Practice #67 - Thinking About Deleting Social Media

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I remember when I was in the phase of when I realized that social media was bad for you.

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Yet I didn't want to take the leap and actually delete.

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Like I didn't have the courage to actually do the task and delete my accounts.

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Much less delete the actual app off the phone.

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And one of the biggest factors was like, oh, are people going to judge me?

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Oh, are people going to miss me or anything like that?

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But in hindsight I realized that I wasn't actually thinking these things.

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It was just kind of like, I never really pinpointed why I actually didn't want to delete the actual app off my accounts.

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I never actually put words to my reasons.

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I basically just sat there and I was like, oh, social media is bad for you.

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Yet I still scroll all the time.

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Is that familiar to you?

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Because that was me like a few years ago.

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And what I did was I basically just took small steps.

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I basically just slowly but surely started to change things.

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And then basically got like myself and my friends used to these new changes.

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I remember like one of the first changes I made.

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This was when I was trying to like lower my screen time.

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It was literally turn on grayscale mode on my phone.

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So now my phone is like all black and white and it doesn't have any color.

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And I would play like Clash of Clans and all that stuff with grayscale mode on.

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And I remember sitting at the cafeteria one time and my friends were like all on their phones.

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And I was on the face where I didn't really use my phone because I was like cutting it out because I know that's bad for me.

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So I was just kind of sitting there and all my friends were on their phones.

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And like Clash of Clans, the topic of Clash of Clans got brought up.

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And Clash of Clans was my game of choice on my phone.

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I've been playing it since like a kid.

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And I deleted it like a couple like a year or actually not even a year ago, like maybe seven months ago.

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And but like during this time I was sitting at the cafeteria and then Clash of Clans got brought up.

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And people were like showing each other their bases and I wanted to join in.

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I wanted to show them my base because it was pretty good.

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It was the best out of the whole group but whatever.

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And so I show everyone my base and they're like what? Like your phone is gray.

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Like how am I supposed to see this?

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That was just one instance of like people don't actually care.

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They're just a little surprised at first.

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And then over time they're just like they get used to it because I like show them my phone or like I take a picture with them or something.

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And they get used to it.

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And then slowly I started using my phone less and less and less.

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And then I started like deleting my social media.

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Like I literally deleted the accounts completely.

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But that was not like one and done.

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It took a long time to get to that point because I actually started by like deleting the apps.

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And then I started by reducing my time and all these things.

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And then over the course of like weeks and months I eventually actually made the decision to delete my accounts.

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And you know what happened?

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Nothing. Nobody noticed.

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Absolutely nobody noticed.

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Nobody brought it up to me in person.

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I never brought it up.

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Actually I did bring it up once in there like oh yeah whatever.

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Like it's funny because I was so like convinced.

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Like in hindsight I realized that the only reason why I waited so long was because I was addicted.

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Like that's the only reason I was just attached to like the dopamine.

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That's the only reason that's the only attachment.

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Like I wasn't it wasn't because my friends were going to miss me on social media or anything else because people don't really care.

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So once I like deleted that attachment deleted the entire accounts.

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I can play it changed my life completely.

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And then it didn't change anyone else's life because they just went on with their days.

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It's going through a tic-tac. They don't notice I'm gone.

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Like there's no it doesn't really matter.

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So it's just a question of are you gonna be attached by yourself and just allow yourself to sit there because I was like that.

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And for years I knew social media was bad for me.

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And like everyone it's no mystery that social media is bad for you.

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Like it's a known fact everybody knows that it's bad for you.

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Even like even social media CEOs say like oh you probably shouldn't be using social media.

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So it's literally just a matter of like having the courage to take the leap.

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There's nothing really other than that.

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Like all it was for me was literally just having the courage to go against the side of norms and delete the account.

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And like as you get used to taking these like leaps of courageous acts like deleting social media.

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Going to like doing all kinds of like self-improvement habits.

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Graduating early. Like getting out of like not going to college.

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Things for yourself that are against the norm that are actually beneficial to you.

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The more you take those leaps the easier it becomes.

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Like it's actually so much easier to get like to do like weird things.

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Like I literally walk around I can easily walk around barefoot and shirtless now.

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But if you would have asked me to do that one year ago I would have done it.

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But I wouldn't have been like comfortable doing it.

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And if you would have asked me like two or three years ago I would not have done it.

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So it's just a matter of taking the leap.