Practice #5 - Self Control is Essential to Success

1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,480 Did you know that there's actually a formula for success? 2 00:00:05,480 --> 00:00:15,120 This formula is not a set in stone clear path to success, but it is an outline and it lays 3 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:20,440 out many different principles on your path towards success. 4 00:00:20,440 --> 00:00:28,600 And it lays out different principles that one must acquire or learn how to get and improve 5 00:00:28,600 --> 00:00:32,280 upon in order to see success in their life. 6 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:42,600 And all these principles or laws were put together by a man named Napoleon Hill. 7 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:47,360 And there's a quick story I want to tell about Napoleon Hill. 8 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:52,880 He actually, a story I heard from Russell Brunson. 9 00:00:52,880 --> 00:00:59,080 Russell Brunson told me that, not told me directly, but I heard Russell Brunson speak 10 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:00,960 and say the story. 11 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:03,240 So the story goes along. 12 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:11,440 Henry Ford is an extremely successful person and he created the Ford company, which is 13 00:01:11,440 --> 00:01:14,080 the car company. 14 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:18,480 And then Andrew Carnegie is also another extremely successful person. 15 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:26,920 He created a steel company, one of the most successful steel companies in history. 16 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:28,640 Extremely wealthy individuals. 17 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:39,800 And Andrew Carnegie told Napoleon Hill to study all of the super, hyper successful individuals 18 00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:42,240 in the world at the time. 19 00:01:42,240 --> 00:01:47,760 So the likes of Thomas Edison, the person who invented the light bulb. 20 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:56,160 So he studied Andrew Carnegie, Henry Ford, Rockefeller, all types of people, extremely 21 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:57,160 successful people. 22 00:01:57,160 --> 00:02:00,920 These are extremely successful people. 23 00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:08,000 And he, Andrew Carnegie basically gave Napoleon Hill all these connections of all these different 24 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:10,880 individuals to learn from. 25 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:17,880 And so Napoleon Hill spent 30 years just studying what the difference between these 26 00:02:17,880 --> 00:02:25,200 successful people and the average man, he wanted to find out what made these people different 27 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:29,320 than the average Joe who works in nine to five. 28 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:35,200 What makes these people different from the average people who walked the streets? 29 00:02:35,200 --> 00:02:42,280 And so after 30 years of studying all these people and teaching all the laws and principles 30 00:02:42,280 --> 00:02:49,680 that he found, he refined his framework down more and more and more and made it even more 31 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:53,320 accurate and even better. 32 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:55,600 And after 30 years, he wrote a book. 33 00:02:55,600 --> 00:02:57,120 He wrote this book. 34 00:02:57,120 --> 00:03:02,480 He spent a long time writing it and he published it. 35 00:03:02,480 --> 00:03:08,680 And this book was published and Henry Ford, one of the people he studied and one of the 36 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:14,800 most powerful, probably the most powerful man in the world at that time, got ahold of the 37 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:18,720 book, read it and realized that, oh, this is way too powerful. 38 00:03:18,720 --> 00:03:20,800 This is too powerful for the public. 39 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:21,920 We have to take this down. 40 00:03:21,920 --> 00:03:27,800 So he essentially ordered Napoleon Hill to take the book down, take it off of out of 41 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:36,160 print and then Napoleon Hill had to not rewrite it, but he basically had to take out a bunch 42 00:03:36,160 --> 00:03:43,960 of information and take out the secrets, essentially, the secrets of success. 43 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:47,560 And then he republished it. 44 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:54,920 And by the way, the first book that Henry Ford got ahold of was called The Laws of Success 45 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:56,640 in 16 Lessons. 46 00:03:56,640 --> 00:04:04,160 So he republished this book that was way more watered down and it had less secrets in it. 47 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:09,000 And then Henry Ford got ahold of it again and still thought it was too powerful. 48 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:16,400 So he made Napoleon Hill take it off, take it out of print again and cut even more information 49 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:20,680 out of it, cut even more of the secrets out of it. 50 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:27,800 And so Napoleon Hill did that and then he released a book to the public called Think 51 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:29,480 and Grow Rich. 52 00:04:29,480 --> 00:04:34,720 Now you may have heard of this book because this book was the number one bestseller in 53 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:38,080 the self-help book category. 54 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:43,920 And I've heard many people say that this book has created more millionaires than any other 55 00:04:43,920 --> 00:04:46,360 book of its kind. 56 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:50,160 So this book is extremely powerful, Think and Grow Rich. 57 00:04:50,160 --> 00:04:53,240 And that doesn't even have the secrets. 58 00:04:53,240 --> 00:05:00,120 I've also heard that Think and Grow Rich is a long sales letter to try and get you to 59 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:03,960 read Laws of Success in 16 Lessons. 60 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:10,680 So I have not read Think and Grow Rich, but I am halfway through reading the Laws of Success 61 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:12,600 in 16 Lessons. 62 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:16,480 And what I found is lots of valuable information. 63 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:21,640 I want to talk about one thing in particular, one of the Laws. 64 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:25,400 And this Law is self-control. 65 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:33,280 He said that, Napoleon Hill said that all successful people have self-control. 66 00:05:33,280 --> 00:05:37,200 Every single successful person has self-control. 67 00:05:37,200 --> 00:05:45,320 But the average man allows his thoughts and words and actions to run wild. 68 00:05:45,320 --> 00:05:46,960 And that is no self-control. 69 00:05:46,960 --> 00:05:49,520 That is low self-control. 70 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:56,440 So he also said that self-control is solely a matter of thought control. 71 00:05:56,440 --> 00:05:59,360 So let's talk about that. 72 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:04,520 Self-control is just a matter of controlling your thoughts, controlling your thinking. 73 00:06:04,520 --> 00:06:10,960 Over the past couple months, over actually over almost a year, I've been learning about 74 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:14,800 your thinking through a book called Reality Transurfing. 75 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:21,480 And I realized that that is an essential piece of the improvement game, the self-improvement 76 00:06:21,480 --> 00:06:22,480 game. 77 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:25,160 It's thinking and controlling your thoughts. 78 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:34,080 And so I realized that you have to have self-control in your thinking in order to see success. 79 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:41,280 And one of the examples that Napoleon Hill gave in his book, Laws of Success in 16 Lessons 80 00:06:41,280 --> 00:06:49,280 about self-control, was he talked about how he gave an example of a salesman. 81 00:06:49,280 --> 00:06:54,720 So a salesman has to have a high amount of self-control. 82 00:06:54,720 --> 00:07:03,000 Because if he shows any signs of impatience or unhappiness or anything, then the sale 83 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:04,200 is lost. 84 00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:07,760 So I want to put you in this scene. 85 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:13,080 So you're at a store and there's a salesman walking up to you. 86 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:15,240 You're trying to look for shoes. 87 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:17,720 And so you're impatient. 88 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:22,760 You're trying to buy shoes, but you don't really know exactly what you want. 89 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:28,040 But you're a little impatient today, because you had a long day at work and you're tired. 90 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:32,040 And you just want to get your pair of shoes and leave and go home so you can watch TV 91 00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:33,320 for the rest of the day. 92 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:38,320 So this salesman walks up to you and you are not happy with it. 93 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:43,040 So the salesman says, what would you actually know? 94 00:07:43,040 --> 00:07:49,000 The salesman actually eyes you up and sees that your shoe size is 10. 95 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:52,680 You have a 10 size for your shoes. 96 00:07:52,680 --> 00:08:00,400 And he also knows your interests just by looking at your outfit and your current shoes. 97 00:08:00,400 --> 00:08:07,600 So he knows that you are into Nike's and he knows that you like black shoes. 98 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:10,400 So he realized all of this stuff. 99 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:17,640 So he walks up to you, you're impatient and he says, oh, here I've got some shoes over 100 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:20,080 here that I think you'd like. 101 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:24,920 So you're like, oh, I don't like this, but you're just thinking to yourself, I just 102 00:08:24,920 --> 00:08:27,520 want to get out of here as quick as possible. 103 00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:35,480 And so this salesman walks you over to these shoes and he shows you three different options. 104 00:08:35,480 --> 00:08:41,560 All three of them are Nikes and one of them is black with white bottoms. 105 00:08:41,560 --> 00:08:45,680 The other one is black with black bottoms. 106 00:08:45,680 --> 00:08:50,160 And then the third one is gray with black bottoms. 107 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:54,320 So you look at all the three options and you're annoyed. 108 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:56,960 You kind of just say, no, I'm not interested. 109 00:08:56,960 --> 00:09:01,200 And this salesman can sense you're annoyed that you're annoyed. 110 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:09,320 The salesman knows all this stuff, but he is still exerting a high self-control persona. 111 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:18,320 He is still, he's still putting on the image of happy and excited to see you. 112 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:26,320 He is still controlling himself and inside his mind, he is kind of reciprocating your 113 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:34,760 anger because we as humans have a tendency to reciprocate the emotion that is getting 114 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:35,760 sent to us. 115 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:41,840 So let's say your friend walks up to you and is extremely pissed off at you. 116 00:09:41,840 --> 00:09:50,280 Then us as human, human behavior has a tendency to reciprocate that anger and be angry back. 117 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:55,960 But this salesman has high self-control and he knows that he is going to lose the sale 118 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:58,840 if he reciprocates any of this bad emotion. 119 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:01,720 And so he is sending you positive emotion. 120 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:05,000 He is being extremely patient with you. 121 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:10,960 And as a result, because of this law that I just explained of people have a tendency 122 00:10:10,960 --> 00:10:18,120 to reciprocate the emotion, you're kind of shifting from impatient and not wanting to 123 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:19,920 be there and angry. 124 00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:26,520 And now you're shifting your emotions to having more patience and having a higher happiness 125 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:27,960 level. 126 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:33,080 So now because of this salesman's self-control, he's actually changing your mood. 127 00:10:33,080 --> 00:10:39,980 And then he asks you, he noticed that when you were reviewing the three different shoes, 128 00:10:39,980 --> 00:10:46,640 you looked at one of them, the first option, the black one with the whites, the white bottoms. 129 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:49,840 He noticed that you reviewed that the longest. 130 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:54,520 So he took note of that and pulled those shoes aside. 131 00:10:54,520 --> 00:11:02,080 And then when he finally got you, after a little bit more conversation and finally changed 132 00:11:02,080 --> 00:11:05,780 your emotion, now you're not impatient anymore. 133 00:11:05,780 --> 00:11:08,800 Now you're feeling tranquil and calm. 134 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:14,800 Now you're standing there feeling exactly like this is where you want to be. 135 00:11:14,800 --> 00:11:20,400 And that moment he strikes and hands you these shoes again and says, here, why don't you 136 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:22,360 try these shoes on? 137 00:11:22,360 --> 00:11:26,680 And so you agree because now you're no longer impatient. 138 00:11:26,680 --> 00:11:28,600 Now you're in a happier mood. 139 00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:31,440 And that is the point of the psychological sale. 140 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:34,100 I believe that's what the term is called. 141 00:11:34,100 --> 00:11:39,840 And that is the point where the salesman gives you those shoes, try on, and then you try 142 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:42,320 them on and like them. 143 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:44,160 Now he's made that sale. 144 00:11:44,160 --> 00:11:49,680 And because of that, because of the fact that he had self-control, he made a sale. 145 00:11:49,680 --> 00:11:54,680 And now you're happier because now you get to go home with shoes. 146 00:11:54,680 --> 00:11:56,400 And that's the reason why you got there. 147 00:11:56,400 --> 00:12:00,520 You wanted to get out of there as quick as possible so you could get home. 148 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:02,280 But you weren't going to get there. 149 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:08,520 You weren't going to leave as quick as you did if the salesman didn't help you out so 150 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:09,520 much. 151 00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:12,640 So this was a win-win situation for both parties. 152 00:12:12,640 --> 00:12:15,360 So that's the value of self-control. 153 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:18,880 So this salesman controlled his thoughts. 154 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:26,560 He understood that you were sending him negative energy, but he chose not to accept that negative 155 00:12:26,560 --> 00:12:31,040 energy and he chose to emit positive energy. 156 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:33,120 This is all in his mind. 157 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:35,360 He controlled his thoughts. 158 00:12:35,360 --> 00:12:39,000 And now as a result, both parties are happy. 159 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:41,480 So that is the power of self-control. 160 00:12:41,480 --> 00:12:47,040 And he actually, Napoleon Hill actually said that you can't really see success unless you 161 00:12:47,040 --> 00:12:48,440 have self-control. 162 00:12:48,440 --> 00:12:55,640 And one of the, like I said, I said this earlier, but one of the best, most striking quotes 163 00:12:55,640 --> 00:13:04,440 that I read in that book so far is, self-control is solely a matter of thought control. 164 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:12,160 So if self-control is required for success and self-control is solely a matter of thought 165 00:13:12,160 --> 00:13:19,000 control, then that just makes sense to focus a lot of energy and effort on controlling 166 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:24,600 your thoughts, on developing the ability to control your thoughts. 167 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:28,040 And the fact of the matter is everyone has this ability. 168 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:30,360 It's just out of practice for most people. 169 00:13:30,360 --> 00:13:36,160 A lot of the times people get angry very easily and stay angry. 170 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:38,400 So I want to put you in another scene. 171 00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:41,280 Imagine your parents are angry. 172 00:13:41,280 --> 00:13:43,080 They're angry at each other. 173 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:46,640 They're yelling, they're fighting, and they have low awareness. 174 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:49,320 They're not very aware of the situation. 175 00:13:49,320 --> 00:13:52,000 They're just immersed in their own emotions. 176 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:55,720 And then imagine they're extremely mad at each other. 177 00:13:55,720 --> 00:13:58,400 They are furious. 178 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:01,400 It's gotten to the point where they're throwing food around. 179 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:04,360 And then the doorbell rings. 180 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:05,840 People are here for dinner. 181 00:14:05,840 --> 00:14:08,520 Guests are coming over for dinner. 182 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:13,760 Our neighbors have come over for dinner because we invited them over for dinner. 183 00:14:13,760 --> 00:14:24,600 Now your parents instantly control their emotions and instantly rush up and instantly go back 184 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:26,440 to being a calm and tranquil. 185 00:14:26,440 --> 00:14:32,560 Now everyone can imagine this because it's not necessarily a common occurrence, but this 186 00:14:32,560 --> 00:14:38,160 happens and you're extremely pissed off and then the doorbell rings. 187 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:41,120 Now you have to fix your emotion. 188 00:14:41,120 --> 00:14:43,840 You have to put on this. 189 00:14:43,840 --> 00:14:49,200 You have to change your emotion essentially and control your thoughts and go back to being 190 00:14:49,200 --> 00:14:51,400 calm. 191 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:58,360 So it's solely a matter of desiring to change your thoughts, to change your emotions. 192 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:05,320 So the parents desired, they had the desire to be calm. 193 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:10,640 Now this desire was based off an external factor like someone coming over, but we can 194 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:15,000 develop this desire inside of ourselves and it just takes a little bit of practice. 195 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:22,000 And it is possible, it is doable.