Say 'Yes' Three Times

1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:08,000 So the big question is this, how do young men like us, who didn't listen to society, who are on our own, 2 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:14,000 how do we grow and improve ourselves so that we can live a better tomorrow? 3 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:18,000 That is the question and this show will give you the answers. 4 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:24,000 My name is James Redzinski and welcome to the Ascend Momentum Show. 5 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:31,000 Welcome back everyone. So today was a very good day. 6 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:42,000 I went to the mall again and with my friend and we talked to five girls. 7 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:44,000 We just went, we wanted to get it done quick. 8 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:48,000 So we went in, talked to five girls, went out. 9 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:53,000 No phone numbers have achieved. I wasn't really asking for numbers though. 10 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:58,000 Neither was he, neither of us even asked for numbers. We were just talking to them. 11 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:11,000 But it's getting a lot easier and now that I've taken action, I dissipated it all, if not most of the excess potential related to that one girl I was talking about the other day. 12 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:17,000 And also I just don't idolize girls that much anymore. 13 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:24,000 So that's good. The more and more action I take, the less and less I will idolize girls. 14 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:31,000 So I'm already way ahead of where I was in the beginning of summer. 15 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:40,000 I am pretty confident that I could have a conversation and hold a conversation with a girl now. 16 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:42,000 At least for one minute. 17 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:51,000 And I'm talking about a girl at my school, like just a stranger. 18 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:56,000 Even though I didn't talk to a girl more than like 10 seconds today. 19 00:01:57,000 --> 00:02:01,000 If I were to actually try to have a conversation, I would probably do a lot better. 20 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:12,000 But with that being said, you guys definitely should be doing this because all of our lives we have been idolizing girls. 21 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:24,000 We've been thinking highly, just lusts. All of that is not good for us and our influence is reduced because of that. 22 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:32,000 And once you take action, literally just start a conversation with a girl, you instantly gain influence on the world. 23 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:42,000 So think about it this way. If you just talk to a girl, a stranger, you instantly gain, become more efficient at getting your goals. 24 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:54,000 So if you've already accomplished some goals and you're happy with that, imagine how much better off you would be if you were just 50% more efficient. 25 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:58,000 Or 100% more efficient. Or 1000% more efficient. 26 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:14,000 And that's what happens when you expand your comfort zone and start to take action and dissipate all of the excess potential correlated and linked with that specific object or event. 27 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:23,000 So I want to talk to you guys about three different books. 28 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:31,000 And not those books in particular, but one concept that is in all three of the books. 29 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:48,000 And if you have read many books and there's a common theme or a common concept amongst many of the books, well then it's definitely a valuable concept. 30 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:50,000 Or it's definitely worth noting. 31 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:52,000 And let me explain. 32 00:03:53,000 --> 00:04:06,000 So I've read many books, but three books in particular that I'm talking about right now is How to Win Friends and Influence Others, Expert Secrets, and Reality Transurfing. 33 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:29,000 So I read How to Win Friends and Influence Others first and it's basically how to communicate effectively and get what you want and influence people to serve your motives essentially. 34 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:39,000 Except it's a lot more unselfish. It's a lot, it's selfless and that selflessness helps you get what you want. 35 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:41,000 It's a whole thing. 36 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:48,000 And there was this one, I just read that book all the way through. I just wanted that stuff in my brain. 37 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:54,000 I wasn't really necessarily going to take action on it. I just wanted it in my brain. 38 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:59,000 And I figured that it's better to read it than not to read it, even if I was not taking action. 39 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:14,000 So then I read it, kind of picked up on a few things, took action on a few things, but for the most part it was just, all the knowledge is just sitting in my brain doing nothing. 40 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:25,000 Then I read Expert Secrets and no, actually I read Reality Transurfing second. 41 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:31,000 So I read Reality Transurfing and when I read it, I just zoomed through it. 42 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:42,000 I read like 50 pages a day and that book, if you read 50 pages a day in that book, that's insane because the pages are really big and the content is very deep. 43 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:44,000 And it requires a lot of thinking. 44 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:54,000 So pretty much I just wasted that read and I just read as much as I could and didn't really comprehend much. 45 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:07,000 And then I read Expert Secrets and once again I read it all the way through pretty quickly, but I retained a lot more. 46 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:17,000 Now I'm rereading Reality Transurfing and Expert Secrets, Reality Transurfing in the morning and Expert Secrets at night. 47 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:20,000 And instead of just reading through them, I'm studying them. 48 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:27,000 So I'm taking a lot of notes on a separate notebook and I'm writing down important things to remember. 49 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:36,000 So when you're reading just normally reading something, that information passes through your brain once, maybe twice, if you reread it. 50 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:47,000 But if you're using my study method that I use, that information, all the most important information, passes through my brain at least 10 times. 51 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:50,000 Sometimes 11, sometimes 12. 52 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:56,000 So my study method is a lot more efficient. 53 00:06:57,000 --> 00:07:01,000 And I just basically write stuff, important notes down. 54 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:05,000 I basically copy down phrases while I'm reading. 55 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:12,000 And then I, at nighttime, I reread my journal of what I wrote. 56 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:25,000 And then at nighttime after that, I summarize in my other journal, my nightly journal, the most important concepts that I remember. 57 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:28,000 And then the morning after I reread that. 58 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:33,000 So I get a lot, a lot of information passes through my brain. 59 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:35,000 So a lot of connections are made. 60 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,000 So it's a very efficient way of learning, in my opinion. 61 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:41,000 Plus I do it for maybe 30 to 45 minutes. 62 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:46,000 And then I take a six minute meditation break and just meditate for six minutes. 63 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:50,000 And then repeat 30 minutes on, five minutes off. 64 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:56,000 And then sometimes I do usually on the weekends or during summer. 65 00:07:57,000 --> 00:08:02,000 I do 45 minutes on, six minutes off, 45 minutes on. 66 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:06,000 And then I take a 25 minute nap to just lock everything in. 67 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:08,000 And then I go on with my day. 68 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:22,000 So the reason why I'm explaining all this stuff to you is because there was this one concept that I learned in how to win friends and influence others. 69 00:08:23,000 --> 00:08:32,000 And it's basically when you're trying to get someone to say, yeah, to make a purchase or buy something from you. 70 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:36,000 Or when you're trying to get someone to agree with you. 71 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:39,000 One of the best, there's a tactic. 72 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:43,000 I thought that it was a more esoteric tactic. 73 00:08:44,000 --> 00:08:47,000 So I kind of dismissed it when I first read it and how to win friends and influence others. 74 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:52,000 And it's basically where you get someone to say yes three times. 75 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:55,000 And then you ask your question. 76 00:08:55,000 --> 00:09:19,000 So for example, if I were trying to get you to buy a phone and a new iPhone for me, I would say, even if you could, or do you think that you could have success watching movies on this phone? 77 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:21,000 Yes, I would. 78 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:30,000 Do you think that or will you have success calling and FaceTimeing all of your friends on this phone? 79 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:32,000 Yes, I would. 80 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:49,000 Do you think you will have success or do you think you would have success taking high quality pictures with this new iPhone? 81 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:50,000 Yes, I would. 82 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:53,000 So you basically get them to say yes three times. 83 00:09:54,000 --> 00:10:00,000 And then what that, what he said, I'm pretty sure I haven't read it in a long time, so I may be completely butchering this. 84 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:05,000 But what he said is it basically gets them more susceptible to say yes another time. 85 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:09,000 So then you hit them with the question, would you like to make this purchase? 86 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:11,000 Like, would you like to buy this phone? 87 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:13,000 And then they are more likely to say yes. 88 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:24,000 So I kind of just dismissed it because it seemed like a more esoteric concept and a more just not very practical. 89 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:39,000 But, and then I read it again in Reality Transfer, if you in the first time I read it, but since I read 50 pages a day and I was just reading, reading, reading, I didn't really comprehend it. 90 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:50,000 So I read it, but I don't remember reading it because I read so much and I crammed everything and it just went up, like it just dismissed in my brain. 91 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:54,000 So that's the second time I saw it in my books. 92 00:10:55,000 --> 00:11:07,000 And then the third time I saw it in Expert Secrets in the perfect webinar script at the end, Russell Brunson asks three questions that will get them to say yes. 93 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:23,000 Now at the time I didn't make the connection that he was using that influence, that conversation, social tool or that social trick to get them to say yes. 94 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:30,000 But that was the third time I saw that, that concept of three yes method. 95 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:41,000 So at that time, which was probably like two, maybe actually one month ago, maybe a month ago, maybe like two weeks ago, I don't know. 96 00:11:41,000 --> 00:12:04,000 When I finished reading Expert Secrets the first time through, I had at that time, like a month ago, I had seen the three yes method three times in three different books, but I hadn't realized its power yet. 97 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:22,000 Then I, this morning, I saw, this morning when I was rereading Transurfing, he said something very interesting to me. 98 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:47,000 And he was talking about, it was the chapter about staying awake, it was the chapter about intention. And in that chapter he talks about dreams and how people, when they're asleep, when they're dreaming in REM sleep, like when they're actually dreaming, they in non-lucid dreams, they're the victim of circumstance. 99 00:12:47,000 --> 00:13:03,000 And so the dream kind of gets to choose what happens. The person is kind of the victim of the dream, so the person doesn't really get to choose what's going on. The person just plays along with the dream. 100 00:13:03,000 --> 00:13:30,000 And then he said that people in real life is just like a dream because people are asleep in real life, similar to how they are in dreams because they're caught by pendulums and they are immersed in the game of life. 101 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:48,000 And so if you simply just wake up and become aware and drop your importance, then you are able to choose your path in life and you are not the victim of circumstance anymore, you actually get to choose what happens. 102 00:13:48,000 --> 00:14:03,000 So the reason, I'm just saying this to give context to the next part. And then he got to the part where you can actually, that's where hypnotize, hypnotism comes from. 103 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:21,000 Because people found methods to basically put someone into that asleep mode. Now, most people are actually in that sleep mode by default during their day. That's why they get mad. 104 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:36,000 That's why they overreacted many things even though in reality, if you in hindsight, it did not even matter. That's why they are really the victim of life. They don't really get what they want from life. 105 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:43,000 And a lot of the times they get what they do not want. They actually manifest their worst expectations. 106 00:14:43,000 --> 00:14:57,000 But the hypnotism, there are strategies to where you can actually put someone in that sleeper state, we'll call it. 107 00:14:58,000 --> 00:15:07,000 And he said that the gypsies, now I don't know what a gypsy is, and I'm not sure if it's good or bad. It sounds, I don't know. 108 00:15:07,000 --> 00:15:20,000 I probably should have looked it up before I said it on my podcast. Doesn't matter. He said that there was a method that they used to put someone in this sleep to hypnotize someone basically. 109 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:26,000 And it was called the, you basically just get them to say yes to three questions. 110 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:37,000 And once I saw that this morning, this was this morning at like 6.45 in the morning during my study session. 111 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:47,000 And once I saw that I instantly wrote it down, but I didn't really take any particular note of it. I was just like, oh, I remember this from, from how to win friends and influence others. 112 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:56,000 So at this point this morning, I had seen it four different times in my reading from three different books. 113 00:15:57,000 --> 00:16:04,000 And after the fourth time, I just made the connection to how to win friends and influence others. 114 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:11,000 Now I did not make the connection to expert secrets yet. Not directly at least. 115 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:33,000 And then I went to the park with my friend and then I, we decided to go to, well yesterday I actually brought it up, but today we decided to go to the mall and do a comfort zone exercise where we just talk to five girls and then leave. 116 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:52,000 So we went there and did it. And once I, once we were done, we were just leaving and we started talking and we're just excited about how it went because we reduced a lot of our excess potential that we had built up. 117 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:56,000 And now we have more influence in the world because we took action. 118 00:16:56,000 --> 00:16:59,000 And so now we're getting closer to our goals. 119 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:05,000 But then I started talking about this one thing that I thought about this morning. 120 00:17:05,000 --> 00:17:13,000 I told him what I just told you guys how this morning I saw the three yes method in reality, trans surfing. 121 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:17,000 And I reminded him that we saw it in how to win friends and influence others. 122 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:19,000 And then I was in the flow. 123 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:27,000 So if you guys are in the flow while you're speaking, a lot of times I get in the flow when I'm speaking on my podcast, which I believe I'm in the flow right now. 124 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:35,000 And when you're in the flow, you say things and you make connections that you wouldn't have otherwise. 125 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:45,000 And you basically make a lot of, you get a lot of intuition and you gain a lot of new knowledge and connect a lot of pieces, connect a lot of the dots. 126 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:55,000 So I was saying that we read in how to win friends and influence others, three yes method. He taught us that. 127 00:17:55,000 --> 00:18:05,000 And then this morning I read it in reality, trans surfing and it's a way that gypsies use to hypnotize someone. 128 00:18:05,000 --> 00:18:15,000 But while I was explaining this to my friend Franklin, I, before I started explaining it, I wanted him to be awake. 129 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:19,000 So he, and I said, I'm going to, I'm just going to tell you exactly what I did. 130 00:18:19,000 --> 00:18:22,000 So I was like, Franklin, are you awake right now? 131 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:27,000 I just want, I want to tell you something important and I want to make sure that you're awake. Are you awake? 132 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:36,000 And so he did the, he breathed in, made sure he was conscious, checked if reality was real. 133 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:40,000 And I just checked right now and I am awake. 134 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:45,000 But beside that, he did that. And so he was like, yes, I'm awake. 135 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:51,000 And then I was like, okay, I just want to make sure one more time, are you awake? This is important. 136 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:54,000 And then he was like, yes, I'm awake. But he did it very quickly. 137 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:59,000 So I could tell that he kind of fell asleep already. 138 00:18:59,000 --> 00:19:10,000 And then I was like, okay, I want to tell you this thing about in trans surfing this morning, I read that the gypsies use the three yes method. 139 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:12,000 Just like in how to win friends and influence others. 140 00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:17,000 Now this is important. So I want to tell you this, are you awake? I want to make sure that you're awake. 141 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:22,000 And then he was like, yes, I'm awake. Now, why wouldn't I be awake? 142 00:19:22,000 --> 00:19:27,000 And then I was like, okay. And at this point, I kept on talking. 143 00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:35,000 And I was saying that the gypsies used the three yes method to hypnotize someone. 144 00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:45,000 And then I realized that in Russell Brunson's perfect webinar script in Expert Secrets, 145 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:54,000 he teaches to the first 60 minutes is just giving content and teaching. 146 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:59,000 And then the last 30 minutes is like closing, you're trying to get the sale. 147 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:09,000 And there's a part in the last 30 minutes where you ask three questions that are obviously yes. 148 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:11,000 The answer to them are obviously yes. 149 00:20:11,000 --> 00:20:18,000 And then I was like, and I explained that to him, but I just made that connection during that conversation. 150 00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:21,000 So I was super excited. So I was explaining that to him. 151 00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:25,000 And then I was like, are you getting this? Are you awake right now? 152 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:27,000 I want to make sure you're awake. So you're getting this. 153 00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:29,000 And he was like, yes, I'm awake. I'm awake. 154 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:36,000 But then I realized that I just used the three yes method on him. 155 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:42,000 So I asked him three questions that were yes. 156 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:48,000 And then at the end I was like, oh, I just realized that I used the three yes method on you. 157 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:50,000 And he was like, oh, that, huh, whatever. 158 00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:54,000 And then, and then I was like, wait, you're asleep. 159 00:20:54,000 --> 00:20:57,000 And then he realized that he was asleep. 160 00:20:57,000 --> 00:21:04,000 So I literally not, I wouldn't go so far as say hypnotized, but I made him fall asleep. 161 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:10,000 While I was asking him if he was awake. 162 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:18,000 So he was basically not present, but I was asking him if he was present. 163 00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:21,000 And I was making sure that he was present, but he was not. 164 00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:27,000 So I just want you guys to see how valuable the three yes method is in everything. 165 00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:40,000 And there is this one thing that I want to tell you that once we realized that I used that method on him, 166 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:45,000 and we were just talking about and we realized how valuable that is, then we got to the car and I, 167 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:49,000 and then I made another connection. 168 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:52,000 We were talking about how this would work during sales. 169 00:21:52,000 --> 00:22:00,000 And then we made the connection that Russell Brunson purposely asked the three questions after he taught the content. 170 00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:11,000 So you're, it's best if you get the person familiar with the three yeses or the content of the three questions. 171 00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:16,000 So don't ask them if you're trying to make them a sale on this brand new gadget. 172 00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:19,000 Don't ask them three questions right away to get the sale. 173 00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:28,000 You have to educate them first so they can become familiar with that content of that gadget. 174 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:32,000 Because I have a prediction or a hypothesis. 175 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:40,000 I'm not sure if it's absolutely true, but people are more vigilant and more aware when they're unfamiliar with something. 176 00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:45,000 So if they're unfamiliar with this new gadget and you're asking them three yes questions, 177 00:22:45,000 --> 00:22:52,000 they're going to stay more aware so it's the three yes method is not going to be as powerful. 178 00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:57,000 But if you educate them and spend 60 minutes, like in the 90 minute perfect webinar, 179 00:22:57,000 --> 00:23:02,000 teaching them all about how this new gadget is so awesome, how it's great, exactly what they can do with it, 180 00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:07,000 how well they'll succeed with it, and all of the above. 181 00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:12,000 If you spend a decent amount of time just teaching them how good it is, 182 00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:18,000 and then you ask them three questions that will respond in yes related to that content, 183 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:21,000 you just taught them, then they'll be more familiar with it. 184 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:24,000 So then they'll realize, oh, I know all this stuff. 185 00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:32,000 So then they can kind of let their guard down and actually lose their vigilance and fall asleep. 186 00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:34,000 So that's the connection I made. 187 00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:37,000 The three yes method is extremely powerful. 188 00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:46,000 And then also you're supposed to teach them on that method, or not that method, 189 00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:54,000 you're supposed to teach them on the content of the questions first. 190 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:57,000 That's if you're trying to make a sale of something that they're unfamiliar with. 191 00:23:57,000 --> 00:24:04,000 But if it's just normal questions, then yeah, then you should be good without the education. 192 00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:09,000 So that's one of the biggest things that I learned today. 193 00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:20,000 And I just wanted to share with you guys, because I will definitely be practicing this and using this a lot in the future. 194 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:38,000 I'm going to get some water. 195 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:46,000 So I'm really looking forward to the future because now I will be conscious of this three yes method. 196 00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:54,000 And I'm going to start to apply it a lot more because I can already see a lot of useful cases where I can use it. 197 00:24:54,000 --> 00:25:01,000 For example, convincing parents to get what you want, or convincing a teacher to get what you want, 198 00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:04,000 or convincing a friend to get what you want. 199 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:06,000 It doesn't even have to be to get what you want. 200 00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:14,000 It could just get your way or to help them see some new opportunity and how it could help them. 201 00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:19,000 It could actually convince them using the three yes method to help them. 202 00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:24,000 So there are so many different applications for this. 203 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:37,000 But I want to quickly change topics and switch years to something that I had been kind of on and off over the past couple of years. 204 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,000 And it's called lucid dreaming. 205 00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:49,000 So two or three years ago, I was really into Fortnite and I was playing a lot of video games and I was addicted. 206 00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:53,000 And this was before I was on self-improvement. 207 00:25:53,000 --> 00:26:02,000 And it was during the new Fortnite season, there was this new Fortnite season, and I had to leave on vacation. 208 00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:04,000 I had to go to Hilton Head. 209 00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:11,000 I know, right? I had to go to Hilton Head and get away from my PC or away from my Xbox to play. 210 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:15,000 I couldn't play Fortnite for a whole week. How terrible. 211 00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:17,000 But that's just how addicted I was. 212 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:21,000 And I'm not proud of it, but I'm also not. 213 00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:27,000 I mean, it was just how it was just my past. It's whatever. I'm indifferent now. 214 00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:38,000 But I'm telling you all this because the reason why I wanted to learn lucid dreaming then was so I could actually play Fortnite in my dreams. 215 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:44,000 So that one, I was really addicted to Fortnite. I was learning a new skill just like play Fortnite. 216 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:48,000 But that's just context. 217 00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:51,000 And I actually learned how to lose a dream through YouTube videos. 218 00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:58,000 And after spending the whole week practicing, I was able to get a loose dream on my last night there. 219 00:26:58,000 --> 00:27:11,000 And I was super excited. I did not play Fortnite because the way lucid dreaming works is once you get in the dream, your mind kind of is not as critical or your memory is not as good. 220 00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:20,000 So I ended up just going to my house and like fighting, like started to fly around and fought Superman. 221 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:26,000 It was just like the classic, classic first lucid dream, fly around and fight Superman. 222 00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:31,000 That's like the only thing that I could think of doing and I didn't want to waste a lucid dream. 223 00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:36,000 So, but that was like three or four years ago. 224 00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:40,000 It was, I don't even know how long ago it was, maybe two years. I don't even know. 225 00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:50,000 It was when Fortnite season chapter, it was like the, I don't remember what season it was, but it was the season where the flood, the big flood happened. 226 00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:57,000 And there was a live event for the big flood, like the tsunami, but I never got to play on it. 227 00:27:57,000 --> 00:28:00,000 I didn't get to play on that event because I was gone. 228 00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:05,000 I just remember watching a lot of YouTube videos while I was at Hilton Head about that. 229 00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:09,000 Or no, it wasn't, I don't even know. It doesn't matter. 230 00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:16,000 But I did, I learned how lucid dream and then I kind of just stopped doing it. 231 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:21,000 Once the school year happened, I stopped and then I forgot about it. 232 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:30,000 And then I, once I got into reading and I started reading a lot of books, I was probably like 15, 20 bucks in. 233 00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:33,000 And I was looking for the next thing to learn. 234 00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:37,000 And I remembered lucid dreaming is like an awesome thing to do. 235 00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:45,000 So I was like, Oh, I might as well try and read a lucid dreaming book so I can see if I could lose a dream again. 236 00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:49,000 And so I read the lucid dreaming book and I didn't even get all the way through. 237 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:52,000 I was halfway through and then I realized that yeah, I'm not going to do this. This is a lot. 238 00:28:52,000 --> 00:29:00,000 And I actually spent like the next two months in my journal writing down all my dreams. 239 00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:01,000 So I'd remember. 240 00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:12,000 So I wasn't not committed. It's just that I wasn't getting the same results as I was the first time because I just didn't have as much intention or drive to get it. 241 00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:19,000 Like the first time I was really addicted to Fortnite and that was the way I could get over the withdrawals or whatever. 242 00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:21,000 So I had a lot of drive to do it. 243 00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:25,000 But the second time I didn't really have a reason to do it. 244 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:33,000 So I kind of just gave up after two months of journaling my dreams. 245 00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:42,000 And then I remember or and then after that, I kind of just stopped. 246 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:50,000 And then I remember this summer, my friend wanted to get into lucid dreaming and he was like, Oh, if we learned how to lose a dream, 247 00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:56,000 we can meditate for like nine hours while we're asleep and get so much meditation in. 248 00:29:56,000 --> 00:30:01,000 And I was like, for some reason, I was trying to convince him against it. 249 00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:04,000 I think I was asleep while I was explaining all this stuff. 250 00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:07,000 And I told him, Oh, yeah, we should not do that. 251 00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:13,000 We should focus on business because you have to do so many things to be able to lose a dream. 252 00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:19,000 And so I basically explained to him the whole process and all the things you have to do, even though it's not even that bad. 253 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:22,000 It's not that tedious. It's not that much. 254 00:30:22,000 --> 00:30:25,000 And I was just basically trying to scare him off of lucid dreaming. 255 00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:36,000 And then this morning, yesterday, two days ago, I started reading intention. 256 00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:38,000 I read about intention. 257 00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:40,000 It was either two days ago or yesterday. 258 00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:45,000 I think it was two days ago, but I started reading the intention chapter. 259 00:30:45,000 --> 00:31:02,000 And in that chapter on reality, Transurfing, he talked about dreaming and there was one part in particular where he said something about lose a dreaming is a great way to practice and understand outer intention. 260 00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:06,000 And outer intention, by the way, is critical to Transurfing. 261 00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:08,000 That is what Transurfing is all about. 262 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:15,000 Outer intention is how you basically achieve your goals in the easiest, simplest means possible. 263 00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:20,000 You basically allow the goals to realize themselves, which does not make sense at all. 264 00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:26,000 I'm still trying to comprehend that, but it's a thing. 265 00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:42,000 And so two days ago, I read that lucid dreaming is a great way to practice the Transurfing techniques and understand outer intention. 266 00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:46,000 So I was like, oh, nice, because I already read that my first read through. 267 00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:54,000 And I kind of dismissed lucid dreaming because he said that it was not required, but it's a great help. 268 00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:58,000 So I kind of just took that as an out. 269 00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:02,000 And so I kind of did the same thing two days ago. 270 00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:08,000 I was like, all right, I won't lose a dream because it's not required, but it's a good help, but it's not required. 271 00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:11,000 So I'm not going to do it. 272 00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:23,000 And then today I was reading and I remembered I saw something that struck me and I went back and I read about. 273 00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:33,000 I reread and wrote down that part about lucid lucid dreaming helps you a lot with your outer intention and helps you with your Transurfing skills. 274 00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:37,000 And I realized that it's not that much more work. 275 00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:42,000 It's literally the same amount of work to be able to lose a dream. 276 00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:48,000 The way you lose a dream is at least 10 times a day, he said, ask yourself, is this real? 277 00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:49,000 And you have to be conscious. 278 00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:50,000 It cannot be a habit. 279 00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:52,000 It cannot be routine. 280 00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:59,000 You just have to consciously ask yourself, is this real at least 10 times a day and figure out if you're dreaming or not. 281 00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:02,000 And then eventually you'll lose a dream. 282 00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:08,000 And you're already doing that when you're being vigilant throughout the day and staying awake. 283 00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:17,000 So then this morning I realized that we should lose a dream because we're already doing all the stuff for it. 284 00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:21,000 So it's not any more work to be able to lose a dream. 285 00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:31,000 So then I wrote that down and then I thought more about it. 286 00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:41,000 And this morning at the park, I talked to my friend about that thing that I just taught you, how we should lose a dream. 287 00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:50,000 And I basically apologized for steering them off course last time and we should, we need to be focusing on lucid dreaming because lucid dreaming, 288 00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:52,000 you can do so many things. 289 00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:56,000 You can get to know your inner self, your subconscious. 290 00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:58,000 You can practice your outer intention. 291 00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:00,000 You can learn what outer intention feels like. 292 00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:14,000 And the way he described what outer intention in a dream feels like, when you fly for the first time in a dream, it's kind of like freefall or the drop on a roller coaster. 293 00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:23,000 So if you can imagine going up all the way on the roller coaster, building anticipation, and then once you drop down that feeling in your stomach, 294 00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:25,000 everyone knows that feeling. 295 00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:37,000 You can feel it in a car ride sometimes when there's a drop in the road or even sometimes on stage, you're like, oh, this is happening. 296 00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:41,000 It's like that feeling everyone knows intuitively. 297 00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:54,000 And he said he's described flying for the first time and using outer intention in a dream as freefall and the feeling, the drop in your stomach. 298 00:34:54,000 --> 00:35:04,000 And I want you guys to remember when I was trying to lose a dream for the first time to play Fortnite, but I flew instead. 299 00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:06,000 I flew and fought Superman. 300 00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:15,000 Now, I remember the first time I flew in that dream, I had a drop in my stomach because I was like, oh, wow, this is actually happening. 301 00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:17,000 I'm actually flying. 302 00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:24,000 Imagine what, to kind of help you comprehend what it feels like, I want you guys to imagine you're in real life. 303 00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,000 So you're sitting here right now. 304 00:35:26,000 --> 00:35:29,000 Imagine you just started flying right now. 305 00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:31,000 Imagine that feeling you would get. 306 00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:34,000 You'd be like, oh, my goodness, this is crazy. 307 00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:36,000 And you get that drop in your stomach. 308 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:38,000 That's what I felt in my dream. 309 00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:44,000 And I never connected these dots until I was talking to my friend this morning. 310 00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:55,000 And I realized that lose dreaming is huge for practicing and understanding what outer intention feels like. 311 00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:58,000 Plus we get to do some crazy stuff in dreams. 312 00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:00,000 There is no limit to dreams. 313 00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:07,000 And you get to practice and understand more transforming concepts like the scripts, the sceneries, and changing them. 314 00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:10,000 And also staying awake. 315 00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:20,000 And you also get to practice changing lifelines, changing, going with the flow, doing anything you want. 316 00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:30,000 Like manipulating the world or letting the world realize itself through your desires and through your intentions. 317 00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:33,000 So there's so much value to lose a dream. 318 00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:39,000 And I haven't had a lose dreaming like a long time. 319 00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:44,000 So that's one of the next things that I'm going to be working on. 320 00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:46,000 I told my friend that he should be working on too. 321 00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:49,000 And you guys should definitely be working on it as well. 322 00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:54,000 Because all you have to do, I'm not even going to be journaling my... 323 00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:58,000 Or as of right now, I'm not going to be journaling my dreams. 324 00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:00,000 I'm not going to be logging my dreams. 325 00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:02,000 That might change in the future once I get more serious. 326 00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:07,000 But as of now, I'm simply just going to be reminding myself at least 10 times a day. 327 00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:08,000 I'm not counting. 328 00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:13,000 If I was counting, I'm pretty sure today was at least 20 times already. 329 00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:21,000 But I'm going to be making sure that I ask myself many times a day, is this real? 330 00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:24,000 That simple question, is this real? 331 00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:33,000 And it only works if you are conscious and critical about it every single time. 332 00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:36,000 And it never becomes rootinized. 333 00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:39,000 So it never becomes like a routine. 334 00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:42,000 Like you're going through the motions. 335 00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:47,000 It is always critical and you're always conscious about it. 336 00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:50,000 But it should become sort of a habit. 337 00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:53,000 Because that's how you build a habit. 338 00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:56,000 And then eventually you'll do it in your dream. 339 00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:58,000 And then you realize that it is not real. 340 00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:02,000 So when you ask yourself that question, what I do, there's multiple things that I do. 341 00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:16,000 Let me get some water before I explain. 342 00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:18,000 So when I ask myself, is this real? 343 00:38:18,000 --> 00:38:22,000 One of the first things I do is I try and look for words. 344 00:38:22,000 --> 00:38:33,000 I try to find like a poster, a piece of paper, or anything that has words, or a sentence, or letters, or numbers on it. 345 00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:39,000 So a sign outside anything. 346 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:41,000 Anything with words. 347 00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:45,000 And then you try, and then you will it to change. 348 00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:47,000 So I always try to change the word. 349 00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:52,000 You could change the font size, you could change the font type. 350 00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:55,000 But what I do is I just completely change the word. 351 00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:57,000 And I have a go to word. 352 00:38:57,000 --> 00:38:58,000 It's inappropriate. 353 00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:00,000 So I'm not going to say it on the podcast. 354 00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:02,000 S-E-X. 355 00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:10,000 But I always change it to that word. 356 00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:14,000 And then I close my eyes and then see if it changed. 357 00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:20,000 And that's basically you using your outer intention to change it. 358 00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:25,000 You don't try to change it with your fingers or with your inner intention. 359 00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:31,000 It's hard to explain, but you kind of just do it. 360 00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:35,000 You kind of just imagine that it's changed. 361 00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:49,000 And then accept the fact that it could change, that there is a possibility, a lifeline, or a different type of thing where that could actually change to that thing. 362 00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,000 So then you change it. 363 00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:56,000 And then I close my eyes and then open them to see if it changed. 364 00:39:56,000 --> 00:40:00,000 And if it didn't, two things happen. 365 00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:06,000 One, it failed, but that could either mean one of two things. 366 00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:11,000 It could either mean I am dreaming still, but that my intention is weak. 367 00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:14,000 Or I'm in reality. 368 00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:24,000 So then the next thing that I try to do is I close my mouth and then I plug my nose and try to breathe through my nose. 369 00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:27,000 Now, obviously in reality that will not work. 370 00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:33,000 You won't be able to breathe through your nose, but when you're in a dream, you will always be able to breathe through your nose. 371 00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:35,000 Even while it's clogged. 372 00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:47,000 I've never actually tried it in a dream, but in my books that I've read, I've heard that it is one of the craziest sensations. 373 00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:51,000 So then those are two things, two of the go-to things I do. 374 00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:57,000 Some other alternatives that you could do is be critical about how you got there. 375 00:40:57,000 --> 00:40:59,000 Try to remember how you got to where you were. 376 00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:01,000 Try to retrace your steps. 377 00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:09,000 And if you can't remember or you remember us like you teleporting somewhere, then that probably means that you're in a dream. 378 00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:15,000 And then another thing that you need to be doing is being critical of your environment. 379 00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:17,000 Is everything as it should be? 380 00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:24,000 Is there any like monkeys flying around or is there any crazy things happening? 381 00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:35,000 If everything seems to be in order and you don't spot, okay, so if you spot something and that may seem strange, 382 00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:44,000 but your mind instantly tries to justify its existence and justify how it's normal, 383 00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:51,000 then that probably means that you're asleep and you need to wake up. 384 00:41:51,000 --> 00:42:02,000 Because when you're in REM sleep, your brain kind of loses its critical thinking skills and it justifies everything. 385 00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:08,000 That's why people don't lose a dream very often because the brain kind of just accepts everything the way it is. 386 00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:16,000 Even if there's like a person that transforms into a dog or something like that. 387 00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:20,000 Even if there's the craziest thing that happens, your brain justifies it. 388 00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:24,000 So that's why you have to be extremely critical about your surroundings. 389 00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:33,000 And if there is any suspicion, then you are probably dreaming. 390 00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:41,000 And you should repeat, if there's suspicion, repeat the steps. So try and change words to different words. 391 00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:47,000 Or try to... 392 00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:52,000 And then next try to breathe through your nose again while it's clogged. 393 00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:55,000 While it's plugged. 394 00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:59,000 And pretty much he said in Vadam Zanlin's book, he said, 395 00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:04,000 if your intention, depending on how strong your intention to do this is, 396 00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:12,000 you should have your first lucid dream within days or months, depending on how strong your intention is. 397 00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:14,000 So that's... 398 00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:21,000 And a lot of those strategies that I told you, like changing the words and clogging your nose, 399 00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:24,000 I don't think that he taught those in Reality Transurfing. 400 00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:28,000 I picked those up in a different book called... 401 00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:31,000 I don't even remember what the book was called. It was some lucid dreaming book. 402 00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:33,000 It's got like a green cover. 403 00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:40,000 A green, weird looking cover with a design or something on it. 404 00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:56,000 Let me get some water. 405 00:43:56,000 --> 00:44:03,000 So that's the next step for me as lucid dreaming. 406 00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:12,000 And plus this helps a lot because in order to use outer intention, you have to drop importance and also stay vigilant. 407 00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:15,000 And when you're staying vigilant, you're also dropping importance. 408 00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:29,000 So staying awake and always asking yourself, is this real? And making sure that you're awake is how you become a transfer for essentially. 409 00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:36,000 Are you guys getting all this? Do you guys see how valuable this stuff is that I'm giving to you? 410 00:44:36,000 --> 00:44:41,000 This stuff took me a very long time to figure out and I'm still connecting all these dots. 411 00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:47,000 I hope you guys can see the value in the words I'm speaking to. 412 00:44:47,000 --> 00:44:53,000 So there's also a lot more reasons to lucid dream. 413 00:44:53,000 --> 00:45:02,000 But I want to move on. I want to talk about outer intention and vigilance in comparison to society. 414 00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:13,000 So do you guys remember when I said about how most people in society are asleep on a day to day basis and they're the victim to circumstance? 415 00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:15,000 Do you guys remember that? Yeah. 416 00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:23,000 So if you're the victim to circumstance, you don't really get to choose. 417 00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:28,000 Life kind of just chooses for you and you float along the flow of things. 418 00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:35,000 And you end up somewhere where years later you regret and you wish that you could go back. 419 00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:37,000 That's a lot of people. 420 00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:43,000 Now if you want to stand out above the rest and achieve your goals and get what you want in life, get what you choose, 421 00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:46,000 then you have to stay awake. 422 00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:53,000 And a couple months ago, like before school or during summer, in the beginning of summer, 423 00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:58,000 I was aware of the fact that we should stay awake. 424 00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:08,000 But when I was looking for my business opportunity, I was trying to stay awake all the time because I wanted to be awake in order to see my business opportunity. 425 00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:14,000 And then I kind of just stopped and then I realized that this is the most important thing. 426 00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:16,000 So I told my friend and he agreed. 427 00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:20,000 And so we realized that we should be awake a lot more. 428 00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:23,000 And then we were awake and then we kind of just faded away. 429 00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:28,000 And then once we started reading Reality Transurfing again, we were awake way more. 430 00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:34,000 And now that school is starting, we are present way more often throughout the day. 431 00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:37,000 And every single day we're getting better and better. 432 00:46:37,000 --> 00:46:42,000 So you guys getting where I'm, you guys hearing all this. 433 00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:57,000 So that is one of the biggest principles of Transurfing, staying present, staying awake and dropping the importance. 434 00:46:57,000 --> 00:46:59,000 And then you'll be able to get your choice in life. 435 00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:02,000 You get to choose what you want in life. 436 00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:11,000 So that's why I'm really drilling down on lucid dreaming because building the habits and just skills with lucid dreaming. 437 00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:15,000 Also builds my habits with staying awake and staying present. 438 00:47:15,000 --> 00:47:23,000 So it's a win-win scenario and also I get the benefit of getting my choice in my life. 439 00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:29,000 More and more you are awake, the more and more you basically live life. 440 00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:33,000 So what do you guys think? 441 00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:37,000 When you're dreaming, do you feel like you're living? 442 00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:38,000 No, right? 443 00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:43,000 It's, you're kind of just there and it's kind of just passing you by. 444 00:47:43,000 --> 00:47:47,000 You don't really feel, it kind of feels fake. 445 00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:54,000 So that's what I realize now that living life is like for what I used to experience at least. 446 00:47:54,000 --> 00:48:01,000 I can't speak for others, but when I was asleep most of the day, it kind of feels fake looking back on it. 447 00:48:01,000 --> 00:48:09,000 And it kind of feels like a dream, it kind of feels not as real. 448 00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:16,000 It still feels real, it still feels like I lived it, but it's not as good as the moments that I was present. 449 00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:29,000 But now when I'm present and a lot of the moments that I remember this past summer when I was present really feel real and they feel a lot more satisfying. 450 00:48:29,000 --> 00:48:34,000 You guys getting this? You hear what I'm saying? 451 00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:39,000 So can you follow, subscribe to my channel while you're at it. 452 00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:44,000 If you guys liked this episode so far, you should subscribe to the channel. 453 00:48:44,000 --> 00:48:49,000 But I want you guys to take into note what I just did. 454 00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:56,000 Over the past couple of minutes, I was getting, I was asking you guys, are you getting this? Do you see the value in this? 455 00:48:56,000 --> 00:49:03,000 And I was kind of winging it so it wasn't that great, I don't think, but I was getting you guys to say yes three times at least. 456 00:49:03,000 --> 00:49:09,000 And then I did a call to action. One of the first call to action I did in my episodes. 457 00:49:09,000 --> 00:49:15,000 I always do it at the end of the episode, but I did a call to action to subscribe to the channel. 458 00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:22,000 And I explained in the beginning of the chapter the three yeses. 459 00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:28,000 Now, whether or not it worked on you guys, I'm still practicing. 460 00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:32,000 So if it worked on you guys, you guys definitely see the value of it. 461 00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:35,000 But if not, you'll see the value soon. 462 00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:39,000 Because now you're aware of its existence and its value. 463 00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:42,000 And you'll look out for it more often. 464 00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:46,000 You may have even caught me while I was doing all this stuff. 465 00:49:46,000 --> 00:49:56,000 But I also want to say that it's another marketing strategy to say, are you getting this? 466 00:49:56,000 --> 00:49:59,000 Do you see what I'm saying? 467 00:49:59,000 --> 00:50:02,000 And things like that where the audience always tries to say yes. 468 00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:04,000 And I learned this from Russell Brunson. 469 00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:15,000 He said that in your kind of sales, in your webinar or your event, whenever you're speaking to someone, 470 00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:20,000 you always ask questions where they say yes, like a quick nod in the head. 471 00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:24,000 So if you're in a one-on-one conversation with a friend and you're talking, 472 00:50:24,000 --> 00:50:26,000 and then you randomly say, are you getting this? 473 00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:29,000 And then they nod their head and you keep going. 474 00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:33,000 And then after a little bit, you're like, are you getting this? Do you see the value in this? 475 00:50:33,000 --> 00:50:35,000 And then they're like, yeah, yeah, yeah. 476 00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:36,000 And they keep nodding their head. 477 00:50:36,000 --> 00:50:40,000 They realize a lot more. 478 00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:42,000 That was wrong. 479 00:50:42,000 --> 00:50:47,000 There are a lot more open to your ideas. 480 00:50:47,000 --> 00:51:00,000 And the story he shared is he was at an event where he was trying to learn from the greats on how to do in-person sales. 481 00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:05,000 Like, doing a... I'm kind of blanking on it. 482 00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:11,000 But basically standing in front of an audience and giving your presentation and making sales. 483 00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:15,000 And so he was at one of those and learning from one of the greats at the time. 484 00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:24,000 I don't remember his name, but he was learning from someone and he watched him close like half the audience or some crazy number. 485 00:51:24,000 --> 00:51:29,000 And so he went over and asked him, and I'm pretty sure he was his mentor at the time. 486 00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:33,000 So he went over and asked him, like, try to get him to teach him what happened. 487 00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:36,000 And then so they went and sat down in a coffee shop. 488 00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:43,000 And he used that strategy on Russell, but Russell didn't realize it. 489 00:51:43,000 --> 00:51:47,000 And so the mentor was basically saying, are you getting this? 490 00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,000 And then Russell was nodding his head. 491 00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:55,000 And then he kept on saying, he probably asked him 20 questions of a quick nod. 492 00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:56,000 So are you getting this? 493 00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:57,000 Do you see the value of this? 494 00:51:57,000 --> 00:51:59,000 20 times. 495 00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:10,000 And so during that conversation at the end, the mentor like stopped Russell and Russell was shaking his head the whole time. 496 00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:12,000 He was nodding his head the whole time. 497 00:52:12,000 --> 00:52:17,000 And the mentor like stopped Russell and said, do you see your head right now? 498 00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:19,000 And even at that moment, Russell was still nodding. 499 00:52:19,000 --> 00:52:21,000 And he was like, yeah. 500 00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:26,000 And then he finally, Russell finally woke up and was present basically. 501 00:52:26,000 --> 00:52:32,000 And he realized that he was nodding the entire conversation after the mentor brought it to his attention. 502 00:52:32,000 --> 00:52:39,000 And then that gave Russell the epiphany that that is one of the most valuable things to always ask. 503 00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:42,000 I think they're called closing questions. 504 00:52:42,000 --> 00:52:45,000 Maybe they're maybe they're, I'm not sure. 505 00:52:45,000 --> 00:52:48,000 Always ask those questions throughout your presentation. 506 00:52:48,000 --> 00:52:49,000 Always say, are you getting this? 507 00:52:49,000 --> 00:52:51,000 Do you see the value of this? 508 00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:54,000 Can you see how this could work out for you and all that stuff? 509 00:52:54,000 --> 00:52:56,000 Are you listening? 510 00:52:56,000 --> 00:52:57,000 Yeah. 511 00:52:57,000 --> 00:53:06,000 So that's one of the, that's another very valuable thing that I remember that kind of connects to the three yes question because Russell was kind of asleep. 512 00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:11,000 He was basically asleep the whole time in the conversation because he was just nodding away. 513 00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:14,000 He was just nodding his head constantly. 514 00:53:14,000 --> 00:53:38,000 And then it wasn't until the mentor brought it to his attention when Russell finally woke up and realized the, like the strength of that tactic of getting someone to say yes multiple times. 515 00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:53,000 So unfortunately today I will not be able to study expert secrets because we won't today we went to the park and then we went straight to the gym afterwards and we were there for a decent amount of time. 516 00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:56,000 So I got home past two 30. 517 00:53:56,000 --> 00:54:01,000 It was probably like three to three 15 when I got home. 518 00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:09,000 So right now it's four 14 so I won't be able to study. 519 00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:11,000 But that's okay. 520 00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:15,000 And tomorrow I'm not sure if I will. 521 00:54:15,000 --> 00:54:24,000 I don't know I'll figure out because my I learned the other day that you should take rest days in your studies. 522 00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:35,000 But I'm also kind of addicted to studying, but I also want to stay efficient and optimal so I don't know if I should take all the way to all tomorrow is a rest day from studying. 523 00:54:35,000 --> 00:54:38,000 I don't know I'll figure it out. 524 00:54:38,000 --> 00:54:43,000 I should have just taken today as a rest day because I would have had a lot more time. 525 00:54:43,000 --> 00:54:44,000 It's fine. 526 00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:46,000 I'll figure it out. 527 00:54:46,000 --> 00:54:51,000 I probably won't even end up taking a rest day. 528 00:54:51,000 --> 00:55:00,000 But there's a lot of value in the words that I spoke in this episode. 529 00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:16,000 It's my life has gotten a lot better and I've gotten a lot more influence in the world once I started taking action and talking to random girls at the mall and asking for their numbers because action dissipates potential. 530 00:55:16,000 --> 00:55:33,000 And potential is excess potential is what is created when you basically idolize someone or obsess or basically whatever tick tock and social media molds your brain to do. 531 00:55:33,000 --> 00:55:46,000 And that's why I'm so grateful that I got off of social media when I did because that's of mold your brain. 532 00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:57,000 Even if it's not explicit, you see a lot of things that you shouldn't be seeing and you wouldn't have seen otherwise. 533 00:55:57,000 --> 00:56:11,000 And it's just very damaging for the brain. Everyone says it. But now that I'm like taking action and dissipating all of that potential that I created while I was on tick tock and Instagram and all that stuff. 534 00:56:11,000 --> 00:56:19,000 Now that I'm taking action and getting rid of all of that stuff from my brain, I realized just how dangerous it is. 535 00:56:19,000 --> 00:56:27,000 And most people are going to hear these words that I'm saying and they're just not going to do anything about it. 536 00:56:27,000 --> 00:56:40,000 And those people are just going to go on with their life and still stay the victim of their lives and they're just not going to really get what they want from life. 537 00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:44,000 But it's the people who take action. 538 00:56:44,000 --> 00:56:50,000 If you could have learned all this stuff and never took an action, I wouldn't be where I'm at right now and I will not. 539 00:56:50,000 --> 00:56:56,000 I certainly won't be at where I'm going to be in one month from now, one year from now, 10 years from now. 540 00:56:56,000 --> 00:57:01,000 But it's just action. You can learn all the stuff you want. 541 00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:08,000 And to be honest, you're a lot less likely to take action on the content you learned from a podcast than reading a book. 542 00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:12,000 That's why I always recommend reading a book even if you're not going to take action. 543 00:57:12,000 --> 00:57:21,000 Most of the books that I read, I wasn't planning on taking action, but it molded my subconscious to take action. 544 00:57:21,000 --> 00:57:25,000 So that's the value. If you hear something, you forget it. 545 00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:29,000 If you see something, you remember it. And if you do something, you understand it. 546 00:57:29,000 --> 00:57:38,000 So I heard a long time ago that phones were dangerous and social media was harmful for the kids, minds and all that. 547 00:57:38,000 --> 00:57:40,000 I forgot about it. 548 00:57:40,000 --> 00:57:48,000 Once I read about it, I started, I remembered it and then I made, I took action towards changing it. 549 00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:57,000 And then it wasn't until I actually changed it and then like even a couple months after I changed it, then I realized just how harmful it was. 550 00:57:57,000 --> 00:58:03,000 And I actually understood, I started to understand how bad it is for you. 551 00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:13,000 So that's a huge advantage over under, understanding is a huge advantage over just knowing or remembering. 552 00:58:13,000 --> 00:58:17,000 Because if you can explain something to someone, then you understand it. 553 00:58:17,000 --> 00:58:21,000 You don't understand it unless you're able to explain something to someone. 554 00:58:21,000 --> 00:58:32,000 So I hope that I was able to help you guys understand a little bit more and learn a little bit more about the dangers of social media and all this stuff. 555 00:58:32,000 --> 00:58:40,000 Through all the stories that I'm telling you, because I'm learning that story is the best way to teach. 556 00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:45,000 Because there's all these stories that I'm telling you guys from that I learned in my books. 557 00:58:45,000 --> 00:58:53,000 I remember those stories. People remember stories way more common than just words. 558 00:58:53,000 --> 00:58:58,000 Like I remember stories way more than facts, way more than phrases. 559 00:58:58,000 --> 00:59:05,000 And that's just everyone. That's why stories are the most valuable teaching tool. 560 00:59:05,000 --> 00:59:10,000 And that's also one of the most valuable marketing tools, also, story. 561 00:59:10,000 --> 00:59:14,000 And it's a specific type of story. It's an epiphany bridge story. 562 00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:19,000 It's basically where you get someone to feel the emotion. 563 00:59:19,000 --> 00:59:24,000 You tell them the emotion you felt when you first learned of that new opportunity. 564 00:59:24,000 --> 00:59:30,000 So that's why I spent so long. That's why I spent a lot of time giving you guys a pre-frame, 565 00:59:30,000 --> 00:59:37,000 which is basically preparing your mind and giving you guys context to be able to learn the actual story. 566 00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:43,000 So that's why I told you about, in the beginning of this episode, how I was reading, how to influence others, 567 00:59:43,000 --> 00:59:46,000 expert secrets, and then I was also reading Transfer Phoenix. 568 00:59:46,000 --> 00:59:52,000 I actually brought you through all the different times that I read the 3S method. 569 00:59:52,000 --> 00:59:55,000 And what I was thinking at the time, how I just dismissed it. 570 00:59:55,000 --> 01:00:02,000 And I really brought you through, and I wanted you guys to feel the epiphany to where I didn't understand it right away, 571 01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:06,000 but then it wasn't until I connected all these different dots. 572 01:00:06,000 --> 01:00:10,000 So that's, you're not going to understand everything right away. 573 01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:15,000 That's something that I even have to remind myself, even every day. 574 01:00:15,000 --> 01:00:20,000 Because I always beat myself up because I'm not remembering, I'm not understanding the words that I read right away. 575 01:00:20,000 --> 01:00:23,000 It's not until one, two, three, four, ten days. 576 01:00:23,000 --> 01:00:30,000 I don't know. It's just however much day is after you read it, until it actually has time to form in your brain 577 01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:33,000 and connect with all the other things. 578 01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:38,000 So I hope you guys got a lot out of this episode. 579 01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:40,000 This was probably one of my better episodes. 580 01:00:40,000 --> 01:00:45,000 I'm very glad that I have this opportunity to teach you guys. 581 01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:54,000 To wrap things up, don't forget to download your favorite episodes and subscribe to the Ascend Momentum show. 582 01:00:54,000 --> 01:01:19,000 But before you guys leave, make sure to remember the Eagles.