Practice #73 - How To Get Out Of A Rut

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A lot of the times for self-improvement, you can actually make a lot of progress by doing

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simple things like meditating, exercises, eating healthy, all these things.

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But after a while, you start to get like plateaued.

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Start to get in a rut.

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So how do you get out of that?

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I was actually in that similar situation where I was doing all the things, but I just kind

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of wasn't really improving that much anymore.

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Not nearly as much as I was before.

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These habits were not as effective.

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And what I did, it's actually very surprising.

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I identified my past.

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I literally started thinking a lot about my childhood and started identifying all the deep,

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dark moments, all the moments that I was too embarrassed to even share with anyone.

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So I identified those moments.

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And you know what I did?

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I shared it with people.

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I shared it with my parents and I shared it with my friend.

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So that is exactly what you might want to do.

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If you're in a very, like if you've done a lot of progress, you've completely changed

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your life.

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Like you used to be in the dark pit, but now you're in like this, like completely different

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area.

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You're a new person now.

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Yet your past self is holding you back.

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It's kind of like trying to pull you and it's kind of like, so let's say your past self

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is right here.

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And then you walk down and your past self is still right there, but you are actually

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like moving forward in life.

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But then like, it's kind of like a resistance band.

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So imagine you're attached to your past self with a resistance band and it's tied to each

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other.

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So and your past self stays in the same spot because it's the past.

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The past doesn't change or does it?

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I don't know.

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And so you can like literally go super fast right away, but then it starts to get way

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slower until eventually you simply just cannot move until you cut ties, cut ties with your

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past self.

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Because look, this resistance band right here is holding you back.

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It's literally holding you back.

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It's making you go slower.

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All of this growth that you made shows that you're a completely different person.

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You're right here and then this past self is right there.

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Completely different people.

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You have literally like right now, when you were your past self, you were your past self.

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So you can't really cut the ties.

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But then you start to change and grow and improve, now you're a different person.

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Now it's time to cut ties, cut loose and get rid of like all of that stuff.

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And the way you do that is literally therapy.

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Like I didn't go to therapy, but I did like therapy for myself.

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You literally have to sit in your room, close all of the, like get rid of everything.

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Literally just sit in there with your thoughts and figure out, identify all of your darkest,

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most embarrassing moments that you're most ashamed of, most disgust of, that you don't

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even want to share with anybody.

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Much less share with yourself.

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These are the moments that you have been burying your entire life, just pushing back into a

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deep dark corner of your mind.

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Well, it's time to bring those up and actually conquer them because they have been, those

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memories are the resistance band, literally the resistance band.

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And you've been pushing it away this whole time.

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Me too.

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And then all you have to do is literally identify all the most embarrassing moments you do not

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want to share with anyone, not a soul.

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And then you confront them, you literally just think about it and then you share it with

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someone.

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The people to share with it, actually not the easiest, the most difficult people to

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share with are the ones you should share with, which are your parents or whoever is involved.

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So that's something.

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Just, tea for thought.