000 So I'll have traffic. 220 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:42,000 I don't know, things are looking bright. The stars are starting to align. 221 00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:44,000 Outer intention is working. 222 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:50,000 Now that's another thing I wanted to talk about. 223 00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:55,000 I have been daydreaming a lot lately. 224 00:26:55,000 --> 00:27:07,000 And I'm not sure exactly what it is, but I am definitely 225 00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:12,000 not as focused or vigilant as I should be. 226 00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:21,000 I find myself falling asleep a lot throughout the day and just zoning out. 227 00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:27,000 And it's not where I'm hoping to be right now. 228 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:34,000 And I know I talked about it yesterday, how meditation is an exercise 229 00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:41,000 and it shouldn't be something that you just sleep through and just go through the motions to get it done. 230 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:46,000 And after I talked about that, I'm not even going to lie. 231 00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:50,000 It was tough meditating that long. 232 00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:53,000 And there was a lot of times where I would just stop. 233 00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:57,000 I would literally just start stretching or do something dumb. 234 00:27:57,000 --> 00:28:02,000 And then I'd wake up and I realized, what am I doing? 235 00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:07,000 But while I was reading the Are You Dreaming book the other night, 236 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:20,000 I read this part where he said that clearing your mind and staying present could be a lifelong journey. 237 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,000 And it's not something that happens overnight. 238 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:26,000 It's something that you work towards all your life. 239 00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:31,000 And it could be someone's life purpose. 240 00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:39,000 So that gave me some comfort in thinking because I've only been really doing this for a little over a month. 241 00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:43,000 Maybe even a month and a half, I don't know. 242 00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:48,000 And I've made some improvement, but I'm not happy. 243 00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:51,000 I'm not too happy with my results so far. 244 00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:58,000 I want to be more. I want to have more focus. 245 00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:03,000 But when I read that, it's very comforting to think. 246 00:29:03,000 --> 00:29:08,000 But it's hard for me to accept. 247 00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:14,000 So if you guys are in a position where you're trying to stay present throughout the day, 248 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:19,000 we're in the same boat and it's not easy. 249 00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:23,000 And it's actually... 250 00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:30,000 I struggle to say it's not possible because I feel like it is possible to stay vigilant all day, 251 00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:33,000 even if you were put into my mind. 252 00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:40,000 It would just take a lot of willpower and then the second you lose focus, you're asleep. 253 00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:44,000 So, I don't know. 254 00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:52,000 But today, over the past couple days, I'm going to shift the topic a little bit. 255 00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:58,000 I want to talk to you guys about how over the past couple days, my mind has been a little... 256 00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:02,000 not focused, even during my meditations, or not... 257 00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:07,000 Well, yeah, meditations, but especially during my studying. 258 00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:10,000 And so today, I just took the whole morning off. 259 00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:13,000 I took the day off from studying. 260 00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:18,000 And I took a nap instead, right before school. 261 00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:24,000 And I feel like I'm not going to be taking naps before school in the future, 262 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:31,000 because I was definitely low energy first period. 263 00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:40,000 But I definitely feel like my energy is low and I want to fix that. 264 00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:49,000 And one of the ways I feel could work to fix it is to fix my breathing. 265 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:52,000 And I know my breathing is not what it should be, 266 00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:56,000 because I got a seven seconds on the bolt score, 267 00:30:56,000 --> 00:31:01,000 which a healthy person's bolt test score should be at least 40 seconds. 268 00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:04,000 And I got seven seconds. 269 00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:08,000 So, I'm definitely not where it should be at breathing. 270 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:15,000 And I got an email saying from someone saying that 271 00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:18,000 if you fix your energy, or if you fix your breathing, 272 00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:20,000 your energy levels actually go up. 273 00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:27,000 So, I signed up for their webinar, and it's on Thursday, which is in two days. 274 00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:31,000 But it's at nighttime. It's at like 4.30 to 7. 275 00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:34,000 So, I'm probably not going to go to it. 276 00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:38,000 And I predict that he's just going to teach strategies and not tactics, 277 00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:46,000 because that's the industry standard for webinars, for free webinars. 278 00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:49,000 I don't know. 279 00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:50,000 I'll figure it out. 280 00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:52,000 I have two books that I could refer to as well. 281 00:31:52,000 --> 00:32:04,000 I'm going to get some water. 282 00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:09,000 So, today, I want to talk to you guys about how I've been bulking, 283 00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:12,000 or I've been batching my meals. 284 00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:17,000 So, I only eat two meals a day, but each of those meals are really big. 285 00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:21,000 So, breakfast is eight eggs and a bunch of spinach 286 00:32:21,000 --> 00:32:24,000 with bone broth, egg shells. 287 00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:26,000 I eat all this separate. 288 00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:31,000 Bone broth, egg shells, a shot of olive oil, 289 00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:36,000 and also, I eat a cup of rice. 290 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:41,000 So, basically, the staple of breakfast is eight eggs with spinach 291 00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:44,000 and a cup of rice. 292 00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:48,000 White rice, of course. 293 00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:54,000 And that is pretty straightforward to get down. 294 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:59,000 In the beginning, when I first did that, it was difficult to get down. 295 00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:02,000 And then it just got easier and easier. 296 00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:04,000 Oh, and I also eat two bananas. 297 00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:08,000 I eat that first. 298 00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:14,000 And then my lunch is one and a third pounds of ground beef 299 00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:17,000 with sauerkraut on top of it. 300 00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:20,000 And then I have two chicken breasts. 301 00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:22,000 And that's lunch. 302 00:33:22,000 --> 00:33:24,000 And I have fruit also. 303 00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:27,000 I just eat fruit throughout the day. 304 00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:29,000 Excuse me. 305 00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:35,000 But I wanted to say, I only eat two times a day 306 00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:39,000 because it takes a long time to cook. 307 00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:43,000 So, I just cook everything at the same time. 308 00:33:43,000 --> 00:33:51,000 And it saves time doing the dishes and cleaning and stuff. 309 00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:59,000 And I'm saying this because I knew that it was good to go on a walk 310 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:05,000 or do some sort of light physical activity right after you're done eating. 311 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:07,000 But I never really did it. 312 00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:10,000 My friend always did it, and he swears by it. 313 00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:16,000 But I have been doing it lately with going to the gym. 314 00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:19,000 I bike to the gym right after I eat, 315 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:23,000 which I know I should be waiting a little bit, but I don't care. 316 00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:31,000 At least I should care, but I got different motives right now. 317 00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:40,000 And so, today I ate and then biked pretty far, 318 00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:45,000 biked for maybe 15 to 20 minutes there and then 15 to 20 minutes back. 319 00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,000 So, I biked for like 40 minutes. 320 00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:52,000 And usually my stomach feels full and it feels like bloated. 321 00:34:52,000 --> 00:35:00,000 But once I was done eating my lunch, I like don't feel any bloating. 322 00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:07,000 I feel like I digested all of my food. 323 00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:12,000 I can actually do like a semi-vacuum, not all the way, 324 00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:19,000 but I wouldn't have even been able to get this far if I didn't bike. 325 00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:28,000 So, if you guys are trying to figure out some way to stop the bloating, 326 00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:31,000 just go on a walk right after you're done eating. 327 00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:36,000 That's a nice tip. 328 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:40,000 I want to talk about nighttime. 329 00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:47,000 So, about two months ago, a little bit less than two months ago, 330 00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:52,000 I bought a mat, a tatami mat, 331 00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:58,000 which is basically a mat that's woven by grass, 332 00:35:58,000 --> 00:35:59,000 rush grass. 333 00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:05,000 So, it's basically a mat that's made of grass, essentially. 334 00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:14,000 And it's the, that type of mat is what the samurai used to sleep on back in the day. 335 00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:23,000 And I bought it originally, I originally saw it on a video about how to improve your sleep. 336 00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:27,000 It was an esoteric sleep guide. 337 00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:36,000 And then I, I kind of just dismissed that mat for a while. 338 00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:42,000 And then when I was looking to add meditation to my routine consistently, 339 00:36:42,000 --> 00:36:48,000 I knew I wasn't going to do it unless it was at my house and in my room. 340 00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:53,000 But I didn't have any mat to sit on and I didn't want to sit on my bed 341 00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:58,000 because I would have been inconvenient because my, if I sit on my bed crisscrossed apple, 342 00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:04,000 applesauce, then I like sink into the bed and it's just not that great. 343 00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:08,000 And I didn't want to sit on the floor because it would hurt my butt. 344 00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:12,000 I just didn't want to make it inconvenient. 345 00:37:12,000 --> 00:37:16,000 So I wanted to make it as convenient as possible so I could actually do it consistently. 346 00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:20,000 So I bought, I remembered that mat that I saw in that video and then I rewatched the video. 347 00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,000 And then I ordered the mat. 348 00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:26,000 It was like a hundred and a hundred and thirty dollars. 349 00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:31,000 And I remember I was like, oh, maybe I should actually sleep on it as well. 350 00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:35,000 So the first night I put it in the corner of my room and I actually slept on it. 351 00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:42,000 And then I followed my routine where I meditated on the mat. 352 00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:45,000 And then I actually liked sleeping on it. 353 00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:51,000 But I didn't, I actually didn't like it, but I liked the vibe of it. 354 00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:56,000 So then I came up with this idea while I was doing my journaling. 355 00:37:56,000 --> 00:38:05,000 And it was that it was to just get rid of everything in my room except for my mat. 356 00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:07,000 So I did that. 357 00:38:07,000 --> 00:38:08,000 I got rid of my bed. 358 00:38:08,000 --> 00:38:12,000 I got rid of my dresser and I put my dresser in my closet. 359 00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:20,000 So all my stuff is in my closet, but the only thing in my room as of two months ago is my tatami mat, 360 00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:22,000 which is in the corner of my room. 361 00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:35,000 And actually, I think, yeah, the tatami mat and like my fan and my air purifier, 362 00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:37,000 and that's pretty much it. 363 00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:41,000 My journal as well, but whatever. 364 00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:44,000 And some timers. 365 00:38:44,000 --> 00:38:55,000 But that changing the vibe of my room to that dojo vibe, that disciplines, warriors vibe. 366 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:58,000 It's really changed the course of events in my life. 367 00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:01,000 Because now I, I mean, I was disciplined. 368 00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:08,000 I was very disciplined before, but my room was kind of not really reflecting that discipline. 369 00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:11,000 So me changing my room to that. 370 00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:22,000 And plus I nailed blackout curtains on my door and my window so no one can get in without, 371 00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:28,000 like if you open my door, then you are greeted to blackout curtains. 372 00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:37,000 So you have to open the curtains to get in and the window is just pitch black, but I can open it during the day. 373 00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:41,000 So my room gets pitch black at night. 374 00:39:41,000 --> 00:39:49,000 Anytime when I want to have it pitch black, which is very good for my sleep. 375 00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:54,000 Because I go to bed at 630 and it's very bright out, especially during the summer. 376 00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:57,000 During wintertime, it'll get darker sooner. 377 00:39:57,000 --> 00:40:02,000 And I it'll probably get dark around 630, I think, maybe five. 378 00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:05,000 I don't know. 379 00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:13,000 But it's having that change in my room is just so valuable. 380 00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:20,000 It's so good because I go to, I actually, in the beginning, I know I touched on this earlier, 381 00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:28,000 but in the beginning I did not really have a good sleep the first week. 382 00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:33,000 The whole first week of me sleeping on the Tzitami mat, it was poor quality. 383 00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:35,000 It was low quality sleep. 384 00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:44,000 And that was simply because my body wasn't adjusted to sleeping on a hard mat. 385 00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:51,000 And then once my body firmed up and adapted to that floor, basically sleeping on the floor, 386 00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:54,000 then my sleep got so good. 387 00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:58,000 And now I believe that my sleep is actually better than before. 388 00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:06,000 I'm naked on my mat, the only thing that is on my mat when I'm sleeping is my pillow. 389 00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:13,000 Two pillows, actually one to hug throughout the night and then one to put my rest, my neck on, my head on. 390 00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:16,000 And then a blanket, and that's it. 391 00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:18,000 I don't have any sheets or anything. 392 00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:22,000 I just sleep on the mat naked and have one blanket. 393 00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:28,000 That might change during the wintertime when it gets cold, I might have two or three blankets, 394 00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:31,000 but I only need one blanket. 395 00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:37,000 And I bring in a candle when I'm meditating and journaling. 396 00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:45,000 And I have it pitch black when I'm meditating and journaling, so I just use the candle because that serves two purposes. 397 00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:51,000 I can read what I'm writing, I can actually see what I'm writing. 398 00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:59,000 And also it keeps it dark enough, so it keeps it bright enough so I can read what I'm writing and see what I'm writing. 399 00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:09,000 But it keeps it dark enough to where my eyes adjust and it knows, my brain basically knows that it's nighttime and that it's dark out now. 400 00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:11,000 And that's huge for that. 401 00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:19,000 And I also change the temperature in my house. 402 00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:30,000 So I'm very happy with the progress that I've made in my journey, in my journey, because I was just reflecting on my freshman year. 403 00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:33,000 It was during Zoom. 404 00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:37,000 And by the way, for context, I'm on my senior year right now, first semester. 405 00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:44,000 And freshman year was during COVID during the lockdown, so we were all on Zoom. 406 00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:54,000 And I remember during the second semester, we had the choice to go in for hybrid, which was basically half the time we were on Zoom and half the time we were in person. 407 00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:59,000 It was more like a third of the time we were in person and two thirds we were on Zoom. 408 00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:10,000 So we, I got to go in person and there was only like a third of the, less than a third of the class in my, in each of my classes at once. 409 00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:20,000 And I just remember being super nervous and having a lot of anxiety sitting in those classrooms, having a mask on and all that stuff. 410 00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:33,000 And I also remember I was basically skinny and I also would just scroll on TikTok all morning long. 411 00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:38,000 And I would just be on TikTok throughout all of class. 412 00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:40,000 And I'm really happy with my progress. 413 00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:44,000 I haven't even been on my phone in like two days. 414 00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:47,000 And I'm probably not going to be on my phone tonight. 415 00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:49,000 I really don't see it. 416 00:43:49,000 --> 00:44:00,000 I've, for the past maybe a month, I have been keeping my phone in the basement maybe two months actually. 417 00:44:00,000 --> 00:44:07,000 Maybe since, I don't know, for a decent amount of time, at least two months. 418 00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:15,000 I've been keeping my phone in my basement and not, and only using it like once a day or if I needed to use it. 419 00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:18,000 But I've always used it once a day. 420 00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:23,000 I would always check it once a day to check the texts, check my texts. 421 00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:35,000 But yesterday when it was, I would always check my phone after recording my podcast during the downtime when it was downloading. 422 00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:38,000 And I would check my phone once every day. 423 00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:43,000 But now, yesterday I was like, I don't even want to check my phone. 424 00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:44,000 I don't need to check my phone. 425 00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:46,000 I don't feel any urge to. 426 00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:48,000 So I'm not going to. 427 00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:57,000 And that's just very inspiring because I haven't been on my phone in over 48 hours. 428 00:44:57,000 --> 00:45:01,000 And my screen time is less than an hour a week probably. 429 00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:04,000 It's like really low. 430 00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:14,000 Now my screen time on my computer is a little higher because I am on the podcast every single day. 431 00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:16,000 So that's a different story. 432 00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:19,000 But my phone, I just don't use anymore. 433 00:45:19,000 --> 00:45:26,000 And I'm not going to check my phone today either. 434 00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:30,000 Because if people want to talk to me, they can talk to me in real life. 435 00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:45,000 And if they don't want to wait for me to respond, well then they don't need to hear my response because they can talk to me in real life and they can be patient. 436 00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:50,000 Because the phone is honestly just a weapon. 437 00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:56,000 It's just so destructive. 438 00:45:56,000 --> 00:46:01,000 But yeah, I'm just really happy with my progress. 439 00:46:01,000 --> 00:46:07,000 But lately I've been really enjoying, I'm switching the topic back to the sleep. 440 00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:13,000 I've really been enjoying my bed, which is the tatami mat. 441 00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:18,000 And I actually have started to become attached to it. 442 00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:23,000 Like I actually, it's got a lot of sentimental value to me now. 443 00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:35,000 And when I do decide to move out of my house, my parents move out on my own from my parents. 444 00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:41,000 I'm probably going to, if they let me, I'm probably going to keep my room exactly how it is. 445 00:46:41,000 --> 00:46:47,000 And every time I visit, I'll just stay in my room. 446 00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:50,000 And that would be cool. 447 00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:56,000 Plus it'll be kind of like a time, a time, what's the word? 448 00:46:56,000 --> 00:47:09,000 Time share or it's, I can't think of the word, but it's basically an example of it would be they like to do this for classes. 449 00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:25,000 Like during one class in first grade, let's say, they, the teacher would say, hey, everyone put a bunch of objects of meaning and write a note to yourself and put it in a box and bury it in your backyard. 450 00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:33,000 And then 10, 20 years later, you would, oh, time capsule, it's a time capsule. 451 00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:38,000 10, 20 years later, you would dig it up and read that note and look at the objects. 452 00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:43,000 But that's kind of what I have a vision for my room. 453 00:47:43,000 --> 00:47:48,000 It's just, I kind of have a lot of sentimental value. 454 00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:54,000 But I also, if, if I had to get rid of it, I wouldn't mind losing it. 455 00:47:54,000 --> 00:48:02,000 I just, it feels very special to me because of what I've achieved since I changed my room. 456 00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:19,000 And even before, I think, yeah, one year ago today, I was, my room still had my PC and my Xbox and a TV and a monitor, all kinds of stuff in it. 457 00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:22,000 And my room actually still had that stuff while I was on self improvement. 458 00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:32,000 It wasn't until a couple months later when I decided to just get rid of it and not, not keep it in my room. 459 00:48:32,000 --> 00:48:41,000 I'd put it in my basement or I put my PC in the basement and then I'd put the Xbox upstairs in the attic in storage. 460 00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:50,000 And I have no plans on pulling it out ever and playing it. 461 00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:55,000 But really, life is looking amazing in the future. 462 00:48:55,000 --> 00:49:02,000 But I want to tell you guys that it's not in reality in my normal life. 463 00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:06,000 It's not all sunshine and rainbows. 464 00:49:06,000 --> 00:49:16,000 Today, yesterday, couple of days, like all the time, I failed to find, I fail to keep myself happy. 465 00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:19,000 I fail to stay happy all the time. 466 00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:31,000 And I don't know why, but sometimes, like, sometimes for like the entire day, I'm simply just not very happy. 467 00:49:31,000 --> 00:49:34,000 Low energy, all of that. 468 00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:40,000 But then other days, I'm just happy throughout the whole entire day and I'm just so happy. 469 00:49:40,000 --> 00:49:44,000 But that's not every day of my life. 470 00:49:44,000 --> 00:49:48,000 It's about once a week or two times a week. I don't know. 471 00:49:48,000 --> 00:50:00,000 And you guys can see that if you guys have been following this journey, I remember this is a kind of a side tangent. 472 00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:09,000 When I started podcasting maybe once every two weeks, like before I podcast once every two weeks throughout that summer, 473 00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:14,000 I would have a big turning point, a big event in my life happen. 474 00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:25,000 But once I started podcasting and really got locked in, it moved down to once every nine days and then it moved to once every seven days. 475 00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:40,000 And I remember on episode seven maybe and then episode 14 and then episode, on episode seven and 14, we're both, I'm pretty sure episode seven was one, 476 00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:48,000 but on episode seven and 14, we're both turning points in my life. 477 00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:54,000 And I remember saying on episode 14 that maybe episode 21 will be another turning point. 478 00:50:54,000 --> 00:51:01,000 And turns out it is following the pattern, but instead it was cut short one more day. 479 00:51:01,000 --> 00:51:05,000 So episode 20 was a turning point. 480 00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:16,000 And then on episode 14, I'm pretty sure the day after episode 15 was a low day, a low energy, not that happy. 481 00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:18,000 And it was the same thing with episode 20. 482 00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:25,000 Episode 21 that day was low energy, but episode 20 was high energy, super happy turning point. 483 00:51:25,000 --> 00:51:27,000 So it's kind of weird. 484 00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:33,000 It's almost like a roller coaster where you go up and then that peak is the happy day. 485 00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:39,000 And then you go down and then you go back up again. 486 00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:44,000 But the thing that I've noticed is that every single time I go up, I hit that peak. 487 00:51:44,000 --> 00:51:45,000 That's a turning point. 488 00:51:45,000 --> 00:51:46,000 And then I go down. 489 00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:52,000 But when I go down, I don't go all the way down to where I was originally. 490 00:51:52,000 --> 00:51:58,000 So point A is day six. 491 00:51:58,000 --> 00:52:02,000 And then point B is day seven, which is a high point. 492 00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:14,000 And then point C is day eight, which is low point, but that low point is still higher than point A, if that makes sense. 493 00:52:14,000 --> 00:52:22,000 And then every single time I hit a peak and then a low point, I'm just on an incline. 494 00:52:22,000 --> 00:52:25,000 So a progressive incline from there. 495 00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:27,000 And it's just looking good. 496 00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:28,000 The future is looking good. 497 00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:34,000 I'm getting better every day and as long as I really, it's easy for me to stick on the routine. 498 00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:39,000 I just have to go buy things by the day. 499 00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:44,000 Sometimes I get moments and thoughts where I'm like, why am I doing the same thing every single day? 500 00:52:44,000 --> 00:52:45,000 I'm bored. 501 00:52:45,000 --> 00:52:49,000 But then I find joy in the things that I'm doing and I get it. 502 00:52:49,000 --> 00:52:54,000 I start to get excited because there's this one quote that I remember on early on in reality, Transurfing. 503 00:52:54,000 --> 00:53:10,000 It's, if you can find joy in every part of your life, every aspect of your life, you'll turn your life into a paradise. 504 00:53:10,000 --> 00:53:19,000 And so if you can find joy in every single part of your routine, every single part of your day, even if it happens every single day, 505 00:53:19,000 --> 00:53:25,000 then you'll turn your life into a paradise. 506 00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:30,000 And that's what I plan on doing. 507 00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:42,000 Let me get some water. 508 00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:46,000 I want to talk to you guys about this. 509 00:53:46,000 --> 00:53:55,000 One of the concepts that I learned about the other day, yesterday, I think it was, and it's in Transurfing. 510 00:53:55,000 --> 00:54:00,000 It's in Slides, that chapter, the chapter about slides. 511 00:54:00,000 --> 00:54:04,000 And a slide is basically your perception of the world. 512 00:54:04,000 --> 00:54:12,000 So it's nearly impossible to have an entirely objective point of view on the world. 513 00:54:12,000 --> 00:54:17,000 I think it's actually impossible, completely impossible. 514 00:54:17,000 --> 00:54:26,000 But everyone sees the world through their own lens, and that lens is the slide. 515 00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:36,000 And a lot of people are wrapped up in their own thoughts about themselves and worried about how others will perceive them. 516 00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:41,000 And this concept that I learned about in Transurfing is very comforting. 517 00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:47,000 And every time I catch myself worrying about others, then I always remind myself this. 518 00:54:47,000 --> 00:54:52,000 And it's this one quote that I always remind myself. 519 00:54:52,000 --> 00:55:01,000 It's, people are 90%...wait, what's the word? 520 00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:09,000 People are 90% busy with their, with thoughts about themselves. 521 00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:19,000 So people are, people's attention span is taken up, maybe not attention span, but mind space, thought space, 522 00:55:19,000 --> 00:55:25,000 is taken up by 90% of thoughts about themselves. 523 00:55:25,000 --> 00:55:31,000 So they're worried about what other people will think about themselves for 90% of the time. 524 00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:37,000 And they're worried about what themselves are appearing out on their outwards. 525 00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:50,000 And so if you can basically remember that quote when you are worried about what other people are thinking, 526 00:55:50,000 --> 00:55:55,000 just remember that and realize that they're not actually thinking about you. 527 00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:59,000 So you can relax with that fact. It's very comforting. 528 00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:12,000 And I want to say, he said that people only care, people only place importance or meaning on others' external appearance, 529 00:56:12,000 --> 00:56:19,000 outward appearance, if they're a potential partner or competitor. 530 00:56:19,000 --> 00:56:29,000 So pretty much if they only care about your appearance, if you're a potential partner, so a potential mate, 531 00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:33,000 a potential boyfriend or girlfriend, that's the only time. 532 00:56:33,000 --> 00:56:42,000 So, and that's only a select few people that we see in our day-to-day lives, barely anyone. 533 00:56:42,000 --> 00:56:49,000 So 99% of others, you don't have to worry about what they're thinking. 534 00:56:49,000 --> 00:56:57,000 And I would go so far to say that you don't even have to worry about that 1% because for many reasons, 535 00:56:57,000 --> 00:57:03,000 and this is one of the reasons, one of the personal reasons is because right now, me personally, 536 00:57:03,000 --> 00:57:05,000 I am not focused on getting a girlfriend. 537 00:57:05,000 --> 00:57:15,000 I'm just focused on myself and focused on my mission, my path, my journey, my goals, my purpose. 538 00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:26,000 But, and that's why I don't care about, I do care about the 1%, but I always remind myself, focus on the goal. 539 00:57:26,000 --> 00:57:35,000 Don't worry about this person's thoughts. And that's really very comforting to think about. 540 00:57:35,000 --> 00:57:42,000 People are wrapped up with 90%, people are 90% wrapped up with thoughts about themselves. 541 00:57:42,000 --> 00:57:48,000 So take that how you will, move forward with that knowledge and always remind yourself about that because 542 00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:54,000 I find myself walking, like even this morning when I was walking to school, 543 00:57:54,000 --> 00:58:04,000 this is just one example of my one day, I was walking to school, I had just parked my bike, 544 00:58:04,000 --> 00:58:09,000 and I was walking right in front of the school to the main entrance. 545 00:58:09,000 --> 00:58:14,000 And there was two girls walking behind me and they were laughing and talking. 546 00:58:14,000 --> 00:58:22,000 I was like, because I'm really insecure about my butt because I get sweaty very easily. 547 00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:35,000 I was worried that I had sweat stain on my butt, like on my crack, because I wear great, grey, sweatshirts, grey shorts sometimes. 548 00:58:35,000 --> 00:58:40,000 And so I was worried that there was a sweat stain on my butt. 549 00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:46,000 And it's just something that I'm insecure about how much I sweat because I sweat a lot. 550 00:58:46,000 --> 00:58:53,000 They started laughing and I instantly thought, oh no, they're laughing at my butt, there's a sweat stain on it. 551 00:58:53,000 --> 00:58:58,000 But then I was like, no, people are 90% wrapped up with thoughts about themselves. 552 00:58:58,000 --> 00:59:08,000 And then I was like, okay, I can calm down and be comfortable because they don't care about me. 553 00:59:08,000 --> 00:59:14,000 And it definitely was true because they were not laughing at me. 554 00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:18,000 That's just one simple example. That's just the first example that Pop-Tem I had. 555 00:59:18,000 --> 00:59:22,000 There are hundreds of other examples that I could speak on right now, 556 00:59:22,000 --> 00:59:29,000 but pretty much any time you find yourself insecure or feeling that someone is talking about you or thinking about you, 557 00:59:29,000 --> 00:59:33,000 just remember that they're most likely thinking about themselves. 558 00:59:33,000 --> 00:59:42,000 And if you want proof of this, ask your highest, most critical critic. 559 00:59:42,000 --> 00:59:46,000 Ask your number one critic, which is yourself. 560 00:59:46,000 --> 00:59:49,000 Do you think about what other people are doing? 561 00:59:49,000 --> 00:59:58,000 If there is this random stranger on the street, do you think about their appearance or do you think about what they might be insecure about? 562 00:59:58,000 --> 01:00:04,000 No, you just acknowledge, sometimes you don't even acknowledge their existence. 563 01:00:04,000 --> 01:00:06,000 Sometimes you don't even realize that they're there. 564 01:00:06,000 --> 01:00:13,000 And that holds true, that holds the same truth for people close to you as well. 565 01:00:13,000 --> 01:00:21,000 Do you feel that you're best friend, do you worry about what they think about you? 566 01:00:21,000 --> 01:00:26,000 Or, no, do you think about them? Do you judge them? 567 01:00:26,000 --> 01:00:28,000 No, probably not. 568 01:00:28,000 --> 01:00:40,000 So that's just silly. And I still struggle with it, but I'm becoming conscious of it and that's the first step to change. 569 01:00:40,000 --> 01:00:42,000 Become conscious of it and then make change. 570 01:00:42,000 --> 01:00:49,000 So every time I catch myself feeling insecure and worried about what other people are thinking, 571 01:00:49,000 --> 01:00:55,000 I would just remind myself of that quote, people are wrapped up 90% of thoughts about themselves. 572 01:00:55,000 --> 01:01:04,000 So 90% of the time they are thinking about themselves and that 10% is definitely not about you. 573 01:01:04,000 --> 01:01:13,000 It's definitely about food or what they're going to do, or some video game or what they have to do for homework at night. 574 01:01:13,000 --> 01:01:16,000 That 10% is not about you. 575 01:01:16,000 --> 01:01:20,000 And even if they do think about you, it's for one millisecond. 576 01:01:20,000 --> 01:01:30,000 They're like, oh, if someone is ugly, you may notice it right when you meet them, 577 01:01:30,000 --> 01:01:34,000 but then it just instantly gets dismissed in your brain. 578 01:01:34,000 --> 01:01:37,000 It's just you don't even think that they're ugly. 579 01:01:37,000 --> 01:01:44,000 You're just like, oh, they kind of look a little strange, but then you instantly just shift. 580 01:01:44,000 --> 01:01:48,000 And then if you become friends with them, you don't even notice it. 581 01:01:48,000 --> 01:01:50,000 And that's just true. 582 01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:55,000 And if you don't believe me, ask yourself, ask yourself if it's true, 583 01:01:55,000 --> 01:02:04,000 and ask yourself if you think this way towards other people, and you'll find the answers. 584 01:02:04,000 --> 01:02:11,000 To wrap things up, don't forget to download your favorite episodes and subscribe to the Ascend Momentum show. 585 01:02:11,000 --> 01:02:19,000 But before you guys leave, make sure to remember the Eagles.