Practice #30 - Find a Friend on Self Improvement

1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,680 One of the greatest things that has happened to me in my life is me meeting this one friend. 2 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:13,040 This is because this one friend was on a similar journey to me. He was on self-improvement. He was 3 00:00:13,040 --> 00:00:22,640 actually my only friend who's on self-improvement to such an extreme that I am. And when I met him 4 00:00:22,640 --> 00:00:30,720 towards the end of the school year last semester. So actually last year it was probably eight months 5 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:38,000 ago when I met him. And there's a whole story that goes along with it which you know let's just say it. 6 00:00:39,280 --> 00:00:47,200 At this time I was going to the gym at like six in the morning before school and he decided to go 7 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:52,400 in the mornings also. And so one day we're in the mornings and we're going up the elevator together 8 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:58,560 and the thing is that we kind of knew each other already. Like we used to play video games together 9 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:05,920 every once in a while so we knew each other and we went to the same school for a couple years at that 10 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:12,480 point. So we went to the same middle school and high school so we knew of each other and we knew 11 00:01:12,480 --> 00:01:18,080 each other. But we didn't really know each other. We just knew each other's names and that's pretty 12 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:27,600 much about it. And so we're in the elevator going up and I'm just like hello good morning. 13 00:01:28,480 --> 00:01:36,240 And he's like oh you go in the mornings? Oh yeah. And so we start like we go on our own ways 14 00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:43,200 and then I'm lifting and then I walk to my next area to start my next set. 15 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:52,720 And I see him at the leg extension machine and he's got this water bottle set up on top of it. 16 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:57,360 And I noticed the water bottle because I had just seen a YouTube video talking about it. 17 00:01:57,360 --> 00:02:04,000 YouTuber named Hamza. He talked about how this water bottle is extremely good because it's made 18 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:11,200 of metal and there's no plastic or anything. And so I grew a desire for that water bottle 19 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:16,800 which I just didn't pull the trigger and buy it yet off of Amazon. And so I knew of that water bottle 20 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:22,720 and when I saw it out in the wild at the gym I started a conversation and we started talking. 21 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:28,080 And then we started talking about like estrogenics which I had just learned about because I just 22 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:34,320 read a book about it. And then we also started talking about like a bunch of other stuff like 23 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:43,600 health stuff. And we actually were like extremely... I don't know. Actually let me just tell you my 24 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:50,160 side of the story. So I after that workout we both go home and I'm like oh my gosh I just found 25 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:56,000 someone who's on the same journey as I am or at least a similar journey. And I tell my mom and 26 00:02:56,000 --> 00:03:02,240 I'm super excited because I remember that literally the other month or the other week I was 27 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:09,360 complaining to my mom that there's no one like me. Like I don't know anyone who's like me. And I was 28 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:17,760 referring to that no one else is on self-improvement like I am. And so I get super excited. I'm like 29 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:24,720 mom I found someone who's like me. And so I'm super excited and then we go to the gym again 30 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:29,360 like the next day and we're going to the gym all the time. And I'm pretty sure at that time 31 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:38,400 we only saw each other on the weekends in the morning. So we're going to the gym early and we 32 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:46,320 keep talking to each other at the gym. And we're sharing different things like oh do this do that. 33 00:03:46,320 --> 00:03:52,000 Oh read this book read that book I learned this I learned that like all these things were sharing 34 00:03:52,000 --> 00:04:00,080 information. It's basically like he spent the past year learning all this stuff. And I spent the 35 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:06,000 past year learning all of this other stuff. And we're basically sharing all this knowledge that 36 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:13,840 we learned from each other that we learned from our own experiences to each other. And we're basically 37 00:04:13,840 --> 00:04:22,480 getting two years of experience for the price of one. And over this like past summer like the summer 38 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:29,520 we met each other we spent every single day all morning together we would go to the park barefoot 39 00:04:29,520 --> 00:04:38,080 and shirtless and literally just walk around for hours just strategizing sharing information 40 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:44,320 talking about things we learned. And we basically taught each other nearly everything we learned. 41 00:04:45,280 --> 00:04:50,640 And then it got to a certain point where it wasn't really worth our time anymore to spend that much 42 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:56,400 time together. So we kind of like stopped hanging out as much. And this was intentional we did this 43 00:04:56,400 --> 00:05:01,360 on purpose we actually said that we should do this because our goals were self improvement and we 44 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:07,520 weren't helping ourselves or each other by spending all this time together. So eventually got to the 45 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:14,560 point where now we're only spending like an hour or two every month or every other month. 46 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:24,480 But we're like the point of the point of this podcast episode is to find yourself 47 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:30,640 someone who's on self improvement who's on a similar journey to you who is actually 48 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:39,120 doing similar stuff to you because iron sharpens iron. In yesterday's episode I talked about 49 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:45,040 your environment and I talked about how the people you surround yourself with are basically 50 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:52,480 creating you. So if you are surrounding yourself with that one friend who is on self improvement 51 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:59,280 you're going to grow exponentially. And we spent that entire summer together growing and 52 00:05:59,280 --> 00:06:06,560 and when school started we were walking to school to get our packets for our schedules 53 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:13,200 like right before school started and we decided to walk home together and we were just talking 54 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:21,440 about how much we grew. We were just like reflecting over the past summer. We grew so much and we 55 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:27,840 were reflecting we were kind of comparing how much we grew to how much we probably would have grown 56 00:06:27,840 --> 00:06:37,120 if we didn't meet each other. And if you're like the fact of the matter is that we grew let's just 57 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:46,800 use metaphor. We grew 100 feet of growth because we met each other. But if we didn't meet each other 58 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:51,920 we probably would have only grown 10 feet of growth. I'm not even exaggerating that's how much. 59 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:58,960 Like we literally grew 10 times more than we would have. There like in reflection there were so many 60 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:08,560 things that I ended up doing because I had the courage and I had like the strength of another 61 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:15,280 person behind me to back me up. So for example this is going to sound dumb and weak but this is 62 00:07:15,280 --> 00:07:22,560 actually how I was. I had clash of clans on my phone for a long time and this was just a very 63 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:28,560 simple thing that I had on my phone that I was I had like that was literally the only entertainment 64 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:34,000 I had on my phone clash of clans and that was because I got like I played it for years and I 65 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:41,920 leveled up the the account so much that I literally was I was proud of it. Like I leveled it up so 66 00:07:41,920 --> 00:07:47,920 much that I would show people like this is how good I am. And that was the one thing that I had on 67 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:52,560 my phone that I said I was going to keep. I was going to show my friends or not my friends I was 68 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:59,120 going to show my kids. But then I was like dude what am I talking about? Like that's like that's 69 00:07:59,120 --> 00:08:04,240 just holding me back. I'm not going to show my kids that. Like that's just a waste of my like 70 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:10,880 waste of my life. And so I ended up deleting clash of clans way sooner than I probably would have 71 00:08:10,880 --> 00:08:15,520 eventually. I probably would have deleted it eventually but it may have taken like years. 72 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:21,520 And at that point maybe I wouldn't have deleted it. I don't know. And so I ended up fast tracking 73 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:28,000 my growth on all these one time changes. Like over the past two or three podcast episodes I was 74 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:35,120 talking about these one time changes. So like the one time changes that affect your entire life. 75 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:40,320 For example deleting your social media account, changing your environment, like making your 76 00:08:40,320 --> 00:08:45,760 workspace more professional or more minimalism. Changing your room to be more minimalistic. 77 00:08:45,760 --> 00:08:51,120 Like all these one time changes affect your entire life for the like rest of your life. 78 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:59,040 And so I made so much more one time changes than I would have otherwise. So that's another 79 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:05,280 extremely valuable benefit. Like learning information from him as well as the action that 80 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:12,400 all of that information caused. And the third and most important part is the mastermind. So 81 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:19,360 basically when you're spending time in a harmonious connection with another person who is on a same 82 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:28,000 like energy level and a same like path as you who you both have similar intentions and desires. 83 00:09:28,560 --> 00:09:33,200 When you're spending time with that person you basically create a mastermind which is 84 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:40,720 basically you it's basically a third mind that is basically some people call it God, 85 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:46,800 some people call it Jesus, some people call it other things. I don't know. But pretty much 86 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:55,920 you create this third mind that you both can draw information from and it fuels you and you can 87 00:09:55,920 --> 00:10:03,840 actually gain epiphanies from it and intuitions and it helps tremendously helps you move forward. 88 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:11,920 So that's the most valuable part of what I like basically the mastermind is the most valuable 89 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:27,920 part that I got from my friends.